Children at my wedding?

I Love the idea of having children at my wedding. The problem is every-one My whole bridal party and parents and feonce' say its a bad idea and we shouldnt have children at the wedding. I am just so confussed because alot of people are comming from out of town and they have kids...what are they supost to do with there kids while at the wedding? plus what about my ring boys and flower girl. there children what iam i supost to do with them afterwords. The hall where i am having my wedding is really awesome because it has three rooms i was planning on getting someone to take the kids into one of the rooms with toys and and they could all play. but no one thinks this is a good idea. what should i do/ do you think kids at a wedding is an okay idea. there is going to be no booze at all.

Children at my wedding?
I think children at a wedding are a must! My daughter is getting married next August and we are having a "Candy Buffet" just for them! As well as a special menu for them to choose from for their dinner, and a coloring book %26amp; crayons that will come with it to help keep them occupied while thier parents are eating. Sort of like a happy meal. I say keep the kids, kick the grownups!
Reply:Its your wedding, you make the decisions.
Reply:You need to compromise with your FIANCE, and ignore the other naysayers.





My fiance and I are allowing kids at our wedding as we feel a wedding is a family thing.





However your fiance does not feel that way for whatever reason, so you need to talk to him and compromise somehow.
Reply:The wedding day is about what the bride wants. People may prefer that no children be there, but I'm sure parent prefer their children be with them at the wedding.





Just explain to those that don't want the children: "They are coming. End of discussion."





Children dancing at the reception is very entertaining. Don't cheat yourself out of that fun experience!





Have a good time!
Reply:It's something to decide between you and your fiance. I work as a children's entertainer and have done weddings. Usually it goes fine. After the kids have eaten the entertainer usually takes them into a different room and they are fine - really. If that does not work you could try to hire a "babysitter" to stay with the kids after the ceremony, something like if it's in a hotel rent a suite and put them all up there to watch a movie, a bed so they can sleep if they want to, kinda like daycare.





I've never seen kids be a problem at weddings I worked, attended or at my own.





Congratulations.
Reply:Geez, it's your wedding - DO WHAT YOU WANT.





I personally agree with you. A wedding is a time for families to celebrate and kids are just as much a part of the family as any one!
Reply:You are one of the rare ones it seems. I find nothing wrong with what you're doing especially since you plan on having a separate room for the kids. After the wedding I attended last weekend, I'm almost tempted to come right out and say no kids. They were absolute monsters at the ceremony - although I suppose the parents were as much to blame as anyone since they didn't even take the children out of the room when they wouldn't quiet down.
Reply:I didn't allow kids at my wedding during the ceremony or dinner portion. Basically how we did it, kids not in the ceremony went immediately to the babysitting room where we had games, videos, etc. for their entertainment. We also had two babysitters. The kids in the wedding (Flower Girl, etc.) went into the babysitting room immediately after the ceremony. This was nice because the kids were able to eat dinner during the cocktail hour since they are usually hungry earlier, the parents had some good quality adult time, and I didn't have a heard of kids running, screaming, crying, etc. during dinner. Once the dancing started we brought them down to join the party, so they could haver fun too, but this way I thought everyone won.
Reply:Children are a part of families, so of course they should be at weddings! Weddings celebrate the joining of two families, and that includes kids being there to witness the vows, and celebrate with everyone else!


You don't have to plan anything special at all for the kids - and the idea of separating them in a room is just awful. On the whole, parents take totally good care of their kids during a wedding, and the kids get together and just do what kids do!


At my nephew's wedding, kids got a big ziplock bag at the guest book table - it had a small (maybe eight inch) care bear in it, some coloring pages, some crayons, some stickers, activity pages and a pencil, etc. - thought that was a great idea!
Reply:u should have kids cuz if you dont invite the kids the guest will not really want to come or they have 2 take care of their children so they cant come and if you want people 2 show u shouls invite kids
Reply:Dont listen to your family. They dont know what theyre talking about. I helped a friend once by watching the kids in the other room. They had toys, they had food, and occasionally their parents came in to say hi, and the kids had a great time! Your idea is good. And you are the perfect host to provide for not only the adults but the kids, too. Many parents will appreciate that. Stick to your guns!
Reply:you are the bride and the entire thing is all about you. even the groom is superfluous! if you want kids there, invite those families. like you said, if people are coming from out of town with their kids, they gotta bring em! It's a celebration and the reception area sounds conducive to having kids there so do it and F what everyone else says.
Reply:I agree with you. I think that the decision to bring children should be up to the parents. It's not the kids that cause problems - it's the drunk best man who moons the bridesmaids. most parents know whether their kids can behave properly at a wedding or reception. I also think it's a great idea for you to have someone there to entertain the kids! That way, they won't get bored and they won't get into trouble.





My fiance and I have several friends with young children; we're inviting the whole family in each case. However, we expect many of our friends to hire sitters anyway. As for the out-of-town guests....things will be much easier on them if they can bring the kids. Finding an overnight sitter isn't always easy. I really think that many in-town parents will leave the kids at home, and that you won't have anything to worry about. Toddlers need close supervision (obviously); anyone over 8 should be fine.
Reply:I had no problems with children at our wedding. And, they were fun to watch on the dance floor! Some guests decided not to bring their kids (they knew they would be ornery), but we had many families there and no troubles. Our ceremony was short (20 minutes) so there wasn't much time to get bored, but I saw at least one dad walking around with his baby outside of the seating area during the ceremony to calm his little one down. We did not have a "nursery" room at the reception, but we provided a kids' table with puzzles and coloring books the kids could keep as well as teething type toys for the babies. This kept them pretty well entertained before the food and dancing began and I think the parents were thankful. I think you will be just fine inviting kids, and I love the nursery room idea (I can't believe no one you know likes it!) but you should definitely discuss this with your fiance and be prepared for the surprises that kids tend to bring! Good luck!
Reply:I'll give you credit for even wanting children at your wedding. I'm planning my wedding now, and I made the decision long ago that we would have no children. The only main reason is due to cost. We are going on a dinner cruise and I can only have 120 people. If our guests were to bring there kids, that would count for 62 of our guests. This would then in turn mean I would have to cut my guests list. So to solve this I asked for a non child event. How I see it is this gives parents and others to have a very nice romantic evening together before returning to the real world!





But if you and your soon-to-be hubby like the idea of having children, then I think you should go for it. As long as you enjoy your day, do whatever your heart wants! Congrats and have a wonderful time!
Reply:You need to discuss this with your fiancé. While, yes, it's typically the bride's big day, don't forget that this is the man you're marrying, and it's HIS big day too. If you explain to him how you feel, and let him know that this is important to you, he should be willing to let you invite children.





I personally wouldn't want children at a wedding, many parents look as weddings as big events that give them an excuse to get out of the house, and leave the kids at home. If you invite children, you are adding a layer of guilt to the parents who may not have wanted to bring their kids, but will feel bad if they dont. That's just my impression.
Reply:The only children that will be at my wedding are our nieces and nephews. Any other people's children are not invited.
Reply:This is your day do it the way you like. Well I don't think it's fair for everyone to put this much on you. These guests that are coming from out of town are they friends or relatives? If they are only friends I suggest sending the invitations directly to Mr. %26amp; Mrs. don't include and family. This gives them an idea that no kids will be attending your wedding, just keep in mind they may not show up either. But if you really have your heart set on having kids at your wedding explain this to everyone else. For what it worth we hope this will be the first and last marriage you have. These people must not have kids and what is the big issue if there is not alcohol. GOOD LUCK. The color books and other ideas are great.
Reply:I think thats a great idea. Kids have a wonderful way of lightening things up. All of my friends and family are invited to bring there children. The hall we are using is only one room but we are still going to have a kids table where they can color and play. I am also going to try a designate someone not in the wedding party or family to sit with them and make sure nobody gets into anything. Do what you want, it is after all your wedding!
Reply:Hi and congratulations!





I LOVE FAMILIES! (I come from a big family), so, YES, I like your idea of having and involving kids in your wedding and reception celebration.





You are already on the right track as far as the banquet rooms. Are the rooms connected? Even better.





~ My ideas:


~ Depending on how many kids you think will be there....hire enough babysitters. Call up the local high school to get referrals if you need to.





~ COVER the table with a white PAPER tablecloth (that way if the kids are coloring and it gets on the tablecloth....no big deal!





~ Set out coloring books, and a bucket (or 2?) of crayons.





~ You could possibly have little crafts that the "sitters" could do with the kids.





~ If they are half talented (the sitters), they could even do face painting!





~ Maybe bring in a TV and DVD player.





~ Get some legos or block....all kids love those.





Great idea to involve the kids. I don't know if you are doing "favors" at all for your guests, but maybe you could think of something special for the kids....kids are happy with dollar toys ...and make up their own "favor."





Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
Reply:you do as you wish - no children will be too formal - my youngest daughter had her wedding on Halloween and it was wonderful - all the children dressed up it was great
Reply:That sounds great! Go for it! I know alot of people will appreciate it since they're coming from out of town with their kids - they won't have to find babysitters that are literally strangers!
Reply:I think you and your fiance should sit down and discuss this. Everyone else is inconsequential to the decision making. I used to be very against kids at weddings because they cry and fidget and get bored easily. However, as I've gotten older there are a lot of children that I'm close to and it would feel weird to not have them present. After talking to him, if you decided to invite them just talk to the parents involved. Some of them won't even bring them regardless of the invitation because they want the night out alone. Those that do may want to be with their kids most of the night at the same table so you can make the other room available but be prepared for them to remain with the adults the entire evening.
Reply:We had guests telling us (before we were married) we shouldn't have kids at our wedding, that it's a place for grown ups to have fun without having to check on kids. I always went to weddings as a kid and did not understand their point. My husband wanted no kids at the wedding, but had never been to a wedding as a child himself. In the end, I won: my husband and I have two kids, and they were 3 and 4 at the time of the wedding. I wanted them to be a part of the whole day. If my kids are there, my nephews have to come, and my cousins' kids can come too.





Think of it this way: would you have a family gathering at Christmas without the kids? Are they really going to be more trouble because it's a wedding? Kids are people, they are a part of your family.





And to those who do not agree, tell them it's your wedding, not theirs, and you would never dare question their decisions regarding their own wedding.
Reply:This is your wedding don't let anybody tell you how to run it. I personally think its more of an inconvenience for people not to bring their kids. Weddings are a celebration of family, its only natural to bring kids. I think a seperate room for the kids is a great idea.. go to the dollar store and pick up a bunch of coloring books and crayons and pencils and let them go at it. If somebody got tech savvy they could hook up a tv and dvd player and pop in a disney movie. Kids will most likely end up dancing to the music anyway. Have the kids at your wedding, you won't regret it.
Reply:If there are different rooms then I would set one room up as a playroom and if you have any mature teenaged children of your friends, arrange for some of them (depending on how many young ones there will be) to look after them. Have games and toys and movies so they're occupied. Let them come out and dance and whatnot, but this way, parents will also have somewhere to take their kids if they start acting up and also babysitters there to watch the kids while the parents want to dance and socialize.
Reply:I think that you've got a great idea!!!


You've thought it out. You are being considerate of the families that have to travel from out of town.


Best of all, you have a way to squirrel the kids away so the adults can party in one space without kids running all over.


I think its fabulous and you should go with it.


Tell the nay-sayers to "Stuff it"
Reply:Congratulations on your wedding I think you have a great idea hire someone to watch the kids for that special night!!!
Reply:You shouldn't give a hoot what the parents and the bridal party think....unless they are the ones paying the tab in which case yeah they have a choice about if they are going to pay for kids.








However you should DEFINATELY care what you fiancee thinks. It's "your wedding" in the sense that it belongs to both of you...not just the bride. Sit and talk with him about why he doesn't want kids there and together reach a decision. Maybe he allows the kids, maybe you compromise and set up another location for them, maybe you don't have them at all. Ultimately that is only something you two can decide together. leave the other people out of it unless they are paying the tab.





I'm sorry honey but despite what previous posters have decided to spew at you this is not an instance where you can ride roughshod over the groom and declare "my way or the highway because I'm the bride!"
Reply:Your ideas for the kids sounds wonderful! I do a lot of weddings, very very few have no children at all. They would be the evening formal weddings, where if you were invited you would want to have a sitter at home anyway to make it a great evening.


Children and weddings are like bread and butter, they just go together. Your ideas allow families to enjoy your wedding and reception with style. I wish all my brides had your view on kids. Blessings, Chaplain Debby
Reply:The flower girl and ring bearer are in the wedding so they belong at the reception. Other children don't. People know when they come to a wedding that they should find a baby-sitter. Your family knows what I know, that kids distract from the day and always misbehave, cry and cause their parents to leave early.

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