Bridezilla?

Okay I really don't feel that I am asking for too much from people but what do you think because everytime I talk about anything people say do you really have to have that and I am talking about things like favors and they suggested the groomsmen just wear mismatched suits that they may have or borrow. They wanted me to let the bridesmaids just go to any store (not a bridal store) and pick out any dress in a specified color (blue) so I would have ended up with all different shades probably (don't worry I didn't allow that to happen).

We agreed that if we all contributed an equal amount we could do this and our parents even pretty much said they would cover most of it. Now they are not helping and my mil to be said no rehearsal dinner and she thinks that since she bought her own dress that is contributing.

Then she actually had the nerve to act like we haven't spent anything saying,"what have you bought, just the flowers"

we have paid everything so far except bridesmaid dresses

Bridezilla?
You are in no way bridezilla. My mother in law tried to convince me that all the bridesmaids should be in different colours or the same basic colour but different shades. The thing is bridesmaids are supposed to be in the same dress so you have that right the groom is supposed to wear, for example blue cravat/tie and silver waistcoat and the best man is supposed to wear the opposite silver cravat/tie and blue waistcoat. You have been through the mill but this should mean that you will have an amazing day don't let it beat you now. Have the wedding and believe me you will see what all the hassle was for, it will be worth it (as I'm hoping mine will be too in two weeks time). We do all the work because we care, and it is NEVER too much to ask because it is our day and it is meant to be right. Don't ever feel like you should have to work to what other people want. I really hope you work this out and have a wonderful day to dream of for the rest of your life. Good Luck!
Reply:OMG I feel so sorry for you. You are a strong person and nowhere near a BRIDEZILLA. I would have just canceled but hey why give them the satisfaction. Maybe you could take out a loan at a bank to help you with the cost (being everyone backed out on you) or get a second job for a short time. When is the wedding? I'm glad you stood up to everyone about the colors etc... Also the groomsmen could rent their outfits if you go to the same store they can give you a discount. Ask for discounts from all of your venues they usually work with you. I know my helpers did.

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ohh and you could also take the ones who can't afford to pay their way out... and have the girl they were to walk with play another part in the wedding... A poem reader, greeter, escort or anything make something up who cares it's your day.
Reply:typicaly the bridesmaid and groomsmen buy and rent there own attire.... but umm whats your question?
Reply:I'm getting married in 1 1/2 weeks. My bridesmaids all bought their own dresses, and the groomsmen paid for their own tuxedos. My fiance's parents are passed away, but my mom %26amp; dad are paying for their own clothing too. I don't think it's too much to ask for help paying for things (especially if they said they would help.) As for the rehersal dinner, see if someone else in the family could cook up something easy. We are having "cheaters lasgana" which is kinda like cavatelli but my cousin is cooking them for us and making garlic bread. Cheap but yummy! You aren't being a bridezilla and I'm sure it's stressful. Try to ignore people who are complaining about everything. It is you and your fiance's day, not the families. Do what you want! Good luck and sorry it's not going so well at the moment.
Reply:Well, I don't really know for sure if you are a true BRIDEZILLA, on the other hand, if you feel that the "corsage" fits, then wear it. LOL



Sometimes, to be honest, a bit of tact and diplomacy goes a long way, my dear, especially with regard to emotional occasions such as weddings. Keep the peace with mother-in-law-to-be. As for who pays what and for what, I would not sweat it, you can always send the remaining bills to Donald Trump. :-) Congrats as to the upcoming nuptials.
Reply::( Oh, I am SO sorry. Planning a wedding, although stressful, can be such a fun and exciting time and it sounds like you are surrounded by party tarps. Try to do what makes you happy it is YOUR day.



Good Luck and Happy Planning!
Reply:I don't think you are a bridezilla at all. I'd rather have planned a wedding with you then my own SOON to be daughter-in-law who wanted an all tie-dyed wedding party. Her mother told her NO tie dyed dresses. Now on the tables she is actually having live Betta fish in containers so guests can take them home. I've just decided to go with the flow of things, but I've never been to a wedding where there wasn't an argument or disagreement. Or freaking fish before---Oh well theres a first time for everything.

I wish you and your future husband the best.
Reply:Obviously you guys are on your own - throwing a wedding so you can invite a bunch a people that really don't seem to care.



At this point, I'd just about say forget it and use the money for an amazing destination wedding - and email them the photos.



There!
Reply:From what you described it doesn't sound as if you've gone Bridezilla. I can understand wanting things to look uniform and elegant, and favors aren't bad unless they're expensive. I myself opted out of favors, and am having a candy buffet--something that even my littlest guests will enjoy. You could always check out affordable, local tux rental places and compare rates. That way, no matter who shoulders the cost, it won't break the bank.
Reply:This is precisely the reason I don't want bridesmaids and all that stuff. It's just too much stress.

I say leave out the whole bridesmaids/groomsmen thing and the rehearsal dinner (why is that really necessary??), and use that money on your honeymoon.
Reply:Good luck hun



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Reply:Wow 1st thing I am really sorry about all that, planning a wedding is pretty stressful, and there is no way you are being a bridezilla you aren't asking for that much. You shouldn't have to deal with people questioning what you have paid for. You should do what will make you happy. Personally I wouldn't go out of my way for anyone that causes that much stress.



I hope it all works out for you.