In the Friends episode where Rachael and Monica throw Pheobe a bridal shower, Rachael's (Jen Aniston) dress @ the shower is absloutely gorgeous and I want to buy it, or at least something similar. It's black w/ sparkly flower designs and long slits up both sides of the dress.
Does anyone know where I can find it or who designed it or any other details?
Oh, the episode is titled: The One Where The Stripper Cries.
Thanks! :o)
'Friends' wardrobe question...?
google it and maybe you can find a website that sells it
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Friday, January 27, 2012
Attendants gifts?
I got married in April and loved making hand crafted items for my wedding. I am thinking of selling some similar items online. I would appreciate your feedback.
If there was a website that sold small, wooden chests personalized with the names or initials of each member of your bridal party handpainted on the tops, would you be interested in purchasing them? What about wooden plaques with names or images burnt into the wood? Also what would you consider to be a reasonable price?
Would you purchase handmade invitations online? What would you be willing to pay?
Would you mail order custom artificial flower arrangements such as bouquets? What would you pay for these?
I really appreciate any input you can give.
Attendants gifts?
Being a totally non-crafty bride, I would love that. The only thing, there are SOOO many wedding websites, I'm afraid yours might get lost in the shuffle.
Good luck to you.
Reply:The wooden chests, etc.... These are available at the various craft shows that are put on in our area. It's not really "my" kind of thing to buy... unless I was looking for something made locally or by someone I know. That would make it more special than just from some website.
Handmade invitations... probably not. Depends on the price. If it's cheaper than the pros, maybe. But there are tons of sellers on ebay selling them too.
Flowers -tons of people selling on ebay. Almost bought some, but the cost wasn't much less than real ones.
Take a look for these items on ebay. You can watch them to see what they sell for and how many items get sold.
Not to say you couldn't do it, but I think your best venue is to go to local craft shows and use the "locally hand made" angle.
Reply:I would not buy any trinkets for attendant gifts, especially anything with names/initials. I dont like giving people unnecessary knick knacks.
I wouldnt buy handmade invitations because I can make professional-looking ones myself, most likely cheaper. If I buy invitations, I would buy engraved or letterpressed invitations.
I wouldnt buy artificial flower arrangements, although they seem to be somewhat popular on here. You might have luck with that. I just dont see the point in artificial flowers, and Ill always buy the real thing.
Good luck to you.
Reply:I love the small personalized chest idea. I would have to see them to let you know exactly how much I would pay, but I would ball park $20.
Online would be a hard place to start out. Start by trying it out in your town and maybe on e-bay. Then you can get a site going. Good luck!
Reply:Sounds like something I would be interested in. If you do this anytime before April please let me know. We get married in May and I want to have there gifts around the end of April.
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If there was a website that sold small, wooden chests personalized with the names or initials of each member of your bridal party handpainted on the tops, would you be interested in purchasing them? What about wooden plaques with names or images burnt into the wood? Also what would you consider to be a reasonable price?
Would you purchase handmade invitations online? What would you be willing to pay?
Would you mail order custom artificial flower arrangements such as bouquets? What would you pay for these?
I really appreciate any input you can give.
Attendants gifts?
Being a totally non-crafty bride, I would love that. The only thing, there are SOOO many wedding websites, I'm afraid yours might get lost in the shuffle.
Good luck to you.
Reply:The wooden chests, etc.... These are available at the various craft shows that are put on in our area. It's not really "my" kind of thing to buy... unless I was looking for something made locally or by someone I know. That would make it more special than just from some website.
Handmade invitations... probably not. Depends on the price. If it's cheaper than the pros, maybe. But there are tons of sellers on ebay selling them too.
Flowers -tons of people selling on ebay. Almost bought some, but the cost wasn't much less than real ones.
Take a look for these items on ebay. You can watch them to see what they sell for and how many items get sold.
Not to say you couldn't do it, but I think your best venue is to go to local craft shows and use the "locally hand made" angle.
Reply:I would not buy any trinkets for attendant gifts, especially anything with names/initials. I dont like giving people unnecessary knick knacks.
I wouldnt buy handmade invitations because I can make professional-looking ones myself, most likely cheaper. If I buy invitations, I would buy engraved or letterpressed invitations.
I wouldnt buy artificial flower arrangements, although they seem to be somewhat popular on here. You might have luck with that. I just dont see the point in artificial flowers, and Ill always buy the real thing.
Good luck to you.
Reply:I love the small personalized chest idea. I would have to see them to let you know exactly how much I would pay, but I would ball park $20.
Online would be a hard place to start out. Start by trying it out in your town and maybe on e-bay. Then you can get a site going. Good luck!
Reply:Sounds like something I would be interested in. If you do this anytime before April please let me know. We get married in May and I want to have there gifts around the end of April.
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Dress help!?
I have decided to NOT do a Fairy Tale theme wedding, because it's too much work finding bridal party dresses. I have found a few I like and need your opinion!
MOH: #1-http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
OR
#2-
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
Bridesmaids: #1- http://davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_byco...
OR
#2-http://davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_byco...
Jr. Bridesmaid:
#1- http://davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_byco...
or
#2- http://www.zone4kids.com/SweetiePie_Jr_B...
Flower Girl:
#1- http://www.dresskids.com/store/ltg510bl....
OR
#2-http://www.canastillaidealkids.com/LGima...
So, please tell me your opinion for each section! Thanks!
Dress help!?
My favorites are...
MOH: #2
Bridesmaid: #1
Jr. Bridesmaids: #2
Flower Girl: #2
Your dress is georgious!
I found an excellent Power Seller on Ebay that I am buying my dress from and they show the dress that they actualy make, they have thousands of feedback responses and the prices are very reasonable. = )
It is something to think about.
Reply:MOH - #1 because it seems a little more formal with the slight train at the back and will make the moh stand out more.
Bridesmaid - #2 because the first one is in the wrong material compared to the other dresses and will not go as well.
Jr Bridesmaid - #1 because the second one has too much going on compared to the other dresses. This first dress fits really nicely with the 2nd bridesmaid dress.
Flower Girl - #2 same as the jr bridesmaid's dress - the 1st option just has too much for the rest of the dresses. I like how simple all the others are and it makes the beadwork on yours stand out even more. The second dress is definately a pretty dress and goes perfectly with the other dresses too.
Reply:You have a stunning gown! Here's my opinion:
MOH should be in #2, with a contrasting sash or a different bouquet than the bridesmaids, to set her apart
Bridesmaids should be in #2, same gown as MOH.
Jr. Bridesmaid should be in #1. It goes better with the rest.
Flower girl should be in #2. It seems to be of a similar style dress as the rest of the bridal party.
Reply:MOH - second
Bridesmaid - the first one - and what a nice price!
Jr. - The first one would have her match the MOH, but it's really pricey. I'd go with the same one I chose for the bridesmaids.
Flower girl - The first one is gorgeous, and what a deal!
Love the pool colour you chose!
Reply:MOH #1 i love the back of it
Bridesmaid # 2 it goes better than the first one
J B #1 the second one is too much
F G #2 it seems to go better with all the other one than the first.
Your dress will be the most beautiful one there.
Reply:MOH - #2
Bridemaids - #1
Jr. - #1
Flower girl - # 1
and ur dress is bueatiful
Reply:MOH- the first one
Bridemaid- the frst one
Jr. Bridemaid- the second one
Flower girl- the first one.
Reply:MOH 2
B 2
JB 2
FG 2
yes, your dress is really beautiful. :)
Reply:MOH #1, BM #1, Jr #2, FG #2
Reply:I like everything you chose! You are going to have an amazing wedding, and I absolutely LOVE your dress! :)
MOH: #1-http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
OR
#2-
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
Bridesmaids: #1- http://davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_byco...
OR
#2-http://davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_byco...
Jr. Bridesmaid:
#1- http://davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_byco...
or
#2- http://www.zone4kids.com/SweetiePie_Jr_B...
Flower Girl:
#1- http://www.dresskids.com/store/ltg510bl....
OR
#2-http://www.canastillaidealkids.com/LGima...
So, please tell me your opinion for each section! Thanks!
Dress help!?
My favorites are...
MOH: #2
Bridesmaid: #1
Jr. Bridesmaids: #2
Flower Girl: #2
Your dress is georgious!
I found an excellent Power Seller on Ebay that I am buying my dress from and they show the dress that they actualy make, they have thousands of feedback responses and the prices are very reasonable. = )
It is something to think about.
Reply:MOH - #1 because it seems a little more formal with the slight train at the back and will make the moh stand out more.
Bridesmaid - #2 because the first one is in the wrong material compared to the other dresses and will not go as well.
Jr Bridesmaid - #1 because the second one has too much going on compared to the other dresses. This first dress fits really nicely with the 2nd bridesmaid dress.
Flower Girl - #2 same as the jr bridesmaid's dress - the 1st option just has too much for the rest of the dresses. I like how simple all the others are and it makes the beadwork on yours stand out even more. The second dress is definately a pretty dress and goes perfectly with the other dresses too.
Reply:You have a stunning gown! Here's my opinion:
MOH should be in #2, with a contrasting sash or a different bouquet than the bridesmaids, to set her apart
Bridesmaids should be in #2, same gown as MOH.
Jr. Bridesmaid should be in #1. It goes better with the rest.
Flower girl should be in #2. It seems to be of a similar style dress as the rest of the bridal party.
Reply:MOH - second
Bridesmaid - the first one - and what a nice price!
Jr. - The first one would have her match the MOH, but it's really pricey. I'd go with the same one I chose for the bridesmaids.
Flower girl - The first one is gorgeous, and what a deal!
Love the pool colour you chose!
Reply:MOH #1 i love the back of it
Bridesmaid # 2 it goes better than the first one
J B #1 the second one is too much
F G #2 it seems to go better with all the other one than the first.
Your dress will be the most beautiful one there.
Reply:MOH - #2
Bridemaids - #1
Jr. - #1
Flower girl - # 1
and ur dress is bueatiful
Reply:MOH- the first one
Bridemaid- the frst one
Jr. Bridemaid- the second one
Flower girl- the first one.
Reply:MOH 2
B 2
JB 2
FG 2
yes, your dress is really beautiful. :)
Reply:MOH #1, BM #1, Jr #2, FG #2
Reply:I like everything you chose! You are going to have an amazing wedding, and I absolutely LOVE your dress! :)
First Communion ?
My only daughter has her first communion next month. Both of my boys have already done there first communions and they were a piece of cake. But I am having a bit of a challenge with my daughter.
My question is in regards to what she should wear. I found a great inexpensive website where I can order her dress at a reasonable price. I understand their dresses look a lot like a mini bridal gown. But my question is what do they wear on their heads. I really dont remember what the girls were wearing at the boys first communions. The website is showing veils, veils with a flower headband and tieras. What do most girls wear?
Thanks!
First Communion ?
Veils are required for girls during First Holy Communion Mass at my parish. (Technically, all women should be covering their heads at every Mass, but it's not enforced in the U.S. Still is at the Vatican, of course).
However, when my niece made her First Holy Communion on the east coast 10 years ago, she was too tomboyish to wear a veil and fortunately it wasn't required.
Whomever is providing the religious instruction to your daughter ought to be able to give you a better idea as to what is "done" at your parish.
Regarding the "bridal dress" tradition -- the children are supposed to be going to meet their "Bridegroom" -- Christ -- in the Eucharist. That's why they wear wedding clothes. It's perfectly acceptable and a nice symbolism.
Reply:I made my daughter tea length white dress and she didn't want a veil so we did a flower halo with ribbons down the back of it. She looked so cute.
Reply:it really depends on what you want and can afford (and what she wants!!)
some of them wear veils, or just flowers.. and some wear just nothing....
talk to your director of religious education at your church and see what she recommends.
Reply:Just so you know, it might be smart to burn some incense when she's around. It sounds weird, but when I had my first communion, it was the first time we as a family found out that certain smells make me nauseous, and I threw up on the priest as he waved the incense around me.
Just a thought, it was kinda an awkward moment.
Reply:most wear some sort of veils, but some wear nothing.
Reply:i wore a simple little veil. i have to admit a little jealousy as a friend's veil was from her mom's wedding!! she wore her mom's mantilla. it was really special. i think it depend on your daugther's style and the dress. i wouldn't do anythingtoo over the top -- it IS about coming humbly before God.
enjoy!!!
EDIT - saw your edit about the mini wedding dress.... generally the girls are in white dresses, yes, but they are short/tea length dresses not long.
Reply:I have only boys, but at their first Communions, about half of the girls had something on their heads, veils etc.. The tiaras seemed ridiculous to me.
I think a pretty white headband would be most appropriate. (or nothing, if she doesn't want anything)
Reply:Some parishes don't want the bridal image, but I say go for it all the way. It's beautiful and meaningful.
Reply:My sister and I wore little frilly dresses, white tights and white shoes. Nothing on our heads like a veil, but I think we had our hair pulled up nicely. I don't have access to my pictures since we live out of state from my parents, but I don't remember any veils.
Reply:no! don't make it a mini bridal gown! I wore a very nice green dress for my first communion. I guess it depends though, is she having it with a whole class? or just her. if you want her to look just like all the other little kids she is doing it at the same time as, I guess you'd want to go that route. It really shouldn't be a mini bride dress though.
My question is in regards to what she should wear. I found a great inexpensive website where I can order her dress at a reasonable price. I understand their dresses look a lot like a mini bridal gown. But my question is what do they wear on their heads. I really dont remember what the girls were wearing at the boys first communions. The website is showing veils, veils with a flower headband and tieras. What do most girls wear?
Thanks!
First Communion ?
Veils are required for girls during First Holy Communion Mass at my parish. (Technically, all women should be covering their heads at every Mass, but it's not enforced in the U.S. Still is at the Vatican, of course).
However, when my niece made her First Holy Communion on the east coast 10 years ago, she was too tomboyish to wear a veil and fortunately it wasn't required.
Whomever is providing the religious instruction to your daughter ought to be able to give you a better idea as to what is "done" at your parish.
Regarding the "bridal dress" tradition -- the children are supposed to be going to meet their "Bridegroom" -- Christ -- in the Eucharist. That's why they wear wedding clothes. It's perfectly acceptable and a nice symbolism.
Reply:I made my daughter tea length white dress and she didn't want a veil so we did a flower halo with ribbons down the back of it. She looked so cute.
Reply:it really depends on what you want and can afford (and what she wants!!)
some of them wear veils, or just flowers.. and some wear just nothing....
talk to your director of religious education at your church and see what she recommends.
Reply:Just so you know, it might be smart to burn some incense when she's around. It sounds weird, but when I had my first communion, it was the first time we as a family found out that certain smells make me nauseous, and I threw up on the priest as he waved the incense around me.
Just a thought, it was kinda an awkward moment.
Reply:most wear some sort of veils, but some wear nothing.
Reply:i wore a simple little veil. i have to admit a little jealousy as a friend's veil was from her mom's wedding!! she wore her mom's mantilla. it was really special. i think it depend on your daugther's style and the dress. i wouldn't do anythingtoo over the top -- it IS about coming humbly before God.
enjoy!!!
EDIT - saw your edit about the mini wedding dress.... generally the girls are in white dresses, yes, but they are short/tea length dresses not long.
Reply:I have only boys, but at their first Communions, about half of the girls had something on their heads, veils etc.. The tiaras seemed ridiculous to me.
I think a pretty white headband would be most appropriate. (or nothing, if she doesn't want anything)
Reply:Some parishes don't want the bridal image, but I say go for it all the way. It's beautiful and meaningful.
Reply:My sister and I wore little frilly dresses, white tights and white shoes. Nothing on our heads like a veil, but I think we had our hair pulled up nicely. I don't have access to my pictures since we live out of state from my parents, but I don't remember any veils.
Reply:no! don't make it a mini bridal gown! I wore a very nice green dress for my first communion. I guess it depends though, is she having it with a whole class? or just her. if you want her to look just like all the other little kids she is doing it at the same time as, I guess you'd want to go that route. It really shouldn't be a mini bride dress though.
Help with this crazy wedding please???
My sister in law is getting married in a few months. At first it was a huge wedding with 7 people on both sides standing up, and about 250 coming to the wedding. I was going to be the matron of honor and my husband was going to be best man due to the groom's choice. My daughter was going to be the flower girl. Last night she called me (after the day before calling me and telling me the wedding was off) and told me that her hubby to be wants a small private wedding and only family at it (they have almost 10 kids between them). Since we are family, she wants still wants us to stand up for them. It will be only us, and our daughter and a ring bearer. And then she tells me that I should still throw her a large bridal shower. The problem was that I was going to ask the bridesmaids to help me pay for it. Because I can't on my own.
Should I still have to throw her a shower? My husband is at the point where he doesn't even want to be in it, or attend it.
Help with this crazy wedding please???
You should just tell her that you are unable to afford a large shower. Explain to her that you were going to ask the other bridesmaids to pitch in for the cost of the shower, but seeing as her plans have changed you are unable to do so. To keep the peace just promise to give her a lovely shower, that will have to be within your budget. Also agree with others that it is extremely rude to invite someone to the shower and not the wedding.
All the best.
Reply:she wants a small wedding - but expects a huge shower huh?
that's humorous.
let her know that it is beyond rude to throw a wedding shower and expect people to attend that aren't invited to the wedding. You can do one, but it will be limited to the wedding invitees only....and it's going to be cold sandwiches and the radio playing...
if she wants to be greedy and wants more"stuff" she's just going to have to get creative on begging all on her own...
Reply:I think you should throw a small, intimate shower. If she complains, just tell her straight out that as the host of the shower, you are not going to commit a social blunder by inviting people who are not invited to the wedding. Since you are standing up for her, it would be nice to throw the shower, but at the same time it should not be something you are uncomfortable with or cannot afford.
Reply:If she wants a SMALL wedding then she gets a SMALL shower!!! You should never invite anyone to a Bridal Shower that is not invited to the wedding!!!
Reply:I agree with the other two... Small wedding = smaller shower... is rude to invite people to a shower but not the wedding!
Reply:tell her not to be so rude. should they be getting married at all?
Reply:Okay. What is she thinking? There is no way! I don't blame your husband either. It's simple, you can't throw a shower, invite all your former wedding guests, and wedding party, and then not invite them to the wedding.
Save a lot of heartache for everyone involved...don't do it!
Reply:small wedding= small shower
sounds rude of her to want to nix people out of the wedding but then still get gifts at a shower...
usually you don't invite people to the shower that aren't going to be invited to the wedding
and no if she's taking away your "partners" in throwing the shower, then you shouldn't be expected to throw the same event on your own now!
tell her that since it's just you and a smaller wedding you have to have a smaller shower.... the shower is not her decision anyway!
Reply:First of all, she cannot tell you that you have to throw her a bridal shower at all. It's sad to see how many brides think they are owed gifts - with that attitude they don't deserve any!
I would tell her (if you do decide to throw her a shower) that you will only invite those who were invited to the wedding. Inviting others is just rude and greedy.
Reply:Several things:
Sounds like they are older and have been married before since there are 10 kids between them. Big showers aren't necessarily appropriate, but that's not my business. It would probably be best to have a shower for family since the wedding is only for family.
What about this idea, since it's only family invited to the wedding.....let the family help with the shower. How about a family "pot-luck" where you can all give gifts? They would think nothing of it. And you could provide the cake and drinks.
I'd just wait it out on this one. Sounds like you have a few months before this actually happens. The way this sounds, they could change their mind again. I wouldn't stress, but would be gathering ideas in my mind for the shower you probably will end up giving in some form or another.
Reply:Tell her that you've done some research and that having a big shower and small wedding is just not done. That your not comfortable doing this, that you will throw her a shower in accordance to her wedding, small and family only. This you should be able to accomplish for about $200.00. If that's still out of your budget then I would see if other family member could help out by bringing some of the food. As far as your husband goes...there's nothing saying that he has to be in the wedding but I would make HIM be the one to tell her, give it some time, he may calm down and realize that regardless of his sisters flakiness that he really does want to be there for her on her special day. I would also remind him that his sister has had to revise her dream wedding, which I'm sure is upsetting to her, and for him to not be in it is going to make things even worse. Good luck.
Reply:Honey, it's not the place of the matron of honor to throw the bridal shower, but a close friend or another member of the family, such as an aunt or a cousin....
besides, the bride can't dictate the kind of bridal shower she gets....that is up to whoever hosts the shower.....and the guest list should only be the women who will be at the wedding...to invite people to a bridal shower who are not invited to the wedding, well it's rather rude, impolite for want of another word ( I won't use tacky but it sure is) and smacks of exactly what is is...a blatant attempt to squeeze as many gifts as possible out of the situation....and this needs to be told to the bride as gently as possible....Good Luck.
Should I still have to throw her a shower? My husband is at the point where he doesn't even want to be in it, or attend it.
Help with this crazy wedding please???
You should just tell her that you are unable to afford a large shower. Explain to her that you were going to ask the other bridesmaids to pitch in for the cost of the shower, but seeing as her plans have changed you are unable to do so. To keep the peace just promise to give her a lovely shower, that will have to be within your budget. Also agree with others that it is extremely rude to invite someone to the shower and not the wedding.
All the best.
Reply:she wants a small wedding - but expects a huge shower huh?
that's humorous.
let her know that it is beyond rude to throw a wedding shower and expect people to attend that aren't invited to the wedding. You can do one, but it will be limited to the wedding invitees only....and it's going to be cold sandwiches and the radio playing...
if she wants to be greedy and wants more"stuff" she's just going to have to get creative on begging all on her own...
Reply:I think you should throw a small, intimate shower. If she complains, just tell her straight out that as the host of the shower, you are not going to commit a social blunder by inviting people who are not invited to the wedding. Since you are standing up for her, it would be nice to throw the shower, but at the same time it should not be something you are uncomfortable with or cannot afford.
Reply:If she wants a SMALL wedding then she gets a SMALL shower!!! You should never invite anyone to a Bridal Shower that is not invited to the wedding!!!
Reply:I agree with the other two... Small wedding = smaller shower... is rude to invite people to a shower but not the wedding!
Reply:tell her not to be so rude. should they be getting married at all?
Reply:Okay. What is she thinking? There is no way! I don't blame your husband either. It's simple, you can't throw a shower, invite all your former wedding guests, and wedding party, and then not invite them to the wedding.
Save a lot of heartache for everyone involved...don't do it!
Reply:small wedding= small shower
sounds rude of her to want to nix people out of the wedding but then still get gifts at a shower...
usually you don't invite people to the shower that aren't going to be invited to the wedding
and no if she's taking away your "partners" in throwing the shower, then you shouldn't be expected to throw the same event on your own now!
tell her that since it's just you and a smaller wedding you have to have a smaller shower.... the shower is not her decision anyway!
Reply:First of all, she cannot tell you that you have to throw her a bridal shower at all. It's sad to see how many brides think they are owed gifts - with that attitude they don't deserve any!
I would tell her (if you do decide to throw her a shower) that you will only invite those who were invited to the wedding. Inviting others is just rude and greedy.
Reply:Several things:
Sounds like they are older and have been married before since there are 10 kids between them. Big showers aren't necessarily appropriate, but that's not my business. It would probably be best to have a shower for family since the wedding is only for family.
What about this idea, since it's only family invited to the wedding.....let the family help with the shower. How about a family "pot-luck" where you can all give gifts? They would think nothing of it. And you could provide the cake and drinks.
I'd just wait it out on this one. Sounds like you have a few months before this actually happens. The way this sounds, they could change their mind again. I wouldn't stress, but would be gathering ideas in my mind for the shower you probably will end up giving in some form or another.
Reply:Tell her that you've done some research and that having a big shower and small wedding is just not done. That your not comfortable doing this, that you will throw her a shower in accordance to her wedding, small and family only. This you should be able to accomplish for about $200.00. If that's still out of your budget then I would see if other family member could help out by bringing some of the food. As far as your husband goes...there's nothing saying that he has to be in the wedding but I would make HIM be the one to tell her, give it some time, he may calm down and realize that regardless of his sisters flakiness that he really does want to be there for her on her special day. I would also remind him that his sister has had to revise her dream wedding, which I'm sure is upsetting to her, and for him to not be in it is going to make things even worse. Good luck.
Reply:Honey, it's not the place of the matron of honor to throw the bridal shower, but a close friend or another member of the family, such as an aunt or a cousin....
besides, the bride can't dictate the kind of bridal shower she gets....that is up to whoever hosts the shower.....and the guest list should only be the women who will be at the wedding...to invite people to a bridal shower who are not invited to the wedding, well it's rather rude, impolite for want of another word ( I won't use tacky but it sure is) and smacks of exactly what is is...a blatant attempt to squeeze as many gifts as possible out of the situation....and this needs to be told to the bride as gently as possible....Good Luck.
Children at my wedding?
I Love the idea of having children at my wedding. The problem is every-one My whole bridal party and parents and feonce' say its a bad idea and we shouldnt have children at the wedding. I am just so confussed because alot of people are comming from out of town and they have kids...what are they supost to do with there kids while at the wedding? plus what about my ring boys and flower girl. there children what iam i supost to do with them afterwords. The hall where i am having my wedding is really awesome because it has three rooms i was planning on getting someone to take the kids into one of the rooms with toys and and they could all play. but no one thinks this is a good idea. what should i do/ do you think kids at a wedding is an okay idea. there is going to be no booze at all.
Children at my wedding?
I think children at a wedding are a must! My daughter is getting married next August and we are having a "Candy Buffet" just for them! As well as a special menu for them to choose from for their dinner, and a coloring book %26amp; crayons that will come with it to help keep them occupied while thier parents are eating. Sort of like a happy meal. I say keep the kids, kick the grownups!
Reply:Its your wedding, you make the decisions.
Reply:You need to compromise with your FIANCE, and ignore the other naysayers.
My fiance and I are allowing kids at our wedding as we feel a wedding is a family thing.
However your fiance does not feel that way for whatever reason, so you need to talk to him and compromise somehow.
Reply:The wedding day is about what the bride wants. People may prefer that no children be there, but I'm sure parent prefer their children be with them at the wedding.
Just explain to those that don't want the children: "They are coming. End of discussion."
Children dancing at the reception is very entertaining. Don't cheat yourself out of that fun experience!
Have a good time!
Reply:It's something to decide between you and your fiance. I work as a children's entertainer and have done weddings. Usually it goes fine. After the kids have eaten the entertainer usually takes them into a different room and they are fine - really. If that does not work you could try to hire a "babysitter" to stay with the kids after the ceremony, something like if it's in a hotel rent a suite and put them all up there to watch a movie, a bed so they can sleep if they want to, kinda like daycare.
I've never seen kids be a problem at weddings I worked, attended or at my own.
Congratulations.
Reply:Geez, it's your wedding - DO WHAT YOU WANT.
I personally agree with you. A wedding is a time for families to celebrate and kids are just as much a part of the family as any one!
Reply:You are one of the rare ones it seems. I find nothing wrong with what you're doing especially since you plan on having a separate room for the kids. After the wedding I attended last weekend, I'm almost tempted to come right out and say no kids. They were absolute monsters at the ceremony - although I suppose the parents were as much to blame as anyone since they didn't even take the children out of the room when they wouldn't quiet down.
Reply:I didn't allow kids at my wedding during the ceremony or dinner portion. Basically how we did it, kids not in the ceremony went immediately to the babysitting room where we had games, videos, etc. for their entertainment. We also had two babysitters. The kids in the wedding (Flower Girl, etc.) went into the babysitting room immediately after the ceremony. This was nice because the kids were able to eat dinner during the cocktail hour since they are usually hungry earlier, the parents had some good quality adult time, and I didn't have a heard of kids running, screaming, crying, etc. during dinner. Once the dancing started we brought them down to join the party, so they could haver fun too, but this way I thought everyone won.
Reply:Children are a part of families, so of course they should be at weddings! Weddings celebrate the joining of two families, and that includes kids being there to witness the vows, and celebrate with everyone else!
You don't have to plan anything special at all for the kids - and the idea of separating them in a room is just awful. On the whole, parents take totally good care of their kids during a wedding, and the kids get together and just do what kids do!
At my nephew's wedding, kids got a big ziplock bag at the guest book table - it had a small (maybe eight inch) care bear in it, some coloring pages, some crayons, some stickers, activity pages and a pencil, etc. - thought that was a great idea!
Reply:u should have kids cuz if you dont invite the kids the guest will not really want to come or they have 2 take care of their children so they cant come and if you want people 2 show u shouls invite kids
Reply:Dont listen to your family. They dont know what theyre talking about. I helped a friend once by watching the kids in the other room. They had toys, they had food, and occasionally their parents came in to say hi, and the kids had a great time! Your idea is good. And you are the perfect host to provide for not only the adults but the kids, too. Many parents will appreciate that. Stick to your guns!
Reply:you are the bride and the entire thing is all about you. even the groom is superfluous! if you want kids there, invite those families. like you said, if people are coming from out of town with their kids, they gotta bring em! It's a celebration and the reception area sounds conducive to having kids there so do it and F what everyone else says.
Reply:I agree with you. I think that the decision to bring children should be up to the parents. It's not the kids that cause problems - it's the drunk best man who moons the bridesmaids. most parents know whether their kids can behave properly at a wedding or reception. I also think it's a great idea for you to have someone there to entertain the kids! That way, they won't get bored and they won't get into trouble.
My fiance and I have several friends with young children; we're inviting the whole family in each case. However, we expect many of our friends to hire sitters anyway. As for the out-of-town guests....things will be much easier on them if they can bring the kids. Finding an overnight sitter isn't always easy. I really think that many in-town parents will leave the kids at home, and that you won't have anything to worry about. Toddlers need close supervision (obviously); anyone over 8 should be fine.
Reply:I had no problems with children at our wedding. And, they were fun to watch on the dance floor! Some guests decided not to bring their kids (they knew they would be ornery), but we had many families there and no troubles. Our ceremony was short (20 minutes) so there wasn't much time to get bored, but I saw at least one dad walking around with his baby outside of the seating area during the ceremony to calm his little one down. We did not have a "nursery" room at the reception, but we provided a kids' table with puzzles and coloring books the kids could keep as well as teething type toys for the babies. This kept them pretty well entertained before the food and dancing began and I think the parents were thankful. I think you will be just fine inviting kids, and I love the nursery room idea (I can't believe no one you know likes it!) but you should definitely discuss this with your fiance and be prepared for the surprises that kids tend to bring! Good luck!
Reply:I'll give you credit for even wanting children at your wedding. I'm planning my wedding now, and I made the decision long ago that we would have no children. The only main reason is due to cost. We are going on a dinner cruise and I can only have 120 people. If our guests were to bring there kids, that would count for 62 of our guests. This would then in turn mean I would have to cut my guests list. So to solve this I asked for a non child event. How I see it is this gives parents and others to have a very nice romantic evening together before returning to the real world!
But if you and your soon-to-be hubby like the idea of having children, then I think you should go for it. As long as you enjoy your day, do whatever your heart wants! Congrats and have a wonderful time!
Reply:You need to discuss this with your fiancé. While, yes, it's typically the bride's big day, don't forget that this is the man you're marrying, and it's HIS big day too. If you explain to him how you feel, and let him know that this is important to you, he should be willing to let you invite children.
I personally wouldn't want children at a wedding, many parents look as weddings as big events that give them an excuse to get out of the house, and leave the kids at home. If you invite children, you are adding a layer of guilt to the parents who may not have wanted to bring their kids, but will feel bad if they dont. That's just my impression.
Reply:The only children that will be at my wedding are our nieces and nephews. Any other people's children are not invited.
Reply:This is your day do it the way you like. Well I don't think it's fair for everyone to put this much on you. These guests that are coming from out of town are they friends or relatives? If they are only friends I suggest sending the invitations directly to Mr. %26amp; Mrs. don't include and family. This gives them an idea that no kids will be attending your wedding, just keep in mind they may not show up either. But if you really have your heart set on having kids at your wedding explain this to everyone else. For what it worth we hope this will be the first and last marriage you have. These people must not have kids and what is the big issue if there is not alcohol. GOOD LUCK. The color books and other ideas are great.
Reply:I think thats a great idea. Kids have a wonderful way of lightening things up. All of my friends and family are invited to bring there children. The hall we are using is only one room but we are still going to have a kids table where they can color and play. I am also going to try a designate someone not in the wedding party or family to sit with them and make sure nobody gets into anything. Do what you want, it is after all your wedding!
Reply:Hi and congratulations!
I LOVE FAMILIES! (I come from a big family), so, YES, I like your idea of having and involving kids in your wedding and reception celebration.
You are already on the right track as far as the banquet rooms. Are the rooms connected? Even better.
~ My ideas:
~ Depending on how many kids you think will be there....hire enough babysitters. Call up the local high school to get referrals if you need to.
~ COVER the table with a white PAPER tablecloth (that way if the kids are coloring and it gets on the tablecloth....no big deal!
~ Set out coloring books, and a bucket (or 2?) of crayons.
~ You could possibly have little crafts that the "sitters" could do with the kids.
~ If they are half talented (the sitters), they could even do face painting!
~ Maybe bring in a TV and DVD player.
~ Get some legos or block....all kids love those.
Great idea to involve the kids. I don't know if you are doing "favors" at all for your guests, but maybe you could think of something special for the kids....kids are happy with dollar toys ...and make up their own "favor."
Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
Reply:you do as you wish - no children will be too formal - my youngest daughter had her wedding on Halloween and it was wonderful - all the children dressed up it was great
Reply:That sounds great! Go for it! I know alot of people will appreciate it since they're coming from out of town with their kids - they won't have to find babysitters that are literally strangers!
Reply:I think you and your fiance should sit down and discuss this. Everyone else is inconsequential to the decision making. I used to be very against kids at weddings because they cry and fidget and get bored easily. However, as I've gotten older there are a lot of children that I'm close to and it would feel weird to not have them present. After talking to him, if you decided to invite them just talk to the parents involved. Some of them won't even bring them regardless of the invitation because they want the night out alone. Those that do may want to be with their kids most of the night at the same table so you can make the other room available but be prepared for them to remain with the adults the entire evening.
Reply:We had guests telling us (before we were married) we shouldn't have kids at our wedding, that it's a place for grown ups to have fun without having to check on kids. I always went to weddings as a kid and did not understand their point. My husband wanted no kids at the wedding, but had never been to a wedding as a child himself. In the end, I won: my husband and I have two kids, and they were 3 and 4 at the time of the wedding. I wanted them to be a part of the whole day. If my kids are there, my nephews have to come, and my cousins' kids can come too.
Think of it this way: would you have a family gathering at Christmas without the kids? Are they really going to be more trouble because it's a wedding? Kids are people, they are a part of your family.
And to those who do not agree, tell them it's your wedding, not theirs, and you would never dare question their decisions regarding their own wedding.
Reply:This is your wedding don't let anybody tell you how to run it. I personally think its more of an inconvenience for people not to bring their kids. Weddings are a celebration of family, its only natural to bring kids. I think a seperate room for the kids is a great idea.. go to the dollar store and pick up a bunch of coloring books and crayons and pencils and let them go at it. If somebody got tech savvy they could hook up a tv and dvd player and pop in a disney movie. Kids will most likely end up dancing to the music anyway. Have the kids at your wedding, you won't regret it.
Reply:If there are different rooms then I would set one room up as a playroom and if you have any mature teenaged children of your friends, arrange for some of them (depending on how many young ones there will be) to look after them. Have games and toys and movies so they're occupied. Let them come out and dance and whatnot, but this way, parents will also have somewhere to take their kids if they start acting up and also babysitters there to watch the kids while the parents want to dance and socialize.
Reply:I think that you've got a great idea!!!
You've thought it out. You are being considerate of the families that have to travel from out of town.
Best of all, you have a way to squirrel the kids away so the adults can party in one space without kids running all over.
I think its fabulous and you should go with it.
Tell the nay-sayers to "Stuff it"
Reply:Congratulations on your wedding I think you have a great idea hire someone to watch the kids for that special night!!!
Reply:You shouldn't give a hoot what the parents and the bridal party think....unless they are the ones paying the tab in which case yeah they have a choice about if they are going to pay for kids.
However you should DEFINATELY care what you fiancee thinks. It's "your wedding" in the sense that it belongs to both of you...not just the bride. Sit and talk with him about why he doesn't want kids there and together reach a decision. Maybe he allows the kids, maybe you compromise and set up another location for them, maybe you don't have them at all. Ultimately that is only something you two can decide together. leave the other people out of it unless they are paying the tab.
I'm sorry honey but despite what previous posters have decided to spew at you this is not an instance where you can ride roughshod over the groom and declare "my way or the highway because I'm the bride!"
Reply:Your ideas for the kids sounds wonderful! I do a lot of weddings, very very few have no children at all. They would be the evening formal weddings, where if you were invited you would want to have a sitter at home anyway to make it a great evening.
Children and weddings are like bread and butter, they just go together. Your ideas allow families to enjoy your wedding and reception with style. I wish all my brides had your view on kids. Blessings, Chaplain Debby
Reply:The flower girl and ring bearer are in the wedding so they belong at the reception. Other children don't. People know when they come to a wedding that they should find a baby-sitter. Your family knows what I know, that kids distract from the day and always misbehave, cry and cause their parents to leave early.
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Children at my wedding?
I think children at a wedding are a must! My daughter is getting married next August and we are having a "Candy Buffet" just for them! As well as a special menu for them to choose from for their dinner, and a coloring book %26amp; crayons that will come with it to help keep them occupied while thier parents are eating. Sort of like a happy meal. I say keep the kids, kick the grownups!
Reply:Its your wedding, you make the decisions.
Reply:You need to compromise with your FIANCE, and ignore the other naysayers.
My fiance and I are allowing kids at our wedding as we feel a wedding is a family thing.
However your fiance does not feel that way for whatever reason, so you need to talk to him and compromise somehow.
Reply:The wedding day is about what the bride wants. People may prefer that no children be there, but I'm sure parent prefer their children be with them at the wedding.
Just explain to those that don't want the children: "They are coming. End of discussion."
Children dancing at the reception is very entertaining. Don't cheat yourself out of that fun experience!
Have a good time!
Reply:It's something to decide between you and your fiance. I work as a children's entertainer and have done weddings. Usually it goes fine. After the kids have eaten the entertainer usually takes them into a different room and they are fine - really. If that does not work you could try to hire a "babysitter" to stay with the kids after the ceremony, something like if it's in a hotel rent a suite and put them all up there to watch a movie, a bed so they can sleep if they want to, kinda like daycare.
I've never seen kids be a problem at weddings I worked, attended or at my own.
Congratulations.
Reply:Geez, it's your wedding - DO WHAT YOU WANT.
I personally agree with you. A wedding is a time for families to celebrate and kids are just as much a part of the family as any one!
Reply:You are one of the rare ones it seems. I find nothing wrong with what you're doing especially since you plan on having a separate room for the kids. After the wedding I attended last weekend, I'm almost tempted to come right out and say no kids. They were absolute monsters at the ceremony - although I suppose the parents were as much to blame as anyone since they didn't even take the children out of the room when they wouldn't quiet down.
Reply:I didn't allow kids at my wedding during the ceremony or dinner portion. Basically how we did it, kids not in the ceremony went immediately to the babysitting room where we had games, videos, etc. for their entertainment. We also had two babysitters. The kids in the wedding (Flower Girl, etc.) went into the babysitting room immediately after the ceremony. This was nice because the kids were able to eat dinner during the cocktail hour since they are usually hungry earlier, the parents had some good quality adult time, and I didn't have a heard of kids running, screaming, crying, etc. during dinner. Once the dancing started we brought them down to join the party, so they could haver fun too, but this way I thought everyone won.
Reply:Children are a part of families, so of course they should be at weddings! Weddings celebrate the joining of two families, and that includes kids being there to witness the vows, and celebrate with everyone else!
You don't have to plan anything special at all for the kids - and the idea of separating them in a room is just awful. On the whole, parents take totally good care of their kids during a wedding, and the kids get together and just do what kids do!
At my nephew's wedding, kids got a big ziplock bag at the guest book table - it had a small (maybe eight inch) care bear in it, some coloring pages, some crayons, some stickers, activity pages and a pencil, etc. - thought that was a great idea!
Reply:u should have kids cuz if you dont invite the kids the guest will not really want to come or they have 2 take care of their children so they cant come and if you want people 2 show u shouls invite kids
Reply:Dont listen to your family. They dont know what theyre talking about. I helped a friend once by watching the kids in the other room. They had toys, they had food, and occasionally their parents came in to say hi, and the kids had a great time! Your idea is good. And you are the perfect host to provide for not only the adults but the kids, too. Many parents will appreciate that. Stick to your guns!
Reply:you are the bride and the entire thing is all about you. even the groom is superfluous! if you want kids there, invite those families. like you said, if people are coming from out of town with their kids, they gotta bring em! It's a celebration and the reception area sounds conducive to having kids there so do it and F what everyone else says.
Reply:I agree with you. I think that the decision to bring children should be up to the parents. It's not the kids that cause problems - it's the drunk best man who moons the bridesmaids. most parents know whether their kids can behave properly at a wedding or reception. I also think it's a great idea for you to have someone there to entertain the kids! That way, they won't get bored and they won't get into trouble.
My fiance and I have several friends with young children; we're inviting the whole family in each case. However, we expect many of our friends to hire sitters anyway. As for the out-of-town guests....things will be much easier on them if they can bring the kids. Finding an overnight sitter isn't always easy. I really think that many in-town parents will leave the kids at home, and that you won't have anything to worry about. Toddlers need close supervision (obviously); anyone over 8 should be fine.
Reply:I had no problems with children at our wedding. And, they were fun to watch on the dance floor! Some guests decided not to bring their kids (they knew they would be ornery), but we had many families there and no troubles. Our ceremony was short (20 minutes) so there wasn't much time to get bored, but I saw at least one dad walking around with his baby outside of the seating area during the ceremony to calm his little one down. We did not have a "nursery" room at the reception, but we provided a kids' table with puzzles and coloring books the kids could keep as well as teething type toys for the babies. This kept them pretty well entertained before the food and dancing began and I think the parents were thankful. I think you will be just fine inviting kids, and I love the nursery room idea (I can't believe no one you know likes it!) but you should definitely discuss this with your fiance and be prepared for the surprises that kids tend to bring! Good luck!
Reply:I'll give you credit for even wanting children at your wedding. I'm planning my wedding now, and I made the decision long ago that we would have no children. The only main reason is due to cost. We are going on a dinner cruise and I can only have 120 people. If our guests were to bring there kids, that would count for 62 of our guests. This would then in turn mean I would have to cut my guests list. So to solve this I asked for a non child event. How I see it is this gives parents and others to have a very nice romantic evening together before returning to the real world!
But if you and your soon-to-be hubby like the idea of having children, then I think you should go for it. As long as you enjoy your day, do whatever your heart wants! Congrats and have a wonderful time!
Reply:You need to discuss this with your fiancé. While, yes, it's typically the bride's big day, don't forget that this is the man you're marrying, and it's HIS big day too. If you explain to him how you feel, and let him know that this is important to you, he should be willing to let you invite children.
I personally wouldn't want children at a wedding, many parents look as weddings as big events that give them an excuse to get out of the house, and leave the kids at home. If you invite children, you are adding a layer of guilt to the parents who may not have wanted to bring their kids, but will feel bad if they dont. That's just my impression.
Reply:The only children that will be at my wedding are our nieces and nephews. Any other people's children are not invited.
Reply:This is your day do it the way you like. Well I don't think it's fair for everyone to put this much on you. These guests that are coming from out of town are they friends or relatives? If they are only friends I suggest sending the invitations directly to Mr. %26amp; Mrs. don't include and family. This gives them an idea that no kids will be attending your wedding, just keep in mind they may not show up either. But if you really have your heart set on having kids at your wedding explain this to everyone else. For what it worth we hope this will be the first and last marriage you have. These people must not have kids and what is the big issue if there is not alcohol. GOOD LUCK. The color books and other ideas are great.
Reply:I think thats a great idea. Kids have a wonderful way of lightening things up. All of my friends and family are invited to bring there children. The hall we are using is only one room but we are still going to have a kids table where they can color and play. I am also going to try a designate someone not in the wedding party or family to sit with them and make sure nobody gets into anything. Do what you want, it is after all your wedding!
Reply:Hi and congratulations!
I LOVE FAMILIES! (I come from a big family), so, YES, I like your idea of having and involving kids in your wedding and reception celebration.
You are already on the right track as far as the banquet rooms. Are the rooms connected? Even better.
~ My ideas:
~ Depending on how many kids you think will be there....hire enough babysitters. Call up the local high school to get referrals if you need to.
~ COVER the table with a white PAPER tablecloth (that way if the kids are coloring and it gets on the tablecloth....no big deal!
~ Set out coloring books, and a bucket (or 2?) of crayons.
~ You could possibly have little crafts that the "sitters" could do with the kids.
~ If they are half talented (the sitters), they could even do face painting!
~ Maybe bring in a TV and DVD player.
~ Get some legos or block....all kids love those.
Great idea to involve the kids. I don't know if you are doing "favors" at all for your guests, but maybe you could think of something special for the kids....kids are happy with dollar toys ...and make up their own "favor."
Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
Reply:you do as you wish - no children will be too formal - my youngest daughter had her wedding on Halloween and it was wonderful - all the children dressed up it was great
Reply:That sounds great! Go for it! I know alot of people will appreciate it since they're coming from out of town with their kids - they won't have to find babysitters that are literally strangers!
Reply:I think you and your fiance should sit down and discuss this. Everyone else is inconsequential to the decision making. I used to be very against kids at weddings because they cry and fidget and get bored easily. However, as I've gotten older there are a lot of children that I'm close to and it would feel weird to not have them present. After talking to him, if you decided to invite them just talk to the parents involved. Some of them won't even bring them regardless of the invitation because they want the night out alone. Those that do may want to be with their kids most of the night at the same table so you can make the other room available but be prepared for them to remain with the adults the entire evening.
Reply:We had guests telling us (before we were married) we shouldn't have kids at our wedding, that it's a place for grown ups to have fun without having to check on kids. I always went to weddings as a kid and did not understand their point. My husband wanted no kids at the wedding, but had never been to a wedding as a child himself. In the end, I won: my husband and I have two kids, and they were 3 and 4 at the time of the wedding. I wanted them to be a part of the whole day. If my kids are there, my nephews have to come, and my cousins' kids can come too.
Think of it this way: would you have a family gathering at Christmas without the kids? Are they really going to be more trouble because it's a wedding? Kids are people, they are a part of your family.
And to those who do not agree, tell them it's your wedding, not theirs, and you would never dare question their decisions regarding their own wedding.
Reply:This is your wedding don't let anybody tell you how to run it. I personally think its more of an inconvenience for people not to bring their kids. Weddings are a celebration of family, its only natural to bring kids. I think a seperate room for the kids is a great idea.. go to the dollar store and pick up a bunch of coloring books and crayons and pencils and let them go at it. If somebody got tech savvy they could hook up a tv and dvd player and pop in a disney movie. Kids will most likely end up dancing to the music anyway. Have the kids at your wedding, you won't regret it.
Reply:If there are different rooms then I would set one room up as a playroom and if you have any mature teenaged children of your friends, arrange for some of them (depending on how many young ones there will be) to look after them. Have games and toys and movies so they're occupied. Let them come out and dance and whatnot, but this way, parents will also have somewhere to take their kids if they start acting up and also babysitters there to watch the kids while the parents want to dance and socialize.
Reply:I think that you've got a great idea!!!
You've thought it out. You are being considerate of the families that have to travel from out of town.
Best of all, you have a way to squirrel the kids away so the adults can party in one space without kids running all over.
I think its fabulous and you should go with it.
Tell the nay-sayers to "Stuff it"
Reply:Congratulations on your wedding I think you have a great idea hire someone to watch the kids for that special night!!!
Reply:You shouldn't give a hoot what the parents and the bridal party think....unless they are the ones paying the tab in which case yeah they have a choice about if they are going to pay for kids.
However you should DEFINATELY care what you fiancee thinks. It's "your wedding" in the sense that it belongs to both of you...not just the bride. Sit and talk with him about why he doesn't want kids there and together reach a decision. Maybe he allows the kids, maybe you compromise and set up another location for them, maybe you don't have them at all. Ultimately that is only something you two can decide together. leave the other people out of it unless they are paying the tab.
I'm sorry honey but despite what previous posters have decided to spew at you this is not an instance where you can ride roughshod over the groom and declare "my way or the highway because I'm the bride!"
Reply:Your ideas for the kids sounds wonderful! I do a lot of weddings, very very few have no children at all. They would be the evening formal weddings, where if you were invited you would want to have a sitter at home anyway to make it a great evening.
Children and weddings are like bread and butter, they just go together. Your ideas allow families to enjoy your wedding and reception with style. I wish all my brides had your view on kids. Blessings, Chaplain Debby
Reply:The flower girl and ring bearer are in the wedding so they belong at the reception. Other children don't. People know when they come to a wedding that they should find a baby-sitter. Your family knows what I know, that kids distract from the day and always misbehave, cry and cause their parents to leave early.
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Where to place my nephew and his sons?
We are having three bridesmaids and three groomsmen, so our bridal party is pretty small. We dont really know any younger girls to be a flower girl, so we arent having one. My fiance has two young boys from a previous marriage (ages are 2 and 4) and we really want them to be incorporated into the wedding party somehow. I also have a 5 year old nephew that Im super close to and want him in the wedding party as well. I want his sons to have a "more important" role in the party being as they are the only children we will ever have. We could either have his sons be junior groomsmen or the ring bearers, and whatever they arent, my nephew could be. I dont know what title has more "importance" in a wedding, or if it really matters. Someone told me they should be the ring bearers bc that role serves more of an actual purpose. Someone else told me we shouldnt have a jr groomsman and just have my nephew escort my mother down the aisle. I really dont have any idea here...THANKS!!
Where to place my nephew and his sons?
I don't think that one role is more important than the other... Why don't you ask your fiance's boys what they would rather do. Describe the different roles to them and see what they want to do (especially the 4 year old).
You an also incorporate something in the ceremony that the 4 of you can take part in, such as a family sand ceremony.
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Reply:Here is what someone told me to do and it works so beautifully. Have flower children. . .I had more young boys than girls so I have one as the ring bearers and the other are classified as flower children, doesn't mean they have flowers to throw, but they would walk up the aisle as a group or skip up the aisle in a lighter version of your wedding colors.
Where to place my nephew and his sons?
I don't think that one role is more important than the other... Why don't you ask your fiance's boys what they would rather do. Describe the different roles to them and see what they want to do (especially the 4 year old).
You an also incorporate something in the ceremony that the 4 of you can take part in, such as a family sand ceremony.
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Reply:Here is what someone told me to do and it works so beautifully. Have flower children. . .I had more young boys than girls so I have one as the ring bearers and the other are classified as flower children, doesn't mean they have flowers to throw, but they would walk up the aisle as a group or skip up the aisle in a lighter version of your wedding colors.
How does the processional go?
So, it seems as if I am in every wedding I have attended, and I have no idea how the groomsmen enter the ceremony! The weddings I have attended, the groomsmen are already at the front of the aisle, then the bridesmaids enter, then the bride.
Do the groomsmen walk down the aisle before the bridal party? Our ceremony is (weather willing) going to be outside in a garden, so the guys will have to walk down the aisle to get to the front (I know at some churches they can "appear" from a side door)
I know the bridal party walks out in pairs, but do they have to enter in pairs?
Also, where do the ring bearer %26amp; flower girl go in the order? We are having them, but I can't for the life of me remember when they walk down the aisle!
How does the processional go?
In many instances, the groom and his attendants enter through a side door and are waiting at the alter for the bride and her attendants.
The flower girl %26amp; ring bearer preceed the bride down the aisle (but are after the bridal attendants).
I was a wedding last year where only the preacher was at the alter waiting. The groom was escorted by his parents, then came the bride's parents, then the paired attendants (groom's/bride's), then the ring bearer and flower girl, and then the bride. It was VERY different, but cool because it incorporated the entire family.
Reply:Really the order is up to you. I think it would be nice to have them walk in together. I would then have the ring bearer and flower girl walk in behind them, before you.
For our outdoor wedding, the procession was my husband's parents, followed by my mother escorted by my nephew (my father's deceased and he's her only grandchild), followed by my husband and me. It was wonderful to approach the minister together--after all, we believe we're in this together, so that's how we wanted to arrive at the "alter"/
Reply:The groom and groomsmen usually come in from the side prior to anyone else walking down the aisle. At my wedding (none of this was discussed with me before hand, so I don't know if it's the norm of not) but my inlaws walked down the aisle first. Anyone else have this? But anyway, actual wedding party goes ring bearer and flower girl, usually together. Then the Jr. Bridesmaids (if you have any), bridesmaids, and maid oh honor- all in single file. Last but not least the bride.
Reply:the groomsmen should be standing at the aisle before guests begin to enter. For an outdoor party have them walk up to the front while people are being seated, have them walk up the side and not down the aisle. I have seen it both ways with the ring bearer going first, the the flower girls, and vise versa. It depends on what you want. I know some people choose by the age, the youngest goes first
Reply:Really the processional can go anyway you want it to. I've seen it done a million different ways. The two most common ones are for the officiant, groom, and all of his attendants enter first, then the bridesmaids and MOH one by one, then the ring bearer and flower girl. Another way it's done, is for the officiant, groom, and best man to enter first, and then the bridesmaids and groomsmen enter as pairs, then the MOH, then the ring bearer and flower girl.
They don't have to enter in pairs if you don't want them to. Once again, it's whatever you want to do. Also, the ring bearer and flower girl go right before you (and after the other attendants like bridesmaids).
Do the groomsmen walk down the aisle before the bridal party? Our ceremony is (weather willing) going to be outside in a garden, so the guys will have to walk down the aisle to get to the front (I know at some churches they can "appear" from a side door)
I know the bridal party walks out in pairs, but do they have to enter in pairs?
Also, where do the ring bearer %26amp; flower girl go in the order? We are having them, but I can't for the life of me remember when they walk down the aisle!
How does the processional go?
In many instances, the groom and his attendants enter through a side door and are waiting at the alter for the bride and her attendants.
The flower girl %26amp; ring bearer preceed the bride down the aisle (but are after the bridal attendants).
I was a wedding last year where only the preacher was at the alter waiting. The groom was escorted by his parents, then came the bride's parents, then the paired attendants (groom's/bride's), then the ring bearer and flower girl, and then the bride. It was VERY different, but cool because it incorporated the entire family.
Reply:Really the order is up to you. I think it would be nice to have them walk in together. I would then have the ring bearer and flower girl walk in behind them, before you.
For our outdoor wedding, the procession was my husband's parents, followed by my mother escorted by my nephew (my father's deceased and he's her only grandchild), followed by my husband and me. It was wonderful to approach the minister together--after all, we believe we're in this together, so that's how we wanted to arrive at the "alter"/
Reply:The groom and groomsmen usually come in from the side prior to anyone else walking down the aisle. At my wedding (none of this was discussed with me before hand, so I don't know if it's the norm of not) but my inlaws walked down the aisle first. Anyone else have this? But anyway, actual wedding party goes ring bearer and flower girl, usually together. Then the Jr. Bridesmaids (if you have any), bridesmaids, and maid oh honor- all in single file. Last but not least the bride.
Reply:the groomsmen should be standing at the aisle before guests begin to enter. For an outdoor party have them walk up to the front while people are being seated, have them walk up the side and not down the aisle. I have seen it both ways with the ring bearer going first, the the flower girls, and vise versa. It depends on what you want. I know some people choose by the age, the youngest goes first
Reply:Really the processional can go anyway you want it to. I've seen it done a million different ways. The two most common ones are for the officiant, groom, and all of his attendants enter first, then the bridesmaids and MOH one by one, then the ring bearer and flower girl. Another way it's done, is for the officiant, groom, and best man to enter first, and then the bridesmaids and groomsmen enter as pairs, then the MOH, then the ring bearer and flower girl.
They don't have to enter in pairs if you don't want them to. Once again, it's whatever you want to do. Also, the ring bearer and flower girl go right before you (and after the other attendants like bridesmaids).
Bridal Shower Cake Suggestions...?
I'm having a CInderella themed Wedding (classy NOT tacky;)...See below for my Wedding cake--it's HUGE %26amp; GORGEOUS!! :) I'm having it in mostly Silver %26amp; some little blue flowers.
http://s53.photobucket.com/albums/g55/je...
Do you have suggestions for a bridal cake in my theme? Thanks for answering. :)
Bridal Shower Cake Suggestions...?
You don't say how old you are, but just from your Cinderella theme, why don't you have the "pumpkin carriage" as your Shower cake? Most bakeries can make that...........
I'd have it carrot cake flavored too............
Reply:I'm flummoxed; never saw something so out there. For the shower, those organizing it will find something to serve, don't worry about it.
Reply:Wilton used to make a cake pan that looked like an open book. If you can find one, you could use that, decorated with silver and blue, and write "Once upon a Time..." on it.
Here's a pic of the style I'm talking about
http://i72.photobucket.com/albums/i198/m...
My daughter used this pan for both her wedding and baby showers; the wedding shower cake said "Our Story Begins...", and the baby shower cake said "Our story continues...".
http://s53.photobucket.com/albums/g55/je...
Do you have suggestions for a bridal cake in my theme? Thanks for answering. :)
Bridal Shower Cake Suggestions...?
You don't say how old you are, but just from your Cinderella theme, why don't you have the "pumpkin carriage" as your Shower cake? Most bakeries can make that...........
I'd have it carrot cake flavored too............
Reply:I'm flummoxed; never saw something so out there. For the shower, those organizing it will find something to serve, don't worry about it.
Reply:Wilton used to make a cake pan that looked like an open book. If you can find one, you could use that, decorated with silver and blue, and write "Once upon a Time..." on it.
Here's a pic of the style I'm talking about
http://i72.photobucket.com/albums/i198/m...
My daughter used this pan for both her wedding and baby showers; the wedding shower cake said "Our Story Begins...", and the baby shower cake said "Our story continues...".
Help Best Man and Matron of Honor decided not to be in the wedding?
Well the best man and matron of honor decided not to be in the wedding don't know m wedding is in 2 weeks and yesterday I asked m maid of honor to go to the bridal to pay for her husband tuxedo and her dress and she said ok and so happen at church last night they didn't come to choir rehearsal for an unusual reason but my fiancee said he knew they weren't coming because of the issue paying for anything they should have told us in the beginning they didn't have the funds so now we can't get in contact with them and so now i have to find another flower girl because their lil girl was the flower girl but you know what I have been planning this wedding all by myself stressing myself no help but i do have a wedding coordinator she have done all her work but you find out our true friends when special occasions come up. Any advice. Keep us in you all prayers to God be the Glory.
Help Best Man and Matron of Honor decided not to be in the wedding?
Oh love i'm so sorry!I had the same thing happen to me. I know how it feels I was just married in Sept. I made myself sick because I was so stressed out. It's a way to loose a few lbs. huh?
I'm sorry to hear about your delema. Do you have any sisters or family members that would like to take their place? If not the show must go on w/ or w/ out them. I was short a brides maid because she flaked on me. I know you want it to be perfect but there are tons of family memebers I'm sure that would verry much appreciate the fact you thought of them to take their place.
Maybe pick someone who has supported you all the way up to now... like an auntie a cousin or sister. Same goes for your groom.
Best of luck. It will all work out trust me! =)
Reply:First of all please use punctuation, it is hard to understand what most of your question is saying.
That out of the way; You have every right to be upset, if the finacial part was that much of a burdon they should have spoken up a LONG time ago. I am not saying by any means that people who can't afford it should just outright say no to participating in a wedding, but that is something that needs to be discussed earlier not 2 weeks before said date. Having several people from one family in the same wedding can be expensive, but there would have been plenty of time to communicate financial concerns ahead of time and come to a plausible solution. Also not contacting you is a horrible and not a very friend like way to handle the situation. As adults and as a friend they should have sat you down and let you know as soon as it became evident they would not be able to participate. Don't let it ruin your day, although it is nice to have those head positions it is not entirely necissary, and I do understand how hurt you must feel by not having your Bests by your side, remember the day is about you and your intended joining together as one, not about anyone else. Congrats and Good Luck
Reply:you see this is whats wrong with today's weddings.
causes more tension then happiness which is direct opposite of weddings are about.
chances are they wanted to come and thought they could afford garments for 3.
Ofc now they can't and they have to back out and not look back.
personally this why for generations my family have had small weddings and we are proud of it.We cover everything and keep the cost low by having it small.
I highly doubt this can be a situation where you judge your friends or family
sadly i been dragged into a scenario that my fiancee wants one this large thingie monsters and now telling everyone what to pay for etc.
Seems rather artifical and sterile to me.I already told her i am not asking my friends to pay for anything.Been there is enough support and sign of friendship,now i must make them pay so we can look like prince charles and Di for a few hours and then what?No royal palace after that,thats for sure.
For your information you find out who your true friends are in time of crisis not in time of special occasions.
Reply:my twin boyz were asked to be page boyz for my cousin in spain so as there is me my partner and my 5 boyz all traveling for a long weekend from england to spain my cousin paid for approx half of the overal costs. we struggled to paye for everything but we are a family and it was important that we all played our part in the wedding day.
just talk to them and compromise they probably feel bad the same as you do.
Reply:If the only reason they're not being in the BP is money, and you love these people enough for them to be your best man and maid of honor.... If there is any way that you can just pay for the clothes and tell them that their friendship and their presence is more important than cash to you... well that's what I'd try to do.
But that's just me. I could be wrong.
Reply:If they can't afford it you should do what you can to assist in the cost. You have a family of THREE in your wedding? That's rough financially. They're not being a bad friend by backing out because they can't afford it..................
Reply:The wedding will go on whether you have 1 bridesmaid or 10. You can choose to ask a bridesmaid, or you can choose not to have a maid of honor and best man! I hope you didn't have the programs printed already, if so you can choose not to use programs.
Don't stress about this. You are right your maid of honor and best man should have been up front about this. It is really rude and inconsiderate of them to accept this obligation and then disappear when payment is due. I'm sorry you have been put in this postion but focus on the important thing... you are getting married!! That is all that matters and I am sure it will be a lovely ceremony.
Good luck!
Reply:yes i agree
Reply:just promote a random usher and brides maid
Reply:I have a family of three in the same positions but all they will have to pay for is his tuxedo.
If they aren't made of money- try to offer at least some help. I'm sure they don't want to put you out so close to the date. If that doesn't work? promote or go without the "honor positions" and just have bridemaids and groomsmen.
also, flower girls are adorable- but not neccesary for the ceremony.
Reply:i think they shouldve told you they cant afford it cause not howing up to the rehearsal is very rude especially when the wedding is 2 weeks away i would either tell them that you and you husband to be would pay half and they pay the rest ,if not they can be guests and just promote one of the bridesmaids and an usher to that position.
Reply:You should not have expected them to pay for all of their outfits.A family buying 3 outfits for a wedding is a considerable amount of money.After all it is not their wedding.they are obviously financially embarrased.
Reply:If your friends don't have the funds to but the garments then you should pay for them.
Reply:pay for them if you have the funds. i have been in 3 weddings and each time the bridal party paid for my tuxedo
Reply:Did they say anything about cost before? When accepting the positions? When they said they'd do it, they agreed to pay. If they changed their minds, they should have talked to you. It seems cowardly what they've done. And you're pregnant, you don't need this stress. Does she have an Easter dress she can wear? Maybe they could pay you back for the dress and tux.
Reply:Breathe, catch your breath all is not lost. The two most important people will still be there, you and your groom.
Couple of suggestions: Offer to help your MOH to pay for her dress (you might have to anyways if the bridal shop turns ugly), suggest your BM wear a suit, and pass on the flower girl, especially if you want them. They may have had a serious financial setback. Or promote another couple from your attendant list. If not, have each of you have a parent to step in, they would be honoroed. Or, if you offer to help pay for the dress, you might be able to find a close acquaintance more than willing to step up. Cut your losses and stress.
Contact the bridal shop, the tux should be able to be canceled if you notify them now. The dress could be yours or sell it. As a professional, your wedding coordinator should be able to make some arrangement with the bridal shop to help you. You are better to ask someone who would be honored to be your attendant, than try to fill in the empty space. You might have had your heart set on a perfect wedding, and it will be. You will look radiant, your groom will be dazzled, your family will be with you, and your friends will be happy for you. And at day's end, you will be married and facing many years of happiness. You are in my prayers and in His hands. God Bless!
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Help Best Man and Matron of Honor decided not to be in the wedding?
Oh love i'm so sorry!I had the same thing happen to me. I know how it feels I was just married in Sept. I made myself sick because I was so stressed out. It's a way to loose a few lbs. huh?
I'm sorry to hear about your delema. Do you have any sisters or family members that would like to take their place? If not the show must go on w/ or w/ out them. I was short a brides maid because she flaked on me. I know you want it to be perfect but there are tons of family memebers I'm sure that would verry much appreciate the fact you thought of them to take their place.
Maybe pick someone who has supported you all the way up to now... like an auntie a cousin or sister. Same goes for your groom.
Best of luck. It will all work out trust me! =)
Reply:First of all please use punctuation, it is hard to understand what most of your question is saying.
That out of the way; You have every right to be upset, if the finacial part was that much of a burdon they should have spoken up a LONG time ago. I am not saying by any means that people who can't afford it should just outright say no to participating in a wedding, but that is something that needs to be discussed earlier not 2 weeks before said date. Having several people from one family in the same wedding can be expensive, but there would have been plenty of time to communicate financial concerns ahead of time and come to a plausible solution. Also not contacting you is a horrible and not a very friend like way to handle the situation. As adults and as a friend they should have sat you down and let you know as soon as it became evident they would not be able to participate. Don't let it ruin your day, although it is nice to have those head positions it is not entirely necissary, and I do understand how hurt you must feel by not having your Bests by your side, remember the day is about you and your intended joining together as one, not about anyone else. Congrats and Good Luck
Reply:you see this is whats wrong with today's weddings.
causes more tension then happiness which is direct opposite of weddings are about.
chances are they wanted to come and thought they could afford garments for 3.
Ofc now they can't and they have to back out and not look back.
personally this why for generations my family have had small weddings and we are proud of it.We cover everything and keep the cost low by having it small.
I highly doubt this can be a situation where you judge your friends or family
sadly i been dragged into a scenario that my fiancee wants one this large thingie monsters and now telling everyone what to pay for etc.
Seems rather artifical and sterile to me.I already told her i am not asking my friends to pay for anything.Been there is enough support and sign of friendship,now i must make them pay so we can look like prince charles and Di for a few hours and then what?No royal palace after that,thats for sure.
For your information you find out who your true friends are in time of crisis not in time of special occasions.
Reply:my twin boyz were asked to be page boyz for my cousin in spain so as there is me my partner and my 5 boyz all traveling for a long weekend from england to spain my cousin paid for approx half of the overal costs. we struggled to paye for everything but we are a family and it was important that we all played our part in the wedding day.
just talk to them and compromise they probably feel bad the same as you do.
Reply:If the only reason they're not being in the BP is money, and you love these people enough for them to be your best man and maid of honor.... If there is any way that you can just pay for the clothes and tell them that their friendship and their presence is more important than cash to you... well that's what I'd try to do.
But that's just me. I could be wrong.
Reply:If they can't afford it you should do what you can to assist in the cost. You have a family of THREE in your wedding? That's rough financially. They're not being a bad friend by backing out because they can't afford it..................
Reply:The wedding will go on whether you have 1 bridesmaid or 10. You can choose to ask a bridesmaid, or you can choose not to have a maid of honor and best man! I hope you didn't have the programs printed already, if so you can choose not to use programs.
Don't stress about this. You are right your maid of honor and best man should have been up front about this. It is really rude and inconsiderate of them to accept this obligation and then disappear when payment is due. I'm sorry you have been put in this postion but focus on the important thing... you are getting married!! That is all that matters and I am sure it will be a lovely ceremony.
Good luck!
Reply:yes i agree
Reply:just promote a random usher and brides maid
Reply:I have a family of three in the same positions but all they will have to pay for is his tuxedo.
If they aren't made of money- try to offer at least some help. I'm sure they don't want to put you out so close to the date. If that doesn't work? promote or go without the "honor positions" and just have bridemaids and groomsmen.
also, flower girls are adorable- but not neccesary for the ceremony.
Reply:i think they shouldve told you they cant afford it cause not howing up to the rehearsal is very rude especially when the wedding is 2 weeks away i would either tell them that you and you husband to be would pay half and they pay the rest ,if not they can be guests and just promote one of the bridesmaids and an usher to that position.
Reply:You should not have expected them to pay for all of their outfits.A family buying 3 outfits for a wedding is a considerable amount of money.After all it is not their wedding.they are obviously financially embarrased.
Reply:If your friends don't have the funds to but the garments then you should pay for them.
Reply:pay for them if you have the funds. i have been in 3 weddings and each time the bridal party paid for my tuxedo
Reply:Did they say anything about cost before? When accepting the positions? When they said they'd do it, they agreed to pay. If they changed their minds, they should have talked to you. It seems cowardly what they've done. And you're pregnant, you don't need this stress. Does she have an Easter dress she can wear? Maybe they could pay you back for the dress and tux.
Reply:Breathe, catch your breath all is not lost. The two most important people will still be there, you and your groom.
Couple of suggestions: Offer to help your MOH to pay for her dress (you might have to anyways if the bridal shop turns ugly), suggest your BM wear a suit, and pass on the flower girl, especially if you want them. They may have had a serious financial setback. Or promote another couple from your attendant list. If not, have each of you have a parent to step in, they would be honoroed. Or, if you offer to help pay for the dress, you might be able to find a close acquaintance more than willing to step up. Cut your losses and stress.
Contact the bridal shop, the tux should be able to be canceled if you notify them now. The dress could be yours or sell it. As a professional, your wedding coordinator should be able to make some arrangement with the bridal shop to help you. You are better to ask someone who would be honored to be your attendant, than try to fill in the empty space. You might have had your heart set on a perfect wedding, and it will be. You will look radiant, your groom will be dazzled, your family will be with you, and your friends will be happy for you. And at day's end, you will be married and facing many years of happiness. You are in my prayers and in His hands. God Bless!
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Struggling to find pictures of My Wedding Brial Party Idea???
We are having a beach wedding and my birdesmany are wearing pale canary yellow. I want my fiance in white jacket,pants, and under shirt with a tropical flower, the groosmen are going to wear the same as my fiance but with a yellow undershirt as well as my dad. All without ties. This is what I am planning anyways, however I cannot find a picture even remotly close to how this is going to look. The groomsmen and my fiance and I are speard out among three states so I can't really line them up together and get a good idea. Anyone had a beach wedding and really like their bridal party style in their pictures and couls help, or know of any place I could find pics of beach bridal parties??? The colors don't have to be the same, but just the same idea would be nice. Thanks :)
Struggling to find pictures of My Wedding Brial Party Idea???
On the David's Bridal website they have a feature that you can actually create and dress your wedding party. I don't know if you could get it to look exactly right but it would give you an idea!
Good luck!
Reply:well i just tried to search differnt things to find you some pics...bridesmaid in beach wedding, beach theme wedding etc. but nothing came up that was simialr to what you are talking about.
in my oppinion it will look amazing! i have never been to a beach wedding but i think...from what you are saying...it will be beautiful!!!
Good Luck!
Reply:here's a link: http://www.beachsidebride.com/BeachWeddi...
Struggling to find pictures of My Wedding Brial Party Idea???
On the David's Bridal website they have a feature that you can actually create and dress your wedding party. I don't know if you could get it to look exactly right but it would give you an idea!
Good luck!
Reply:well i just tried to search differnt things to find you some pics...bridesmaid in beach wedding, beach theme wedding etc. but nothing came up that was simialr to what you are talking about.
in my oppinion it will look amazing! i have never been to a beach wedding but i think...from what you are saying...it will be beautiful!!!
Good Luck!
Reply:here's a link: http://www.beachsidebride.com/BeachWeddi...
Honorary Bridesmaid?
Is this just for people who cannot attend a wedding? My fiance has 2 sisters. One of them leaves near us, and she is my Matron of Honor. The other sister lives a ways away, but her oldest of 3 is our flower girl. I'm trying not to ask too much of those traveling (esp with kids); however, she is flying in a week early to host the bridal shower with her other sister. It's a late bridal shower, because my mom also won't be in town until then. Should I ask her to be an honorary bridesmaid? And if so, is this listed in the program. I'm thinking it's not, but I don't really know. I know it's too much to ask for her to be in the wedding b/c he has 3 youngins under 4.
Honorary Bridesmaid?
I wouldn't. Honorary bridesmaids is sorta one of those odd terms. It used to mean people who just couldn't be there but has now been stretched out to incorporate every friend whose wedding the bride had been in. I was at one wedding last summer that had 13 honorary bridesmaids.
As she is one of your soon to be sisters, I would talk it over with your MIL. If you explain that you wanted her to be honored and not feel like you favor the other sister over her--but recognize that she is traveling and has kids and that the kids are going to be in the wedding....
Is this the kind of girl who will be offended at being overlooked? Or will she be busy with her own kids and the travel plans that it would not be an honor for her but just added stress? I know I'd ask my MIL. I'm sure she will be able to help.
But yes, if you give her the title of honorary bridesmaid, she should be in the program.
Reply:It may not be too much to ask for her to be in the wedding if you can make arrangements for her children to be cared for during the ceremony. Maybe her husband can watch them, or maybe you can get some other close friends not in the wedding party to keep an eye on them. Not only will you be able to include your future SIL, you will spare her the slight of not being in the wedding party when her sister is, and you will give her a break from Mommy duty during your (and her brother's) special day- which is the biggest blessing of all- for everyone.
And I've never heard of an honorary bridesmaid. That just seems odd. It almost says 'you just barely missed making the cut.'
Reply:If she's helping out with the wedding, and you wish to honor her, then making your soon-to-be sister in law Honorary Bridesmaid would be very nice. Yes, she would be listed in the program in the attendants section wityh the special heading "Honorary Bridesmaid."
Honorary Bridesmaid?
I wouldn't. Honorary bridesmaids is sorta one of those odd terms. It used to mean people who just couldn't be there but has now been stretched out to incorporate every friend whose wedding the bride had been in. I was at one wedding last summer that had 13 honorary bridesmaids.
As she is one of your soon to be sisters, I would talk it over with your MIL. If you explain that you wanted her to be honored and not feel like you favor the other sister over her--but recognize that she is traveling and has kids and that the kids are going to be in the wedding....
Is this the kind of girl who will be offended at being overlooked? Or will she be busy with her own kids and the travel plans that it would not be an honor for her but just added stress? I know I'd ask my MIL. I'm sure she will be able to help.
But yes, if you give her the title of honorary bridesmaid, she should be in the program.
Reply:It may not be too much to ask for her to be in the wedding if you can make arrangements for her children to be cared for during the ceremony. Maybe her husband can watch them, or maybe you can get some other close friends not in the wedding party to keep an eye on them. Not only will you be able to include your future SIL, you will spare her the slight of not being in the wedding party when her sister is, and you will give her a break from Mommy duty during your (and her brother's) special day- which is the biggest blessing of all- for everyone.
And I've never heard of an honorary bridesmaid. That just seems odd. It almost says 'you just barely missed making the cut.'
Reply:If she's helping out with the wedding, and you wish to honor her, then making your soon-to-be sister in law Honorary Bridesmaid would be very nice. Yes, she would be listed in the program in the attendants section wityh the special heading "Honorary Bridesmaid."
What dress do you like / Everyone answer plz?
Wedding Dress:
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Reply:For wedding dress I like #3 (I think colour is nice, but I feel like looking down the line you might have wished to just have worn white), for Bridesmaid I say offer both as some people don't like wearing strapless and if not then #1 cause you will be wearing a strapless dress, and for the flower girl #2. Hope this helps, and I know you and all your girls will look beautiful!
Reply:If i was made to go to david's brial i would pick either the first or the last one. but just a word of advise for you. if you do buy your dress from there be sure to either keep a copy or two of your receipt if you go when they are on sale. When I went to pay for the dress I got it $100 off and when i picked it up they said that it was not on sale and they couldn't find my name, my photo number anything about me in their system so i tried to call corporate and they gave me %26amp; 3 other people the wrong corporate number at the same time! They are not organized or polite. I wouldn't recommend them at all. But to you good luck.
Reply:my sister had #1 as a wedding dress. It is gorgeous in person. But, personally, I love #2 for the wedding dresses. For the bridesmaids, I like #2. Flower girls, #1. You should be the only one wearing white. It is your day.
Remember you need something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue!!
Good Luck!!
Reply:This was hard!! ALL your choices are so nice.
The three bridal gowns are all stunning. I give a slight edge to dress #3.
A slight preference to Bridesmaid dress #1. Everyone and their dog is doing strapless so it's nice to be a bit different.
for the flower girl dress, it depends on the age of the child. As shown in the pictures, the white one is better on a young girl but the pink one would be better on anyone about age 8 and above.
Reply:1, 2, 1
I like the colored wedding dress. I think those are so awesome. Which color are you going for?
Neither flower girl dresses really match well, but the second one is way too much, it doesn't come close to really matching the other dresses.
Reply:Wedding Gown, 1 or 3. I kinda like 1 better I think.
Bridesmaids 2 for sure
Flower Girl 1 - you want her to match the bridesmaids more than the bride.
This is beautiful, and a perfect ensemble for Valentine's Day (or any day, but perfect for that day).
Reply:3, 1, 1
That first bridesmaid dress is great. It seems that so many brides choose strapless for their bridesmaids without realizing that anyone who is small or large on top isn't going to look good in it or feel comfortable. The first one is so elegant though.
Reply:Sorry, but none of them appeal to me at all. I've seen the 1st one 3 times at weddings over the last year...and I'm just not a fan of strapless dresses at all. They smoosh down your boobs and make your arms look fat. The bridesmaid dresses look too plain, too matronly...sorry I'm not much help.
Reply:None of the bridal dresses.
Like the first bridesmaid dress.
For the flower girl you have a decision to make - whether you want her to match the bridesmaids or be the mini bride - or just wear a cute white dress.
Reply:Hi and congratulations:
I love #1 bridal gown; #1 bridesmaid dress and #1 flower girl dress (of course, in the apple color.)
Good luck with your decision!
Reply:Bride: I like 1 the best, and 2 second best
BM: I like the first better
FG: I think it depends on her age, the first dress looks good for a girl older than 6 or 7 and the second dress loos better for under 6.
Reply:if i had to choose a dress i guesws it would be number 3. i am not fond of dresses with the color. bridesmaids would be number 2. one is too boring. dont like any of the flower girls and the first one is for jr bridesmaids.
Reply:Wedding Dress: #3
Bridesmaids: #2
Flower Girl: #2
They're all beautiful, and I feel these choices will compliment each other quite well!
Best of luck!
Reply:#3 wedding dress, or #2. I am on the fence...but a little tired of the color in the dress unless its a sash or the jewelry.
#2 bridemaid dress
#1 flower girl. I can't stand when little girls are dressed like adults.
Reply:I kind of like the first one best, but I've seen it a lot lately. It has a matching flower girl dress, I saw someone on here looking for it.
Of the two flower girl dresses shown, I like the second. Same with the bridesmaid's dress
Reply:If you're want a little color in the wedding dress, then #2, if not, then #3.
Bridesmaid: #1
Flower girl: #2
Reply:Wedding Dress: #2
Bridesmaids: #2
FlowerGirl: #1
Reply:Wedding Dress
# 2 with out the red
Bridesmaid dress
those aren't very intresting designs Sorry
Flower Girl Dress
Sorry i don't like those either :(
I would keep looking but number two was very pretty
Reply:Wedding: number 1
Bridesmaids: Number 1
Flower girl: number 1.
good luck
Reply:Wedding Dress # 3
Bridesmaid Dress # 2
Flower Girl Dress #1
Reply:Wedding dress #3
Bridesmaids #2
Flower girl #2
Reply:3, 2, 1
(Flower girl dress# 2 looks kinda skanky for a little girl.)
Reply:..I'd have to agree with Bree
They're all so trendy, flavor-of-the-weekish...I'm guessing your color is "apple"? The flower girl should have a dash of color as well...
Reply:the last wedding dress
the last bridesmaid dress
the first flower girl dress
Reply:#3, #2 and #2
Reply:I would go with whatever looks good on the bride. Just because a dress looks good on a model doesn't mean anything.
Reply:3, 2, 2
Reply:My vote is for wedding dress #3, bridesmaid dress #2, and flower girl dress #1
Reply:3, 2, 1
Reply:I like 2, 2, and 2. number 2 in all of them. all of them are gorgeous choices!
#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
BRIDEMAIDS:::
#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
FLOWER GIRL DRESSES:::::
#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...
What dress do you like / Everyone answer plz?
3
1
2
Reply:For wedding dress I like #3 (I think colour is nice, but I feel like looking down the line you might have wished to just have worn white), for Bridesmaid I say offer both as some people don't like wearing strapless and if not then #1 cause you will be wearing a strapless dress, and for the flower girl #2. Hope this helps, and I know you and all your girls will look beautiful!
Reply:If i was made to go to david's brial i would pick either the first or the last one. but just a word of advise for you. if you do buy your dress from there be sure to either keep a copy or two of your receipt if you go when they are on sale. When I went to pay for the dress I got it $100 off and when i picked it up they said that it was not on sale and they couldn't find my name, my photo number anything about me in their system so i tried to call corporate and they gave me %26amp; 3 other people the wrong corporate number at the same time! They are not organized or polite. I wouldn't recommend them at all. But to you good luck.
Reply:my sister had #1 as a wedding dress. It is gorgeous in person. But, personally, I love #2 for the wedding dresses. For the bridesmaids, I like #2. Flower girls, #1. You should be the only one wearing white. It is your day.
Remember you need something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue!!
Good Luck!!
Reply:This was hard!! ALL your choices are so nice.
The three bridal gowns are all stunning. I give a slight edge to dress #3.
A slight preference to Bridesmaid dress #1. Everyone and their dog is doing strapless so it's nice to be a bit different.
for the flower girl dress, it depends on the age of the child. As shown in the pictures, the white one is better on a young girl but the pink one would be better on anyone about age 8 and above.
Reply:1, 2, 1
I like the colored wedding dress. I think those are so awesome. Which color are you going for?
Neither flower girl dresses really match well, but the second one is way too much, it doesn't come close to really matching the other dresses.
Reply:Wedding Gown, 1 or 3. I kinda like 1 better I think.
Bridesmaids 2 for sure
Flower Girl 1 - you want her to match the bridesmaids more than the bride.
This is beautiful, and a perfect ensemble for Valentine's Day (or any day, but perfect for that day).
Reply:3, 1, 1
That first bridesmaid dress is great. It seems that so many brides choose strapless for their bridesmaids without realizing that anyone who is small or large on top isn't going to look good in it or feel comfortable. The first one is so elegant though.
Reply:Sorry, but none of them appeal to me at all. I've seen the 1st one 3 times at weddings over the last year...and I'm just not a fan of strapless dresses at all. They smoosh down your boobs and make your arms look fat. The bridesmaid dresses look too plain, too matronly...sorry I'm not much help.
Reply:None of the bridal dresses.
Like the first bridesmaid dress.
For the flower girl you have a decision to make - whether you want her to match the bridesmaids or be the mini bride - or just wear a cute white dress.
Reply:Hi and congratulations:
I love #1 bridal gown; #1 bridesmaid dress and #1 flower girl dress (of course, in the apple color.)
Good luck with your decision!
Reply:Bride: I like 1 the best, and 2 second best
BM: I like the first better
FG: I think it depends on her age, the first dress looks good for a girl older than 6 or 7 and the second dress loos better for under 6.
Reply:if i had to choose a dress i guesws it would be number 3. i am not fond of dresses with the color. bridesmaids would be number 2. one is too boring. dont like any of the flower girls and the first one is for jr bridesmaids.
Reply:Wedding Dress: #3
Bridesmaids: #2
Flower Girl: #2
They're all beautiful, and I feel these choices will compliment each other quite well!
Best of luck!
Reply:#3 wedding dress, or #2. I am on the fence...but a little tired of the color in the dress unless its a sash or the jewelry.
#2 bridemaid dress
#1 flower girl. I can't stand when little girls are dressed like adults.
Reply:I kind of like the first one best, but I've seen it a lot lately. It has a matching flower girl dress, I saw someone on here looking for it.
Of the two flower girl dresses shown, I like the second. Same with the bridesmaid's dress
Reply:If you're want a little color in the wedding dress, then #2, if not, then #3.
Bridesmaid: #1
Flower girl: #2
Reply:Wedding Dress: #2
Bridesmaids: #2
FlowerGirl: #1
Reply:Wedding Dress
# 2 with out the red
Bridesmaid dress
those aren't very intresting designs Sorry
Flower Girl Dress
Sorry i don't like those either :(
I would keep looking but number two was very pretty
Reply:Wedding: number 1
Bridesmaids: Number 1
Flower girl: number 1.
good luck
Reply:Wedding Dress # 3
Bridesmaid Dress # 2
Flower Girl Dress #1
Reply:Wedding dress #3
Bridesmaids #2
Flower girl #2
Reply:3, 2, 1
(Flower girl dress# 2 looks kinda skanky for a little girl.)
Reply:..I'd have to agree with Bree
They're all so trendy, flavor-of-the-weekish...I'm guessing your color is "apple"? The flower girl should have a dash of color as well...
Reply:the last wedding dress
the last bridesmaid dress
the first flower girl dress
Reply:#3, #2 and #2
Reply:I would go with whatever looks good on the bride. Just because a dress looks good on a model doesn't mean anything.
Reply:3, 2, 2
Reply:My vote is for wedding dress #3, bridesmaid dress #2, and flower girl dress #1
Reply:3, 2, 1
Reply:I like 2, 2, and 2. number 2 in all of them. all of them are gorgeous choices!
Im Getting Married What dresses Should I chose PLZ TELL ME Y?
Everyone in the Wedding is size 0
BRIDE:::::
#1, http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
BRIDE MAIDS::::
#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
FLOWER GIRLS:::
#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...
#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...
#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...
Junior ::
#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
#2. http://www.davidsb
Im Getting Married What dresses Should I chose PLZ TELL ME Y?
For bride definatly the second dress since the first thing i thouhgt when i saw it was romantic and beautiful. For bridesmaids the second as it has a nice design that seems to fit well with the wedding dress to, as the first is too plain and the second too much like an evening dress. For the flower girls the first one as it is pretty and again fits the others, whilst the 2nd i dont like and the 3rd looks like a quilt...The junior definatly the first as the other link doesnt work and its also a really nice simple but flattering dress. Good luck for the wedding :)
Reply:Definitely the second wedding gown - and WAY COOL that the second bridesmaid dress is beautiful and a match in style!
None of the flower girl dresses - go for a way simpler and cheaper dress - there are lovely ones at jcpenney.
Reply:Bride: 1 (I actually tried on wedding dress #3 and it wasn't pretty in person)
Bridesmaid: 3
Flowergirl: 3
Reply:I agree. The first option is the best! The other two look too plain to me. I'm not wild about Davids Bridal though it's so not original,every goes there!
As for Bridesmaids, I like the first and third ones best. The second looks too much like a wedding gown- except for the color of course. The maids gowns should be more simple as to not draw attention away from the bride!
Reply:Bride---1st one=very nice
Brides maid----#3 also very nice
Flower girl-------#3 so cute
2nd pick for junior did not work?????
Reply:what style do you like the best? Take it from there
Reply:your questions are starting to bug me.....I think you are just a high school student(possibly jr high)....you cant possibly have an entire bridal party that is a size 0, unless you are friends w/ Kate moss. Judging by your other questions....you're a kid.
Reply:wedding dress #2
bridesmaid dress #2
flower firl dress #1 goes best with the other dresses but #2 is adorable
junior dress #1
all of these dresses have the side sweep thing going on or the little sleeves so they all kind of blend nicely
Reply:Okay, I don't love any of the wedding dresses, but I like the first one the best because of the fab tie in the back. Plus, I like the first choice of cap sleeves.
I like the first bridesmaid dress because it matches the wedding dress, but is simpler and looks like an attendant's dress.
I like the first flowergirl dress, the other two look like Little Miss America dresses.
Congrats!! and good luck!
Reply:you are not getting married 1. no bride would ask all these question in so many different styles. a choice between two close styles yes all of this no 2. you are in high school did you get Governor Ted Strickland address yet? 3. everyone is the same size really?? But you are Young and having fun so have fun i like dress 3 for the bridesmaids
Reply:DRESS ONE FOR THE BRIDE HANDS DOWN!
IF YOU GO WITH DRESS #1 FOR THE BRIDE THIS IS A BETTER MATCH:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
KEEP THE PICK UP SKIRT GOING. OTHERWISE I LIKE #2.
#3 FOR THE FLOWER GIRL, I LOVE THE PICK UP SKIRT.
AND THIS FOR THE JR. BRIDESMAID:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
I WAS AT A WEDDING WHERE ALL THE SKIRTS WERE PICK-UP AND IT WAS REALLY WELL DONE, IT LOOKED SO ELEGANT.
Reply:Bride #1- I really like the lace detail
Brides maid #1-The shape of the dress
Flower girl #3-This one I think is the cutest and easiest to wear for the little darlin
and #1 for Jr. Brides Maid cause it was the only I could view hahaha
Reply:for the bride i like 1 %26amp; 3 both very nice and beautiful
for the bridesmaid i like 1 has a very nice strapless look and has a varitey of colors to choose from
for flower girl 3 very simple yet unique
junior bridesmaid very pretty
Reply:All the one's are good.
Reply:Bride: 1
Brides maids: 2
Flower Girls: 3
Reply:#2 is what I picked so naturally I'm picking that one for you-Bride
#1 Bridesmaids
#1 or 3 for FGirl (#1 is my daughters and she looks so adorable in it, she's the Mini Bride)
#1 JBridesmaids
link#2 doesnt work
Reply:Bridal.. dress ONE. It's more classic. The sleeves on dress 2 you'll be pulling at all night, and dress 3 is gaudy.
Bridesmaid: I think you could do all these dresses in the same color. Let your bridesmaids pick what they're most comfortable in, and feel they look best in. If you like them all... then why not let them have a say!
Flowergirl: Dress 3. It's the most appropriate for a little girl. The one with an open back is a little too sexy. it's something an adult would wear.
Junior: Dress one. the other one won't open
Reply:I love dress one (bride) for a couple reasons. First, it's the one I like myself.:) Good taste. I also like the color option.
I like the strapless BM dress. I like the cut to match what the bride wears.
For the flower girl, I like 1 or 3. Both are very cute:)
I really like the dress for the Jr. BM. very sweet. :)
Reply:I love your taste
Bride #1
Bridemais # 3
Flower girl # 2
Junior bride # 1
Reply:Bride~ choice 3 is gorgeous. Make sure you love it because you are going to remember that day for the rest of your life.
Bridesmaid~ choice 1 is my fav. Everyone is "built" differently so be sure your girls are comfortable showing skin.
Flower girls~ love choice 1. Very sweet looking. I don't like #2 it is too much and #3 is to plain and I don't like the bottom.
Junior Bridesmaid~ Only choice 1 opens so I pick that one.
Good luck and congrats.
Reply:Everyone in the wedding party is size zero? What are you doing, marrying Barbie and Ken?
By the way...wedding attire runs small...your whole wedding party will most likely be 2's or 4's. Sorry to spoil your anorexic wedding, but all your childish questions are damn annoying. I finally caved in and answered this one, even though the one asking for Ted Strickland's address really tickled me pink.
EDIT:::
Kudos to the person above me, who also has read all of this posters questions. Thumbs up from me.
Reply:I only have an opinion on the brides dress. I LOVE number one. I actually really liked it, it's one I tried on, but I just didn't see myself as a "lace" bride. haha! If it's your style and fits the style you want for your wedding, i would definately go with number one! LOVE IT!
Reply:Gown #1... I think it is stunning and classic
BM #2.... I think it will fit all body types and the bms won't be pulling at the top the whole time
FG #3.... it will look good compared to your gown
JBM #1...it goes will with the BM dress
wide children shoes
BRIDE:::::
#1, http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
BRIDE MAIDS::::
#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
FLOWER GIRLS:::
#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...
#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...
#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...
Junior ::
#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
#2. http://www.davidsb
Im Getting Married What dresses Should I chose PLZ TELL ME Y?
For bride definatly the second dress since the first thing i thouhgt when i saw it was romantic and beautiful. For bridesmaids the second as it has a nice design that seems to fit well with the wedding dress to, as the first is too plain and the second too much like an evening dress. For the flower girls the first one as it is pretty and again fits the others, whilst the 2nd i dont like and the 3rd looks like a quilt...The junior definatly the first as the other link doesnt work and its also a really nice simple but flattering dress. Good luck for the wedding :)
Reply:Definitely the second wedding gown - and WAY COOL that the second bridesmaid dress is beautiful and a match in style!
None of the flower girl dresses - go for a way simpler and cheaper dress - there are lovely ones at jcpenney.
Reply:Bride: 1 (I actually tried on wedding dress #3 and it wasn't pretty in person)
Bridesmaid: 3
Flowergirl: 3
Reply:I agree. The first option is the best! The other two look too plain to me. I'm not wild about Davids Bridal though it's so not original,every goes there!
As for Bridesmaids, I like the first and third ones best. The second looks too much like a wedding gown- except for the color of course. The maids gowns should be more simple as to not draw attention away from the bride!
Reply:Bride---1st one=very nice
Brides maid----#3 also very nice
Flower girl-------#3 so cute
2nd pick for junior did not work?????
Reply:what style do you like the best? Take it from there
Reply:your questions are starting to bug me.....I think you are just a high school student(possibly jr high)....you cant possibly have an entire bridal party that is a size 0, unless you are friends w/ Kate moss. Judging by your other questions....you're a kid.
Reply:wedding dress #2
bridesmaid dress #2
flower firl dress #1 goes best with the other dresses but #2 is adorable
junior dress #1
all of these dresses have the side sweep thing going on or the little sleeves so they all kind of blend nicely
Reply:Okay, I don't love any of the wedding dresses, but I like the first one the best because of the fab tie in the back. Plus, I like the first choice of cap sleeves.
I like the first bridesmaid dress because it matches the wedding dress, but is simpler and looks like an attendant's dress.
I like the first flowergirl dress, the other two look like Little Miss America dresses.
Congrats!! and good luck!
Reply:you are not getting married 1. no bride would ask all these question in so many different styles. a choice between two close styles yes all of this no 2. you are in high school did you get Governor Ted Strickland address yet? 3. everyone is the same size really?? But you are Young and having fun so have fun i like dress 3 for the bridesmaids
Reply:DRESS ONE FOR THE BRIDE HANDS DOWN!
IF YOU GO WITH DRESS #1 FOR THE BRIDE THIS IS A BETTER MATCH:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
KEEP THE PICK UP SKIRT GOING. OTHERWISE I LIKE #2.
#3 FOR THE FLOWER GIRL, I LOVE THE PICK UP SKIRT.
AND THIS FOR THE JR. BRIDESMAID:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
I WAS AT A WEDDING WHERE ALL THE SKIRTS WERE PICK-UP AND IT WAS REALLY WELL DONE, IT LOOKED SO ELEGANT.
Reply:Bride #1- I really like the lace detail
Brides maid #1-The shape of the dress
Flower girl #3-This one I think is the cutest and easiest to wear for the little darlin
and #1 for Jr. Brides Maid cause it was the only I could view hahaha
Reply:for the bride i like 1 %26amp; 3 both very nice and beautiful
for the bridesmaid i like 1 has a very nice strapless look and has a varitey of colors to choose from
for flower girl 3 very simple yet unique
junior bridesmaid very pretty
Reply:All the one's are good.
Reply:Bride: 1
Brides maids: 2
Flower Girls: 3
Reply:#2 is what I picked so naturally I'm picking that one for you-Bride
#1 Bridesmaids
#1 or 3 for FGirl (#1 is my daughters and she looks so adorable in it, she's the Mini Bride)
#1 JBridesmaids
link#2 doesnt work
Reply:Bridal.. dress ONE. It's more classic. The sleeves on dress 2 you'll be pulling at all night, and dress 3 is gaudy.
Bridesmaid: I think you could do all these dresses in the same color. Let your bridesmaids pick what they're most comfortable in, and feel they look best in. If you like them all... then why not let them have a say!
Flowergirl: Dress 3. It's the most appropriate for a little girl. The one with an open back is a little too sexy. it's something an adult would wear.
Junior: Dress one. the other one won't open
Reply:I love dress one (bride) for a couple reasons. First, it's the one I like myself.:) Good taste. I also like the color option.
I like the strapless BM dress. I like the cut to match what the bride wears.
For the flower girl, I like 1 or 3. Both are very cute:)
I really like the dress for the Jr. BM. very sweet. :)
Reply:I love your taste
Bride #1
Bridemais # 3
Flower girl # 2
Junior bride # 1
Reply:Bride~ choice 3 is gorgeous. Make sure you love it because you are going to remember that day for the rest of your life.
Bridesmaid~ choice 1 is my fav. Everyone is "built" differently so be sure your girls are comfortable showing skin.
Flower girls~ love choice 1. Very sweet looking. I don't like #2 it is too much and #3 is to plain and I don't like the bottom.
Junior Bridesmaid~ Only choice 1 opens so I pick that one.
Good luck and congrats.
Reply:Everyone in the wedding party is size zero? What are you doing, marrying Barbie and Ken?
By the way...wedding attire runs small...your whole wedding party will most likely be 2's or 4's. Sorry to spoil your anorexic wedding, but all your childish questions are damn annoying. I finally caved in and answered this one, even though the one asking for Ted Strickland's address really tickled me pink.
EDIT:::
Kudos to the person above me, who also has read all of this posters questions. Thumbs up from me.
Reply:I only have an opinion on the brides dress. I LOVE number one. I actually really liked it, it's one I tried on, but I just didn't see myself as a "lace" bride. haha! If it's your style and fits the style you want for your wedding, i would definately go with number one! LOVE IT!
Reply:Gown #1... I think it is stunning and classic
BM #2.... I think it will fit all body types and the bms won't be pulling at the top the whole time
FG #3.... it will look good compared to your gown
JBM #1...it goes will with the BM dress
wide children shoes
Annie's Doll Pattern Collections?
Hi! I have these patterns in the Annie's Attic Collection. My question is, were there any other collections or are these it?
Antebellum Collection
Cotillion Collection
Victorian Centennial Collection
Gibson Girl Collection
Bridal Trousseau Collection
Edwardian Collection
Bridal Belle Collection
Gems of the South Collection
Royal Ballgown Collection
Wedding Ballgown Collection
Bridal Dreams Collection
Royal Court Collection
Millenium Collection
Golden Age of Film Collection
Ribbons and Lace Collection
Belle of the Ball Collection
Fairytale Collection
First Ladies Collection
Flower Garden Collection
Gilded Age Collection
Jane Austen Collection
Old South Collection
Southern Belle Collection
Annie's Doll Pattern Collections?
It looks like you have them all ;))))
Antebellum Collection
Cotillion Collection
Victorian Centennial Collection
Gibson Girl Collection
Bridal Trousseau Collection
Edwardian Collection
Bridal Belle Collection
Gems of the South Collection
Royal Ballgown Collection
Wedding Ballgown Collection
Bridal Dreams Collection
Royal Court Collection
Millenium Collection
Golden Age of Film Collection
Ribbons and Lace Collection
Belle of the Ball Collection
Fairytale Collection
First Ladies Collection
Flower Garden Collection
Gilded Age Collection
Jane Austen Collection
Old South Collection
Southern Belle Collection
Annie's Doll Pattern Collections?
It looks like you have them all ;))))
Bridesmaid upset because husband isn't in wedding party?
Has anyone heard of a bridesmaid or groomsman's spouse being asked to be in the bridal party just because they are married?
My two future sister in laws are 2 of my 5 bridesmaids. (I want a semi-small wedding party, also have a jr bridesmaid and flower girl and same amount of guys). My future sis in laws are upset because their husbands were asked to be Ushers instead of Groomsman. They think that because they are married, their husband should be walking them down the aisle. My fiance is having his bro as his best man, then my bro and his 3 best friends as his groomsman. It's important to us that the bro-in-laws be part of our day, and that is why we asked them to be Ushers, but I guess they are all upset about this. one sister even said she wasn't going to be in our wedding or attend at all if her husband isn't in the bridal party. I feel like this is extremetly rude, as it is me and my fiance's choice who we have in our bridal party. What are others thoughts?
Bridesmaid upset because husband isn't in wedding party?
It is your wedding. Your bridal party should consist of the women of your choosing, the groomsmen guys of your dh's choosing. You choose who you want, people close to you, not the spouses of your bridal party.
If she won't let it go, stick to your wishes, and let her do what she wants. If she is going to be so petty, you don't need her ruining your special day.
I would not cave in -- it's your wedding, and she is way of line in expecting your to make your choices based on what she wants.
Reply:No, spouses are not automatically in the bridal party. These women obviously hasnt been in many weddings, or probably even gone to many weddings. Thats a presumptuous assertion on their part.
Smile sweetly and tell them if they dont want to come to the wedding, that is their choice. Honestly I think they are full of empty threats. Just tell them calmly to decide whether they are going to be bridesmaids or not, so you can get on with the wedding planning.
Reply:They are being out of line. Thats ridiculous.
Honestly, they are lucky even THEY are in your wedding.. they arent your friends.. they are your sisters in laws....
Its absolutely ridiculous for them to think your going to take it one step further and have your fiances sisters husbands in the wedding- no one who was rational would demand this.
Dont let them do this to you or your gonna set yourself up to be bullied by them for the rest of your life
Reply:This is YOUR day. If your sis-in-laws don't want to come to YOUR wedding, tell them to stay home. DO NOT let someone else ruin your day with their childish, not to mention selfish behavior. It is extremely rude of them to do this to you. You could just uninvite them entirely and ask someone else to be in your bridal party. Some people just have to be asshats and ruin the happiness. DO NOT let them do this!!
(humm, whoda thunk asshats isn't a word) :)
Reply:I think if you asked the husband, you'd find he's relieved. He's free to party without responsibility or the need to rent and wear a tux. At least I would be.
Chicks get so bizarre about wedding rituals!!!
Reply:Tell them that they don't have to be in it if they really feel that way
Reply:Who you have as your attendants are your business. The groom should pick those he wants to stand with him. Most brides and grooms choose who they want regardless of whether it is family or not. Lots of bridesmaids are married and their husbands are not groomsmen and vice versa. Your SILs are being selfish, immature and stupid. If they are upset and don't want to be in the wedding then tell them they need to make a choice and let you know immediately so you can replace them. Do not let them bully you into doing what they want. It's not their wedding and not their choice.
Reply:Yes, I have heard of bridesmaids being upset about this, as well as wives of groomsmen....hmmm only the married ladies have this problem.
First, when a person is asked to be in a wedding party only that person is asked, it does not extend to husbands as groomsme or daughters as flower girls etc... asking them is asking THEM.
Second, no one can bully you into having people you don't want in your wedding party. You are not obligated to have your cousin that you barely see over your best friend of 20 years, just because they are blood. You choose whom you want.
Third, some may find me a little old-fashioned but, I believe you should choose your attendants, not your fiance. A little modern thinking though, I believe attendants can be a different sex than the person they are standing with. If the groom wants to have your brother, or you want to have his sis thats perfectly fine, but your maids are your maids, and his men are his men. With this belief you shouldn't need to bother with this question. This should be entirely the grooms call. I don't think he should or even would bump his friends for the inlaws.
Lastly, I am a little confused, you say these are your future sister-in-laws and thier husbands. I'm slightly confused as to the relationship are they the soon to be wives of your brothers or the or the sisters of your soon to be husband. I am assuming the second, so the men inquestion are your fiancees so to be brother inlaws and, I am sorry to be blunt absolutely nothing to you, there isnt even a word to describe your relationship to your husbands brother in-law, or your sister in-laws husband. If they pitch fits, don't use them refer to second point...
Reply:Our plan was for my future Sister-in-laws to be two of my bridesmaids and the one's husband wasn't going to be in the wedding party.
If you %26amp; your fiance are in agreement, stick to your guns. Everyone will get over it. And if someone doesn't attend - it is their loss, not yours. You wouldn't want a sour puss to ruin your day anyway.
Reply:Ack, I cannot believe these women!!
I have a younger brother, and if he ever gets married I would not be whining and trying to pressure him into having my husband as one of his groomsmen! That's ridiculous!!
Sisters can be bossy (especially older sisters!! I know I'm guilty of it once in a while!) but they have no right to boss a brother around in regards to these decisions!!
Reply:If you let them dictate to you on this one thing, on your wedding day, it will never stop.
If they don't want to take part, it is their loss, and frankly you'd be better off without such petulant children at your wedding.
Reply:I think you and your soon to be husband should stand your ground. I think what your doing is totally cool, and your family are being arses!
Reply:Bottom line...it's your day and your wedding. Congrats!
Reply:no it not important...if she still upset tell her she doest have to be part of the wedding she can be a guest life everyone else...so she can be with her husband...
Reply:That's ridiculous. They don't have to be escorted down the aisle by their husband. I have been in weddings that my husband has not been in and he has been in some that I haven't been in. This is stupid. They need to chill.
Have your fiance talk to them and try to smooth things over without giving in. Maybe just tell them that he didn't realize that it would be an issue. Whatever you do make sure that he take the heat for this and not you. They won't stay mad at their brother but they might stay upset with you.
My two future sister in laws are 2 of my 5 bridesmaids. (I want a semi-small wedding party, also have a jr bridesmaid and flower girl and same amount of guys). My future sis in laws are upset because their husbands were asked to be Ushers instead of Groomsman. They think that because they are married, their husband should be walking them down the aisle. My fiance is having his bro as his best man, then my bro and his 3 best friends as his groomsman. It's important to us that the bro-in-laws be part of our day, and that is why we asked them to be Ushers, but I guess they are all upset about this. one sister even said she wasn't going to be in our wedding or attend at all if her husband isn't in the bridal party. I feel like this is extremetly rude, as it is me and my fiance's choice who we have in our bridal party. What are others thoughts?
Bridesmaid upset because husband isn't in wedding party?
It is your wedding. Your bridal party should consist of the women of your choosing, the groomsmen guys of your dh's choosing. You choose who you want, people close to you, not the spouses of your bridal party.
If she won't let it go, stick to your wishes, and let her do what she wants. If she is going to be so petty, you don't need her ruining your special day.
I would not cave in -- it's your wedding, and she is way of line in expecting your to make your choices based on what she wants.
Reply:No, spouses are not automatically in the bridal party. These women obviously hasnt been in many weddings, or probably even gone to many weddings. Thats a presumptuous assertion on their part.
Smile sweetly and tell them if they dont want to come to the wedding, that is their choice. Honestly I think they are full of empty threats. Just tell them calmly to decide whether they are going to be bridesmaids or not, so you can get on with the wedding planning.
Reply:They are being out of line. Thats ridiculous.
Honestly, they are lucky even THEY are in your wedding.. they arent your friends.. they are your sisters in laws....
Its absolutely ridiculous for them to think your going to take it one step further and have your fiances sisters husbands in the wedding- no one who was rational would demand this.
Dont let them do this to you or your gonna set yourself up to be bullied by them for the rest of your life
Reply:This is YOUR day. If your sis-in-laws don't want to come to YOUR wedding, tell them to stay home. DO NOT let someone else ruin your day with their childish, not to mention selfish behavior. It is extremely rude of them to do this to you. You could just uninvite them entirely and ask someone else to be in your bridal party. Some people just have to be asshats and ruin the happiness. DO NOT let them do this!!
(humm, whoda thunk asshats isn't a word) :)
Reply:I think if you asked the husband, you'd find he's relieved. He's free to party without responsibility or the need to rent and wear a tux. At least I would be.
Chicks get so bizarre about wedding rituals!!!
Reply:Tell them that they don't have to be in it if they really feel that way
Reply:Who you have as your attendants are your business. The groom should pick those he wants to stand with him. Most brides and grooms choose who they want regardless of whether it is family or not. Lots of bridesmaids are married and their husbands are not groomsmen and vice versa. Your SILs are being selfish, immature and stupid. If they are upset and don't want to be in the wedding then tell them they need to make a choice and let you know immediately so you can replace them. Do not let them bully you into doing what they want. It's not their wedding and not their choice.
Reply:Yes, I have heard of bridesmaids being upset about this, as well as wives of groomsmen....hmmm only the married ladies have this problem.
First, when a person is asked to be in a wedding party only that person is asked, it does not extend to husbands as groomsme or daughters as flower girls etc... asking them is asking THEM.
Second, no one can bully you into having people you don't want in your wedding party. You are not obligated to have your cousin that you barely see over your best friend of 20 years, just because they are blood. You choose whom you want.
Third, some may find me a little old-fashioned but, I believe you should choose your attendants, not your fiance. A little modern thinking though, I believe attendants can be a different sex than the person they are standing with. If the groom wants to have your brother, or you want to have his sis thats perfectly fine, but your maids are your maids, and his men are his men. With this belief you shouldn't need to bother with this question. This should be entirely the grooms call. I don't think he should or even would bump his friends for the inlaws.
Lastly, I am a little confused, you say these are your future sister-in-laws and thier husbands. I'm slightly confused as to the relationship are they the soon to be wives of your brothers or the or the sisters of your soon to be husband. I am assuming the second, so the men inquestion are your fiancees so to be brother inlaws and, I am sorry to be blunt absolutely nothing to you, there isnt even a word to describe your relationship to your husbands brother in-law, or your sister in-laws husband. If they pitch fits, don't use them refer to second point...
Reply:Our plan was for my future Sister-in-laws to be two of my bridesmaids and the one's husband wasn't going to be in the wedding party.
If you %26amp; your fiance are in agreement, stick to your guns. Everyone will get over it. And if someone doesn't attend - it is their loss, not yours. You wouldn't want a sour puss to ruin your day anyway.
Reply:Ack, I cannot believe these women!!
I have a younger brother, and if he ever gets married I would not be whining and trying to pressure him into having my husband as one of his groomsmen! That's ridiculous!!
Sisters can be bossy (especially older sisters!! I know I'm guilty of it once in a while!) but they have no right to boss a brother around in regards to these decisions!!
Reply:If you let them dictate to you on this one thing, on your wedding day, it will never stop.
If they don't want to take part, it is their loss, and frankly you'd be better off without such petulant children at your wedding.
Reply:I think you and your soon to be husband should stand your ground. I think what your doing is totally cool, and your family are being arses!
Reply:Bottom line...it's your day and your wedding. Congrats!
Reply:no it not important...if she still upset tell her she doest have to be part of the wedding she can be a guest life everyone else...so she can be with her husband...
Reply:That's ridiculous. They don't have to be escorted down the aisle by their husband. I have been in weddings that my husband has not been in and he has been in some that I haven't been in. This is stupid. They need to chill.
Have your fiance talk to them and try to smooth things over without giving in. Maybe just tell them that he didn't realize that it would be an issue. Whatever you do make sure that he take the heat for this and not you. They won't stay mad at their brother but they might stay upset with you.
Dividing up the wedding costs?
What is the typical way the costs for a wedding are divided up? I'm sure they could be divided up in any given way, but what is the general "rule of thumb?"
- Like, the bride %26amp; groom pay for what?
- The bride's family pay for what or contribute how much? The groom's family?
- Does the bridal party pay for their own dresses %26amp; tux rental?
- Who pays for the flower girl's dress?
Etc.
If there is a website (OTHER THAN THEKNOT*) that gives info on this, please let me know.
*I've been using theknot %26amp; having a hard time with it; plus, the layout for their pages makes it very difficult to find things. I'd rather just stay away from it.
Dividing up the wedding costs?
www.ezweddingplanner.com it will tell you who pays for what. But generally the brides family pays for most stuff. The grooms pay for the bridal shower, the brides flowers, his tux, Boutonnieres, Groom's Dinner, Officiant, and rings. The rest is the brides family. Except for the bride and groom together pay for the honeymoon, spending cash, and final wedding photos.
Reply:http://freebies.about.com/gi/dynamic/off...
http://twistedweddingplanner.blogspot.co...
http://www.fatwallet.com/forums/arcmessa...
Reply:Try this
Reply:The bride %26amp; groom should plan a wedding that THEY can afford. If their families choose to help, they should thank them graciously!
Members of the BP typically pay for their own dresses/tux, though it's a nice gesture for the B%26amp;G to pay for it, if possible.
Reply:www.weddingchannel.com
There is a list on this website that breaks down who typically pays for what. Good luck!
Reply:I like weddingchannel.com or there is brides.com. Also with the finances the rules have changed over the years. Now a days the bride and groom pay for the majority of themselves. Traditionally the grooms parents pay for the Honeymoon and the rehearsal dinner and the brides parents pay for the wedding itself. Unless you have hundreds of thousands of dollars to spend on a wedding the bridesmaids can pay for their dresses and shoes themselves but make sure they understand that they are paying for them when they agree to do it same for the groomsmen. My neighbors little girl is my flower girl and they are paying for her dress. I don't know the etiquette with that but that is how I am handling it. I hope this helps. :0)
Reply:In this day and age the general "rule of thumb" is that the bride and groom pay for everything. Any offering of assistance should be accepted gracefully and gratefully.
Reply:There is no rule of thumb. In general, brides and grooms are getting older every year. The average age is nearly 30 now. There are more and more 2nd marriages every year.
The financial situation of everyone is different and weddings are getting more and more expensive every year.
So there really is no rule of thumb. If the brides parents can only afford this much, but the grooms family is huge, the grooms family contributes. The percentage of weddings completely paid for by the couple getting married grows every year. And that doesn't even get into divorced families when the bride's mother and bride's father have completely separate lives and families.
So the rule is budgeting. Everyone sit down and discuss what they want to contribute to the wedding.
http://www.crystal-rose.com/information/...
http://wedding.weddingchannel.com/articl...
Reply:Traditionally, it's the brides side of the family that pays for just about everything... Except the liquer/beer at the reception and the rehearsal dinner...
However, in this day/age and couples getting married later after est. a career or various living arrangements. I find it better to seat both sets of parents down and see what they can and are willing to pay for as far as wedding expenses.. That way it's out in the open and there's no "hard feelings" or "ill feelings" if something doesn't go as planned... good luck
Reply:Great article
http://weddings.about.com/od/getorganize...
- Like, the bride %26amp; groom pay for what?
- The bride's family pay for what or contribute how much? The groom's family?
- Does the bridal party pay for their own dresses %26amp; tux rental?
- Who pays for the flower girl's dress?
Etc.
If there is a website (OTHER THAN THEKNOT*) that gives info on this, please let me know.
*I've been using theknot %26amp; having a hard time with it; plus, the layout for their pages makes it very difficult to find things. I'd rather just stay away from it.
Dividing up the wedding costs?
www.ezweddingplanner.com it will tell you who pays for what. But generally the brides family pays for most stuff. The grooms pay for the bridal shower, the brides flowers, his tux, Boutonnieres, Groom's Dinner, Officiant, and rings. The rest is the brides family. Except for the bride and groom together pay for the honeymoon, spending cash, and final wedding photos.
Reply:http://freebies.about.com/gi/dynamic/off...
http://twistedweddingplanner.blogspot.co...
http://www.fatwallet.com/forums/arcmessa...
Reply:Try this
Reply:The bride %26amp; groom should plan a wedding that THEY can afford. If their families choose to help, they should thank them graciously!
Members of the BP typically pay for their own dresses/tux, though it's a nice gesture for the B%26amp;G to pay for it, if possible.
Reply:www.weddingchannel.com
There is a list on this website that breaks down who typically pays for what. Good luck!
Reply:I like weddingchannel.com or there is brides.com. Also with the finances the rules have changed over the years. Now a days the bride and groom pay for the majority of themselves. Traditionally the grooms parents pay for the Honeymoon and the rehearsal dinner and the brides parents pay for the wedding itself. Unless you have hundreds of thousands of dollars to spend on a wedding the bridesmaids can pay for their dresses and shoes themselves but make sure they understand that they are paying for them when they agree to do it same for the groomsmen. My neighbors little girl is my flower girl and they are paying for her dress. I don't know the etiquette with that but that is how I am handling it. I hope this helps. :0)
Reply:In this day and age the general "rule of thumb" is that the bride and groom pay for everything. Any offering of assistance should be accepted gracefully and gratefully.
Reply:There is no rule of thumb. In general, brides and grooms are getting older every year. The average age is nearly 30 now. There are more and more 2nd marriages every year.
The financial situation of everyone is different and weddings are getting more and more expensive every year.
So there really is no rule of thumb. If the brides parents can only afford this much, but the grooms family is huge, the grooms family contributes. The percentage of weddings completely paid for by the couple getting married grows every year. And that doesn't even get into divorced families when the bride's mother and bride's father have completely separate lives and families.
So the rule is budgeting. Everyone sit down and discuss what they want to contribute to the wedding.
http://www.crystal-rose.com/information/...
http://wedding.weddingchannel.com/articl...
Reply:Traditionally, it's the brides side of the family that pays for just about everything... Except the liquer/beer at the reception and the rehearsal dinner...
However, in this day/age and couples getting married later after est. a career or various living arrangements. I find it better to seat both sets of parents down and see what they can and are willing to pay for as far as wedding expenses.. That way it's out in the open and there's no "hard feelings" or "ill feelings" if something doesn't go as planned... good luck
Reply:Great article
http://weddings.about.com/od/getorganize...
How to snub your MIL?
Hello ladies,
Etiquette is important and when you do not abserve some common courtesies, you may offend some people. One piece of advice ladies: you do not want to piss off your mother in-law.
At this wedding that I attended, the bride had a very large bridal party. She had 7 BM, 5 of the BM and the flower girl was were her sisters, the ring bearer was her brother. One of the groomsmen was his brother. She didn't pay one red cent of the wedding, the groom pay for everything... 42k worth of it and she doesn't work.
At the rehearsal dinner, there were gifts for the wedding party mind you, 85% of the wedding party were his brothers and sisters. She had a handbag, some jewelry set, a personalized tank top, flip flops, an engraved customized compact mirror, potions and lotions ...about $70 dollars a bag for her sisters gifts (groom paid)
The GM gifts were some very nice personalized beer mugs. The groom also pay for her brother's tuxedo rental.
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How to snub your MIL?
That is ridiculous! Our parents were the first ones we thought of when it came to buy gifts. This is one selfish bride but I'm surprised the groom didn't make sure his mother had a gift. She and her fiance have some serious apologizing to make.
Reply:That is funny. I'd be ticked at the bride too. I had flower arrangements sent to both sets of parents to thank them for all of their help. I also sent thank you gifts to my mom and mil after my shower. (none of my bridesmaids lived in the same state as we did and had to fly in for the shower and wedding)
I love these bridal horror stories! My SIL thought it was ok just to leave crappy little thank you cards on the table at the shower and not send out formal thank you's. Boy did that ruffle some family feathers. The formal thank you's were sent out, very late, but they were sent.
Reply:wow, that poor MIL! i could never not get something for my MIL, she's like a second mother to me
Reply:They're a couple. Why is this all on the Bride? Either THEY got something for their parents or they didn't. Parent gifts are traditionally a joint gift from the couple to each set of parents.
The MIL needs not to hold this against the bride. She can tell them as a couple that she was hurt but if she is openly hostile to her son's wife it will not be good for her relationship with her grandchildren some day.
Reply:Please tell us or show us where in the etiquette books it says to present the MIL with a gift at the Rehearsal Dinner if she isn't part of the wedding party? That is something that I have never heard of and neither has anyone I know as well. Nor have I ever seen it done at any of the numerous weddings I have been to over the years. The only people who are to be presented with gifts are the the MOH, BM, FG, RB, GM, and BM that is it.
Did she present her parents with a gift? It doesn't sound like it. The fact that her MIL gave her a gift was her own choice. Did she also give them a wedding present? Or was the scrapbook part of it?
Reply:You don't give your mother or MIL a gift at your rehearsal dinner, they aren't in the wedding party. The MIL needs to get over it.
Reply:Sorry, honey, but no bride has to buy her MIL a gift!! It is certainly traditional for the MIL to gift the bride but not the other way around. This is not a case of "trailer trash" and you sound like a b**chy troublemaker. Keep out of it. If THEIR family "tradition" is to have a gift for the MIL, then someone should have been POLITE AND CARING and informed the bride ahead of time. The groom obviously didn't think it was important so it couldn't be that crucial to anyone but you bunch of catty, gossiping shrews. I really hope you don't keep interfering with this young couple! And remember, they are a COUPLE and planned the wedding together. (And btw, it's none of YOUR business who paid for what! I think I see a green-eyed monster!!)
Reply:LOL- I didn't give my mother in law anything either!!
But at my shower- her and her two daughter went in on a gift for me and it was a box of random crap from target- 1 spoon, cleaning brush, 2 pillows (didn't match), bathroom rug and other random junk from the registry. People were like- OOOOKAYYY..... (Plus the fact early she had tried to make my cousins clean!!! and started to order people around in my friend's house! My one cousin told her to get bent in soo many words) And she was mad I didn't register at a walmart!
At my rehearsal dinner where everyone is nicely dress- she is wearing stretch pants with holes in them slouch socks and sneakers. She got really rude with me and said- I didn't know everyone was dressing up. YEAH- people dress up for funerals too... you want me to call you before that to?
Then during the rehearsal rudely ask WHERE ARE THE DAUGHTERS GOING TO SIT. Like we are going to reserve them a row- the church was only had 10 pews in it!!! LOL
I didn't give her a DAMN thing but she didn't notice! I would in-fact love to snub her in public but she normally making too big of an ars out of herself and I doubt she would ever pick up on it!!
LOL
Good Story!!
Reply:OMG hahahaha. That's so embarassing!
Well, IMO the bride DESERVED what she got. She was self-centered, ungrateful, and downright rude. A little humility now and then ain't so bad!
I think I *might* have snubbed my FMIL unintentionally this weekend.....I asked my FSIL if my future niece (yeah yeah, lots of futures in there lol) would like to hang out with me this weekend and bake cookies....well my FSIL loved the idea so she could go Christmas shopping, but I think I pissed off my FMIL by not inviting her....which I don't think I should have had to since it's not at her house and I am a grown woman and can hang out with my niece if I want to LOL.
In some cases, I think MILs are out "looking" for ways for the DILs to piss them off. But to not get your MIL a gift for footing the bill for everything, that's a little wrong.
But what's weird to me, why were they swapping gifts in front of the guests anyways? Couldn't that be taken as rude?
Reply:I never knew you were to purchase gifts for the MIL ... and usually the bride picks out most of the maids and groom picks out the groomsmen .... did he not want any of his siblings or cousins in the party .... Plus u don't give gifts to get one back u should only give a gift if it is in your heart to give one ... if u give a gift only because people expect it then you are giving the gift for the wrong reason .... and if you are giving a gift and expecting one in return and you don't get one they you got what you deserved .... i'm interested in knowing how you know all of these details... your pov sounds skewed ... you should not be concerned with this especially enough to put it on Yahoo
Reply:Wow that is a bit extreme but I have seen it done. I am amazed on how many people have issues with there future MIL.
I was beginning to think my case was a fluke........My MIL is the sweetest person ever!
How ever, My Soon to Be's (brothers wife) thinks his whole family is against her. Which isn't totally true, but that's a whole other story. She thinks that every one plots behind her back and tries to do things that makes her upset! She wont even let our MIL take the her own grand-kids to MC D's she doesn't think she can handle them mind you she watch the other grandchild all day while the parents work! It is so sad. It made it well known that (our MIL %26amp; FIL) are always doing soemthing wrong or offending to her!
Reply:I didn't know it was "expected" either.
I'm giving my witchy MIL a personalized hanky on her chair before ceremony. If she wants to put on the drama queen act and leave early.....hooray!!!
Reply:your comment 'you can take the girl out of the trailer' is very telling. you are a snooty little lady with an axe to grind.
you obviously don't care for the bride, and have laid everything on her. well sweetie, it is the groom's mother and he didn't think, when he was paying for all these gifts for everyone else, to do something about his mother? personally its the first time i have ever heard of a mil expecting the bride to present her with gifts. i'm thinking this poor little bride has got herself a manipulative m.i.l. to contend with. i wouldn't be surprised if this woman presented a gift to the bride just to look good in front of her friends, and to embarass this poor girl.
but lets get back to you, who are you to them? you sound like a real b-i-tch who is so jealous she can not even think straight.
it almost sounds like you were hoping to marry this fella yourself and you didn't make the grade with him so you are doing your best to trash his wife's reputation.
they love each other, he is happy to pay for the wedding and what the he!! business is it of yours?
i hope she doesn't think of you as a friend, in fact i hope no one considers you to be a friend, because i doubt you have it in you to understand what a good friend is.
you sound like a bitter, miserable little being who isn't happy unless she is making everyone else unhappy. so i would suggest you take your jealous butt out of here and go crawl back in the lair you came out of.
and for those of you who just jump on the bandwagon and blame the bride - you are just as meanspirited as this jealous hag.
Reply:I have never heard of the bride having to give the mother in law a present at the rehearsal dinner.. the rehearsal dinner is for practicing the ceremony and thanking the wedding party (whether these are friends or relatives). did the bride have a gift for her mother and not her fiance's? if not then I do not see what was rude on her part... however, it was rude of her MIL to put her on the spot by giving her such an expensive gift in public.. sounds like the mother in law was trying to show off..
Reply:I had no idea a gift was expected for the MIL at a rehersal dinner. I have never heard that. The MIL is assuming that the bride knew it. The groom should have told her what his mother expected. If he knew??? the MiL is taking this unknown demand to control and snub and humiliate the bride. She does not like her and is clever enough to get an expensive gift to confuse people.
Reply:That is horrible! The worst I've ever seen is someone out in public on their cell phone, yelling and screaming about "your son who you think is so perfect...." She was walking around the store and picked up her items to check out still yelling at her MIL.
I was out in public shopping and I felt awkward about listening in to her. I HATE when people have public arguments. Why do you think that I want to be involved in your personal problems?
After she got off the phone, she noticed the number of people that were in line with her. So she started to explain to us WHY. She stood there explaining that her MIL always thinks her husband is perfect and takes his side. Sometimes she wishes she could just tell her to shove it. As if she could explain to us that it wasn't rude to yell on your cell phone in public and that she had a right to share all her problems with us.
I was thinking I'm sure Christmas in your house is a blast.
But thats the worst I've ever seen.
In your story, did the bride get her parents a gift? B/c that would have been a huge snub. But maybe she didn't KNOW she was expected to give a gift to the parents. Perhaps she thought her fiance had bought them something as they are HIS parents. I'm not sure that bride wasn't highly embarrassed as well.
Many families cutting cost like that decide not to spend extra stuff like that, like the couple getting each other a gift. In a way, if your parents pay for everything--it's kinda weird to spend a bunch of money on a gift for them. It's like they bought a gift for themselves.
It seems like there might be more to the story. I mean as I said she might have been as embarrassed as her MIL was. I hope she makes it up to her. No one wants a war with a new MIL.
Reply:Um I don't think she snubbed her MIL. How was she to know she would receive a tiffany bracelet from her. I think the MIL acted very rudely and childishly. You didn't say the girl did not say thank you, or that she expected those kinds of gifts. We did give our parents something (my husband presented the gifts to his parents and I gave them to mine) but our parents gave us a joint gift - nothing individual. I think that is a bit rare. I don't see why the groom paying for things is of any concern either. Their money is now going to be one big melting pot of finances so who cares.
Now, the main thing that got me is; the point of giving gifts is to give them unconditionally. You give a gift because you want to, not because you expect something in return. That MIL is a piece of work. How dare she act like a spoiled little brat and try to upstage the bride and ruin her son's wedding day. Luckily for the bride she married what sounds like an upstanding and generous man, who thankfully did not take cues from his mother who frankly should at the very least be slapped upside the head a few times to have some sense knocked into her. And you, taking the mother in laws side, what's up with that?
Reply:Why in the world did he pick this gal? Oh, well. Guess he'll be paying PLENTY of alimony in a couple years.
Reply:I'm wondering if the bride is marrying for money... sure sounds that way.
Reply:Actually I think MIL is worse. With all those extravagent gifts to the brother and sister, the bride should have gotten something for MIL too but MIL had no right to make a scene! Wedding planning is very complicated and people just don't think of everything. Ok well in this case maybe the bride doesn't come off so well when she's already freeloading off the groom's rich family. Well it sounds like they deserve each other and it's going to be a real fun time for the new husband.
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Etiquette is important and when you do not abserve some common courtesies, you may offend some people. One piece of advice ladies: you do not want to piss off your mother in-law.
At this wedding that I attended, the bride had a very large bridal party. She had 7 BM, 5 of the BM and the flower girl was were her sisters, the ring bearer was her brother. One of the groomsmen was his brother. She didn't pay one red cent of the wedding, the groom pay for everything... 42k worth of it and she doesn't work.
At the rehearsal dinner, there were gifts for the wedding party mind you, 85% of the wedding party were his brothers and sisters. She had a handbag, some jewelry set, a personalized tank top, flip flops, an engraved customized compact mirror, potions and lotions ...about $70 dollars a bag for her sisters gifts (groom paid)
The GM gifts were some very nice personalized beer mugs. The groom also pay for her brother's tuxedo rental.
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How to snub your MIL?
That is ridiculous! Our parents were the first ones we thought of when it came to buy gifts. This is one selfish bride but I'm surprised the groom didn't make sure his mother had a gift. She and her fiance have some serious apologizing to make.
Reply:That is funny. I'd be ticked at the bride too. I had flower arrangements sent to both sets of parents to thank them for all of their help. I also sent thank you gifts to my mom and mil after my shower. (none of my bridesmaids lived in the same state as we did and had to fly in for the shower and wedding)
I love these bridal horror stories! My SIL thought it was ok just to leave crappy little thank you cards on the table at the shower and not send out formal thank you's. Boy did that ruffle some family feathers. The formal thank you's were sent out, very late, but they were sent.
Reply:wow, that poor MIL! i could never not get something for my MIL, she's like a second mother to me
Reply:They're a couple. Why is this all on the Bride? Either THEY got something for their parents or they didn't. Parent gifts are traditionally a joint gift from the couple to each set of parents.
The MIL needs not to hold this against the bride. She can tell them as a couple that she was hurt but if she is openly hostile to her son's wife it will not be good for her relationship with her grandchildren some day.
Reply:Please tell us or show us where in the etiquette books it says to present the MIL with a gift at the Rehearsal Dinner if she isn't part of the wedding party? That is something that I have never heard of and neither has anyone I know as well. Nor have I ever seen it done at any of the numerous weddings I have been to over the years. The only people who are to be presented with gifts are the the MOH, BM, FG, RB, GM, and BM that is it.
Did she present her parents with a gift? It doesn't sound like it. The fact that her MIL gave her a gift was her own choice. Did she also give them a wedding present? Or was the scrapbook part of it?
Reply:You don't give your mother or MIL a gift at your rehearsal dinner, they aren't in the wedding party. The MIL needs to get over it.
Reply:Sorry, honey, but no bride has to buy her MIL a gift!! It is certainly traditional for the MIL to gift the bride but not the other way around. This is not a case of "trailer trash" and you sound like a b**chy troublemaker. Keep out of it. If THEIR family "tradition" is to have a gift for the MIL, then someone should have been POLITE AND CARING and informed the bride ahead of time. The groom obviously didn't think it was important so it couldn't be that crucial to anyone but you bunch of catty, gossiping shrews. I really hope you don't keep interfering with this young couple! And remember, they are a COUPLE and planned the wedding together. (And btw, it's none of YOUR business who paid for what! I think I see a green-eyed monster!!)
Reply:LOL- I didn't give my mother in law anything either!!
But at my shower- her and her two daughter went in on a gift for me and it was a box of random crap from target- 1 spoon, cleaning brush, 2 pillows (didn't match), bathroom rug and other random junk from the registry. People were like- OOOOKAYYY..... (Plus the fact early she had tried to make my cousins clean!!! and started to order people around in my friend's house! My one cousin told her to get bent in soo many words) And she was mad I didn't register at a walmart!
At my rehearsal dinner where everyone is nicely dress- she is wearing stretch pants with holes in them slouch socks and sneakers. She got really rude with me and said- I didn't know everyone was dressing up. YEAH- people dress up for funerals too... you want me to call you before that to?
Then during the rehearsal rudely ask WHERE ARE THE DAUGHTERS GOING TO SIT. Like we are going to reserve them a row- the church was only had 10 pews in it!!! LOL
I didn't give her a DAMN thing but she didn't notice! I would in-fact love to snub her in public but she normally making too big of an ars out of herself and I doubt she would ever pick up on it!!
LOL
Good Story!!
Reply:OMG hahahaha. That's so embarassing!
Well, IMO the bride DESERVED what she got. She was self-centered, ungrateful, and downright rude. A little humility now and then ain't so bad!
I think I *might* have snubbed my FMIL unintentionally this weekend.....I asked my FSIL if my future niece (yeah yeah, lots of futures in there lol) would like to hang out with me this weekend and bake cookies....well my FSIL loved the idea so she could go Christmas shopping, but I think I pissed off my FMIL by not inviting her....which I don't think I should have had to since it's not at her house and I am a grown woman and can hang out with my niece if I want to LOL.
In some cases, I think MILs are out "looking" for ways for the DILs to piss them off. But to not get your MIL a gift for footing the bill for everything, that's a little wrong.
But what's weird to me, why were they swapping gifts in front of the guests anyways? Couldn't that be taken as rude?
Reply:I never knew you were to purchase gifts for the MIL ... and usually the bride picks out most of the maids and groom picks out the groomsmen .... did he not want any of his siblings or cousins in the party .... Plus u don't give gifts to get one back u should only give a gift if it is in your heart to give one ... if u give a gift only because people expect it then you are giving the gift for the wrong reason .... and if you are giving a gift and expecting one in return and you don't get one they you got what you deserved .... i'm interested in knowing how you know all of these details... your pov sounds skewed ... you should not be concerned with this especially enough to put it on Yahoo
Reply:Wow that is a bit extreme but I have seen it done. I am amazed on how many people have issues with there future MIL.
I was beginning to think my case was a fluke........My MIL is the sweetest person ever!
How ever, My Soon to Be's (brothers wife) thinks his whole family is against her. Which isn't totally true, but that's a whole other story. She thinks that every one plots behind her back and tries to do things that makes her upset! She wont even let our MIL take the her own grand-kids to MC D's she doesn't think she can handle them mind you she watch the other grandchild all day while the parents work! It is so sad. It made it well known that (our MIL %26amp; FIL) are always doing soemthing wrong or offending to her!
Reply:I didn't know it was "expected" either.
I'm giving my witchy MIL a personalized hanky on her chair before ceremony. If she wants to put on the drama queen act and leave early.....hooray!!!
Reply:your comment 'you can take the girl out of the trailer' is very telling. you are a snooty little lady with an axe to grind.
you obviously don't care for the bride, and have laid everything on her. well sweetie, it is the groom's mother and he didn't think, when he was paying for all these gifts for everyone else, to do something about his mother? personally its the first time i have ever heard of a mil expecting the bride to present her with gifts. i'm thinking this poor little bride has got herself a manipulative m.i.l. to contend with. i wouldn't be surprised if this woman presented a gift to the bride just to look good in front of her friends, and to embarass this poor girl.
but lets get back to you, who are you to them? you sound like a real b-i-tch who is so jealous she can not even think straight.
it almost sounds like you were hoping to marry this fella yourself and you didn't make the grade with him so you are doing your best to trash his wife's reputation.
they love each other, he is happy to pay for the wedding and what the he!! business is it of yours?
i hope she doesn't think of you as a friend, in fact i hope no one considers you to be a friend, because i doubt you have it in you to understand what a good friend is.
you sound like a bitter, miserable little being who isn't happy unless she is making everyone else unhappy. so i would suggest you take your jealous butt out of here and go crawl back in the lair you came out of.
and for those of you who just jump on the bandwagon and blame the bride - you are just as meanspirited as this jealous hag.
Reply:I have never heard of the bride having to give the mother in law a present at the rehearsal dinner.. the rehearsal dinner is for practicing the ceremony and thanking the wedding party (whether these are friends or relatives). did the bride have a gift for her mother and not her fiance's? if not then I do not see what was rude on her part... however, it was rude of her MIL to put her on the spot by giving her such an expensive gift in public.. sounds like the mother in law was trying to show off..
Reply:I had no idea a gift was expected for the MIL at a rehersal dinner. I have never heard that. The MIL is assuming that the bride knew it. The groom should have told her what his mother expected. If he knew??? the MiL is taking this unknown demand to control and snub and humiliate the bride. She does not like her and is clever enough to get an expensive gift to confuse people.
Reply:That is horrible! The worst I've ever seen is someone out in public on their cell phone, yelling and screaming about "your son who you think is so perfect...." She was walking around the store and picked up her items to check out still yelling at her MIL.
I was out in public shopping and I felt awkward about listening in to her. I HATE when people have public arguments. Why do you think that I want to be involved in your personal problems?
After she got off the phone, she noticed the number of people that were in line with her. So she started to explain to us WHY. She stood there explaining that her MIL always thinks her husband is perfect and takes his side. Sometimes she wishes she could just tell her to shove it. As if she could explain to us that it wasn't rude to yell on your cell phone in public and that she had a right to share all her problems with us.
I was thinking I'm sure Christmas in your house is a blast.
But thats the worst I've ever seen.
In your story, did the bride get her parents a gift? B/c that would have been a huge snub. But maybe she didn't KNOW she was expected to give a gift to the parents. Perhaps she thought her fiance had bought them something as they are HIS parents. I'm not sure that bride wasn't highly embarrassed as well.
Many families cutting cost like that decide not to spend extra stuff like that, like the couple getting each other a gift. In a way, if your parents pay for everything--it's kinda weird to spend a bunch of money on a gift for them. It's like they bought a gift for themselves.
It seems like there might be more to the story. I mean as I said she might have been as embarrassed as her MIL was. I hope she makes it up to her. No one wants a war with a new MIL.
Reply:Um I don't think she snubbed her MIL. How was she to know she would receive a tiffany bracelet from her. I think the MIL acted very rudely and childishly. You didn't say the girl did not say thank you, or that she expected those kinds of gifts. We did give our parents something (my husband presented the gifts to his parents and I gave them to mine) but our parents gave us a joint gift - nothing individual. I think that is a bit rare. I don't see why the groom paying for things is of any concern either. Their money is now going to be one big melting pot of finances so who cares.
Now, the main thing that got me is; the point of giving gifts is to give them unconditionally. You give a gift because you want to, not because you expect something in return. That MIL is a piece of work. How dare she act like a spoiled little brat and try to upstage the bride and ruin her son's wedding day. Luckily for the bride she married what sounds like an upstanding and generous man, who thankfully did not take cues from his mother who frankly should at the very least be slapped upside the head a few times to have some sense knocked into her. And you, taking the mother in laws side, what's up with that?
Reply:Why in the world did he pick this gal? Oh, well. Guess he'll be paying PLENTY of alimony in a couple years.
Reply:I'm wondering if the bride is marrying for money... sure sounds that way.
Reply:Actually I think MIL is worse. With all those extravagent gifts to the brother and sister, the bride should have gotten something for MIL too but MIL had no right to make a scene! Wedding planning is very complicated and people just don't think of everything. Ok well in this case maybe the bride doesn't come off so well when she's already freeloading off the groom's rich family. Well it sounds like they deserve each other and it's going to be a real fun time for the new husband.
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Do I have to go??
My fiance sister is getting married on sept 22 and I threw her a nice bridal shower and gave her some china etc. However she is having a rehearsal dinner the night before in Boston, MA. Would it be rude for me not to attend because thats another night i would have to pay 199.00 for a hotel room and her soon to be MIL is so frustrateing she's not even going to be my MIL and I want to kill her! She tried to run the shower I threw and has told the bride to return things she bought for the wedding like flower girl baskets because the ones she bought were better! She is hosting the dinner! I live in CT and really don't want to go! Do i just tell me SIL how i feel or do i just suck it up smile and go??
Do I have to go??
Your daughter is in the wedding party. She's going to have to rehearse. Will you be able to take her to the rehearsal and then back to CT...and then back to Boston? Are you going to wind up paying nearly as much in gas and food on the road as you would paying for the room? Is there anywhere else you could stay that would cost less? Could your fiance take her and you follow the next day?
It would be a shame for your daughter to miss the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. After all, the dinner is where the wedding party are usually given their gifts for taking part in the wedding. Besides, as I said before, she does need to rehearse so she knows what's expected of her on the day.
Of course, I'm making the assmption that your daughter is quite young and is probably a flower girl. If that's the case, someone needs to get her there. If I'm wrong and she's old enough to get herself back and forth, then it wouldn't be nearly as necessary for you to go with her.
I know it's frustrating, but sometimes it's important to show someone support in the face of irritating relatives. If you can find a way to do this for your fiance's sister - who is going to be part of your family - then I think you ought to. She's going to need all the help she can get with a mother in law like that. If you can afford the room, then please give your sister-to-be a little help.
Reply:Yes.....you need to go. This is your future family and since your daughter is already part of it, it's most important to her. In addition, she is in the wedding and should be there for the rehearsal.
Also, is the wedding in Boston? If it is, you'll save yourself the trouble of getting up early and driving from Connecticut to Boston on the day of the wedding. I'm familiar w/ these areas and that can be quite a drive. It may actually be money well spent to stay in a hotel.
You do need to go though. If $119 is too much, consider finding a hotel that cheaper. For the night of the rehearsal, stay in a hotel just outside of Boston. The prices might be cheaper. Usually you can find a nice (and clean) Holiday Inn or Ramada for $75 a night. Then the next morning check out and move to the hotel that is closer to the wedding (within Boston)
I really think you should go. This has nothing to do with your being in the bridal party. 1) This is finance's sister....you should go for him 2) This is your daughter's aunt's wedding (and family) see should be there if invited. 3) She is in the wedding, she should be at the rehearsal. 4) As a couple w/ a child together and planning on marrying these are the type of family events you are obligated to attend.
Reply:You don't have to go since you are not in the wedding.
If you feel the need to explain, just tell the bride that the extra $200 is going to be too much for your family to afford. Be prepared for her to come up with a "solution" to the money problem though...she may offer to pay for the night, she may find a room for you to share or another place for you to stay the night for free. Then what will you do?
Good luck with that one! I've got some "monsters in law" too (not my MIL but SIL and aunts in law)
Reply:I wonder what the problem is
the money you would have to pay or the MIL,
if it is that you cannot afford to attend that dinner, tell your SIL and don't go, if it is that MonsterIL, go she is not worth it to have so much anger about it, if that girl is important to you you should really try to be superior, I know the feeling my MIL is a manipulative B... too, so hang in howver don't tell the bride before about your feelings she should not worry about something like that on HER day ;)
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Reply:If you really don't want to go just tell her you can't attend don't get into detail for it may cause her stress.
Reply:Can you share a room with your parents, or stay with your parents? Can you share a room with another bridesmaid. Stay with friends, get a cheaper hotel?
Talk to your parents or another close family member about this. Last straw- talk to your sister about it . She is going to be stressed out, so just explain the situation tactfully. She does not want her wedding to be a financial burden for you, and she will understand.
As for the future Mom in law- count your blessings that she will not be yours! Put up with her for a couple more days and if she gets rude, tell her (tactfully again) to stop. The best way I can explain it is Irish diplomacy- tell her to go to hell, but have look forward to the trip!
This is what I did for a friend's wedding, and her mom in law talks to me all the time at family functions. She drove me nuts though during the wedding and the showers.
Good luck!
Reply:You don't have to go...just tell your sister the extra $200 is alot. She should understand. I doubt critisizing her future MIL would be helpful...she probably already knows she's a pain.
Reply:If you are in the bridal party or a wedding attendant you should go. I know how you feel though. My future MIL is a MonsterIL. She drives me crazy. She does the very opposite of everything I say I want for my wedding in 3 days and she tells people that I'm horrible if I stand up to her. If you aren't in the bridal party or a wedding attendant then you don't have to go. That's really who the rehearsals are for. Just tell her you are saving money for the wedding and you can't afford right now to make another trip. She will understand I'm sure.
Reply:If your daughter is in the wedding party, then you should go. She'll need to attend the rehearsal at the very least. You could always go to the rehearsal and then say your daughter needs to get some rest and go to bed early, and then you can skip out on the dinner if you want to. But your daughter should be attending the rehearsal.
Reply:If you aren't a member of the wedding party, no, you do not have to attend the rehearsal dinner. Nor do you need to give any reasons for not attending. A simple "I'm not available" or "I have other plans for that evening" should suffice.
Reply:I wouldn't see it as a problem that you don't attend the rehearsal dinner. You said yourself you're not in the wedding and paying over $200 for one night can really break the bank...at least for me. If you want to go and can share a room maybe with your daughter or another family member and feel comfortable doing so, that may be a way to avoid paying for the extra night, or at least full price for it if you end up splitting it. But I wouldn't be upset if this were my wedding!
Do I have to go??
Your daughter is in the wedding party. She's going to have to rehearse. Will you be able to take her to the rehearsal and then back to CT...and then back to Boston? Are you going to wind up paying nearly as much in gas and food on the road as you would paying for the room? Is there anywhere else you could stay that would cost less? Could your fiance take her and you follow the next day?
It would be a shame for your daughter to miss the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. After all, the dinner is where the wedding party are usually given their gifts for taking part in the wedding. Besides, as I said before, she does need to rehearse so she knows what's expected of her on the day.
Of course, I'm making the assmption that your daughter is quite young and is probably a flower girl. If that's the case, someone needs to get her there. If I'm wrong and she's old enough to get herself back and forth, then it wouldn't be nearly as necessary for you to go with her.
I know it's frustrating, but sometimes it's important to show someone support in the face of irritating relatives. If you can find a way to do this for your fiance's sister - who is going to be part of your family - then I think you ought to. She's going to need all the help she can get with a mother in law like that. If you can afford the room, then please give your sister-to-be a little help.
Reply:Yes.....you need to go. This is your future family and since your daughter is already part of it, it's most important to her. In addition, she is in the wedding and should be there for the rehearsal.
Also, is the wedding in Boston? If it is, you'll save yourself the trouble of getting up early and driving from Connecticut to Boston on the day of the wedding. I'm familiar w/ these areas and that can be quite a drive. It may actually be money well spent to stay in a hotel.
You do need to go though. If $119 is too much, consider finding a hotel that cheaper. For the night of the rehearsal, stay in a hotel just outside of Boston. The prices might be cheaper. Usually you can find a nice (and clean) Holiday Inn or Ramada for $75 a night. Then the next morning check out and move to the hotel that is closer to the wedding (within Boston)
I really think you should go. This has nothing to do with your being in the bridal party. 1) This is finance's sister....you should go for him 2) This is your daughter's aunt's wedding (and family) see should be there if invited. 3) She is in the wedding, she should be at the rehearsal. 4) As a couple w/ a child together and planning on marrying these are the type of family events you are obligated to attend.
Reply:You don't have to go since you are not in the wedding.
If you feel the need to explain, just tell the bride that the extra $200 is going to be too much for your family to afford. Be prepared for her to come up with a "solution" to the money problem though...she may offer to pay for the night, she may find a room for you to share or another place for you to stay the night for free. Then what will you do?
Good luck with that one! I've got some "monsters in law" too (not my MIL but SIL and aunts in law)
Reply:I wonder what the problem is
the money you would have to pay or the MIL,
if it is that you cannot afford to attend that dinner, tell your SIL and don't go, if it is that MonsterIL, go she is not worth it to have so much anger about it, if that girl is important to you you should really try to be superior, I know the feeling my MIL is a manipulative B... too, so hang in howver don't tell the bride before about your feelings she should not worry about something like that on HER day ;)
greets
Anne
Reply:If you really don't want to go just tell her you can't attend don't get into detail for it may cause her stress.
Reply:Can you share a room with your parents, or stay with your parents? Can you share a room with another bridesmaid. Stay with friends, get a cheaper hotel?
Talk to your parents or another close family member about this. Last straw- talk to your sister about it . She is going to be stressed out, so just explain the situation tactfully. She does not want her wedding to be a financial burden for you, and she will understand.
As for the future Mom in law- count your blessings that she will not be yours! Put up with her for a couple more days and if she gets rude, tell her (tactfully again) to stop. The best way I can explain it is Irish diplomacy- tell her to go to hell, but have look forward to the trip!
This is what I did for a friend's wedding, and her mom in law talks to me all the time at family functions. She drove me nuts though during the wedding and the showers.
Good luck!
Reply:You don't have to go...just tell your sister the extra $200 is alot. She should understand. I doubt critisizing her future MIL would be helpful...she probably already knows she's a pain.
Reply:If you are in the bridal party or a wedding attendant you should go. I know how you feel though. My future MIL is a MonsterIL. She drives me crazy. She does the very opposite of everything I say I want for my wedding in 3 days and she tells people that I'm horrible if I stand up to her. If you aren't in the bridal party or a wedding attendant then you don't have to go. That's really who the rehearsals are for. Just tell her you are saving money for the wedding and you can't afford right now to make another trip. She will understand I'm sure.
Reply:If your daughter is in the wedding party, then you should go. She'll need to attend the rehearsal at the very least. You could always go to the rehearsal and then say your daughter needs to get some rest and go to bed early, and then you can skip out on the dinner if you want to. But your daughter should be attending the rehearsal.
Reply:If you aren't a member of the wedding party, no, you do not have to attend the rehearsal dinner. Nor do you need to give any reasons for not attending. A simple "I'm not available" or "I have other plans for that evening" should suffice.
Reply:I wouldn't see it as a problem that you don't attend the rehearsal dinner. You said yourself you're not in the wedding and paying over $200 for one night can really break the bank...at least for me. If you want to go and can share a room maybe with your daughter or another family member and feel comfortable doing so, that may be a way to avoid paying for the extra night, or at least full price for it if you end up splitting it. But I wouldn't be upset if this were my wedding!
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