When did you start to feel like a bride?

I'm ten months from my wedding and I still don't feel "like a bride"


I don't get all excited picking out flowers or looking for my gown..in fact b/c I'm having such a hard time finding a gown that fits me and is flattering I get depressed searching for a gown.





What does it feel "like to feel like a bride?" Like the people at the bridal shops say....





What can I do to feel like a bride or will I ever feel that way?





I know I definitely want to marry my fiance so its not that...I think its more not being able to find a gown or anything "wedding" that I like....

When did you start to feel like a bride?
I don't know that I ever did (and I am married now!) I don't even feel like a 'wife'! When me and my hubby started dating it was pretty 'full-on' I guess... we pretty much lived in each others pockets. And now we still do... nothing seems to have changed much... except my last name! (We were married 3 months ago and we have been together now for over 4 years... I am still waiting for that 'wife' feeling to sink in)





As far as feeling like a 'bride' I guess the closest I got to that was when I chose my wedding dress and the actual day itself... But I never really felt much different than normal.





Maybe you are trying to read too much into this? You are still you and you are still just you when you make the commitment to your partner... I think you just need to realise that no matter what happens, or what you wear, your htb will love you anyway and will still marry you on that day... and that will make you a bride... and everyone else will know it!
Reply:The day of your wedding is the only time you need to feel like a bride.





All the trimmings and extra frills that one plans in a wedding and reception don't create the bride.





It's the love you have for one another and exchange of vows during a marriage contract that promises to love one another forever that makes one a bride.





If you haven't found the dress you like, by the way, consider having one made for you. Find a good seemstress and talk to her.
Reply:I started to feel like a bride the moment he proposed, and soon after when I started looking at wedding dresses with my sister/MOH. It's different for everyone. Have you started checking out venue, vendors, color schemes, decorations, cake, and flowers? That might distract you from the gown search. Don't worry so much about the feeling. You ARE a bride, but more importantly you are YOU. I think too many women start defining themselves as brides, and after the wedding they experience some lows. Don't define yourself by something temporary.
Reply:I don't feel like a bride yet, I still feel like just the girlfriend. I guess it's because we still have a couple years until the wedding (I believe in planning WAY ahead :D!) and the fact that his family still treats me like I'm the "dime a dozen" girlfriend. But I know it will come as the wedding date gets closer.





And about the dress, I've been planning for a year and I still don't know what dress I want. My mother has made a lot of suggestions, and just about everyone else has too, but I still don't really like any of the dresses. But I'll keep looking because I know that dress is out there!
Reply:When I started walking down the aisle and everyone was looking @ me. I got really emotional and nervous because I realized then that the moment that I had been planning for for so long was finally here!!


Take time to find the perfect gown for yourself. Once you feel great about how you will look, everything will flow quite nicely. I wasn't able to begin to plan the style of my wedding until I found my gown, since it's what will mostly determine the style and formality of your wedding. Congrats and happy searching!!
Reply:I'm 9.5 weeks from my wedding and I still don't feel like a "bride". I doubt I will until the day of when I put on the silly shirt my girlfirends got me that says "sexy little bride" LOL - hate them!! :-)


But seriously, for us, I went straight to wife when my then boyfriend was injured and had to have surgery and needed to depend solely on me during his recovery. After that scare, it was straight to both of us saying we really should get married now.
Reply:I still don't. I'm happy to get married but I found the entire process more annoying than joyful. I planned my wedding %26amp; canceled it. We're going to Maui instead. It was overwhelming %26amp; I wasn't into it. I agree with you about the dresses. I didn't like anything I tried on. I bought my dress already but I'm not overly thrilled with it. Maybe I'll feel like a bride when I'm walking towards him, I don't know. A lot of girls grow up dreaming about this moment %26amp; I was never like that. Maybe that's why.
Reply:Don't worry so much remember that the wedding is just the first of many days of the marriage which is actually more important.





Once you start to pull the plans together, I bet the anticipation will start to build and you'll be more excited. Best to you!
Reply:I don't know what it feels like to be a bride but I think I won't feel it until I wake up the morning of my wedding and start getting ready for it... I'm a total DIY bride so it's just a bit of research and work at the moment...
Reply:I felt like a bride from the day he asked me to marry him, I think the stress of finding a dress is what is making you feel that way, I am sure once you find a dress you feel better! good luck and Congrats! I hope you find what you are looking for
Reply:Once you find "the gown" you will feel the part. Get crazy next time and try one ones you don't think you will like. It will happen and you will be fine.
Reply:My wedding is in 90 days and I still don't feel like a bride.


From all of the stress of planning, and deciding, this and that. It's hard to get excited.
Reply:I think it didnt hit me until the actual moment I was walking down the isle. I was so ready for it, I didnt stress or worry... I knew I found the man I loved and no matter what, after that day we would spend our lives together.
Reply:When we got the dress - once we even started trying on dresses, I felt like a bride.





After that, probably after everything went together and it was a week or so before the wedding.
Reply:You will definitely feel like one once you find your perfect dress! Trust me :) That's when I officially felt like a bride-to-be...best of luck!!
Reply:For me, it really was when I put on THE wedding gown with the veil - and that was the moment!
Reply:When I picked up my dress from the shop! I put it on and it fit! I can't wait!
Reply:My advice is to definitely not be afraid to try anything on!! Go into each salon with an open mind. If you had the fantasy "Cinderella dress" planned since you were 2, try on a slightly more narrow silhouette and it may be the one. Im in process of finding my dress too, and I have already been to my fair share of boutiques and nothing has clicked yet. However, the rule that I picked up along the way is to keep an open mind about all dresses, not saying the dress isn't important, but take the pressure down a notch, and then youll be able to relax and find the dress.





I hope this helps... just breathe and youll find the dress and be the beautiful bride that everyone talks about!!
Reply:Even in a tshirt and jeans, the moment I truly felt like a bride was when i tried on the veil. To me, the veil was more important than the dress. It had to be perfect, because I already have the perfect dress to suit me, and I wanted the perfect veil to compliment it. It's kind of hard to get into it... Especially for me, my wedding is in August, but my fiance lives 2500 miles from me. I just saw him this past week and it didn't feel any different.... It will come though. I'm on a pretty tight budget with this, and I knew that if I wanted to be completely satisfied, nothing else mattered for some reason than finding the veil that I completely loved. That is the important part to me for some reason, and I paid $75 for it. A lot of money to me right now, but SO worth it when I walk down the aisle!! Have fun with it, and don't stress too much. I've been really stressed lately, but the little details didn't matter anymore once I was with him again. I was never one of those people that had my wedding planned when I was 5. I just know now that all the money people spend on weddings isn't worth it... The frills of weddings don't bring joy and happiness to the day, the couple does. I already know it's going to be a great wedding and reception because of the love we share with each other and everyone attending. Think about all of that, and the life you'll have with the man you chose, and the one who chose you. You could probably wear a sheet as a dress and he would still not be able to take his eyes off of you. Good luck!