If you and your FI are paying for the wedding rehersal dinner?

Who do you pay for? The bridal party only, or everyone that comes?

So far there are 12 people in our bridal party, not including us. And i figured it is normal to have your parents and in my case my parents are both remarried so they will bring their spouses, then his mom, and my grandparents. he doesnt have any grandparents. Do i pay for all these people as well as the bridal party and there significant others, or in the case of the ring bearer and the flower girl, do i pay for both parents if they are not in the bridal party?

Please help i dont know how this is supposed to work. What would be the proper ettiquette, and how do you word the invite??

Oh and one more thing, when do you start look for a place to hold her Rehersal dinner?

If you and your FI are paying for the wedding rehersal dinner?
Hi and congratulations!



Yes, you pay for everyone that is invited to the rehearsal dinner. You have it exactly right of who is to be invited:



~ Everyone involved IN the wedding (bridesmaids and groomsmen) AND their spouse or significant other. If they are single, you don't have to have them bring a date, unless you want them to.



~ Flower girl and ring bearer and their parents.



~ Parents on both sides.



Since you are paying, it is up to you if you want to include your grandparents. Some do....some don't.



If you are getting married in a church, it is a nice courtesy to extend an invitation to the minister and his wife. Sometimes they come, sometimes they don't. This, however, IS NOT mandatory.



It is also not mandatory to include out of town family, unless you want to.



As far as an invitation. For my son's wedding, I just printed something up on very nice stationary (available at Target, Michael's, Walmart, etc.)



Please join us at the rehearsal dinner to honor

Pamela Ann Johnson

and

Brian Thomas Smith

on Friday evening, October 10th

Six o'clock in the evening



Huron Mountain Golf Course

111 Seventh Street



You can make up fancier ones if you want. It's up to you!



Good luck.
Reply:You pay for the whole shot, dinner and drinks.

Yes, that includes spouses of married attendants, and the parents of the ring bearer and flower girl.
Reply:You would pay for everyone at the rehersal dinner. It is proper to invite the bridal party, close family, and anyone from out of town that flew in for the wedding.
Reply:you have to pay for everyone you invite. you cant just invite people to a rehersal dinner and make them pay for themselves, even if they arent in the wedding. keep the number of people you invite to a minimum if cost is an issue. depending on how many people you plan to have, I would start looking at least a month or so in advance...probably sooner.
Reply:EVERYONE- try to find a place that serves family style and is BYOB to keep the cost down. Also you establish a set menu that you can afford- don't just let people order anything they want. You have total control of the menu so you can feed them what you can afford. Also you can have it at your house or someone else house if you can't afford a restaurant.
Reply:You should pay for everyone invited to the rehearsal dinner. This includes the bridal party and your immediate families. You can include dates for the bridal party, but it's not required. I would also include the parents of the flower girl %26amp; ring bearer.
Reply:We're including our bridal party, their significant others, the pastor and his wife, parents and grandparents. We wanted to include out-of-towners but we already invited 30 people for the rehearsal and decided that it would be too many.



According to one of my checklists, you're supposed to start looking for a place about 4-5 months before your wedding date.
Reply:You would have to pay for everyone invited. Also you really dont need to send invites, it's more of a word of mouth invitation for the rehersal dinner. You can start looking as early as you want, but it shouldnt be too hard to find a place as it will often take place on a weekday.
Reply:My fiance's parents offered to pay for it. I wish now that they didn't because they are inviting all sorts of random friends.
Reply:If you invite someone, you have to pay.



What you can do is, find a place you can afford to feed all these people.



Gently explain that it's only for the bridal party.



Give it yourself. (That is, feed them all, without having it at a commercial establishment.)



Hit your parents up for financial help.



Those are the choices I see.
Reply:First off, it is never too early to look for a place to host your dinner. Most places will take reservations for this important event months in advance.

Secondly, yes edict state you should pay for all invites to the rehearsal dinner, even parents and grandparents. I know it sounds like a lot, but remember, they are there for your rehearsal and might not have otherwise dined out that night. In most cases if the brides parents are paying for the wedding then the father of the groom pays for the rehearsal dinner. If this is not feasible by the FOTG then the bride and groom are responsible for the feast.

Good Luck! :)