My fiance's mom is a bitc h... what can I do????

she gets into our business... treats us like we are 5 years old... doesnt get along with my mom...IRRITATING the shi* out of me... attention and drama queen... I swear she does things just in spite of me...The other day I went to a bridal show with my mother and she insisted that she went with her sister-in-law... the whole time she was whispering things and making both my mother and I very uncomfortable. I love my fiance more than life, but what can I possibly do. 70% of our fights revolve around this lady. And the worst part about it is that my fiance wont do anything about it because "its his mom".



Another issue is that she is contributing to our wedding a decent amount (flowers, dj, rehearsal dinner) and i dont want to piss her off... The wedding is not for another year, and I do not want her butting into my business, and taking over my wedding!!!!! HELP

My fiance's mom is a bitc h... what can I do????
she's going to be your mother-in-law, and if you're doing the marriage right, that's a lifetime relationship. now's the time to start learning how to be in that relationship with her, not finding things to hate about her. no matter how annoying she's being, you need to be the bigger person. go out to lunch with her or something and find some common ground. she's going to be in your life for a long time, and you want to make it as positive as possible. start with positivity now.
Reply:Sorry I'm a little confused. You say she is contributing a decent amount to the wedding but you don't want her butting into your business. Do you just want her money?



Maybe she wants to be included in things, and should be. Maybe you and your mom should make her feel more welcome. How much is your mom involved? She is a mom too. I'm not implying she should be involved as much as your mom, but it would be nice to do some things with her.



I just wanted to give you a different view, no disrespect intended.
Reply:Take the risk of pissing her off. This is your wedding! (Hopefully) you only get one! Your fiance needs to understand that soon it'll be you and him against the world and he needs to find the respect for you to tell her what she is doing that is bothering you. Be nice but be firm. Let her know what will and will not be tolerated.
Reply:thats a good question

ur in a bad jam hun

shes gonna be a problem for u for the rest of ur life

ur gonna have to deal with it

a trick is...to move to another city so that you see her like after months so u wouldnt have to deal with her everyday.
Reply:me being a mother in law I can give you first hand knowledge. she may not be crazy about you either. whether you want to piss her off has nothing to do with the whole picture. your fiance needs to step up to the plate with a quickness. I hope and pray you all are in marriage counseling before this wedding takes place because it does not get better after marriage it just gets worse. there needs to be a group sit down with all parties involved and just air your differences along with the counseling. congratulations and good luck.
Reply:Well, i can understand you are marrying a mama's boy and his mother is just jealous that you are taking over the control of her son.

But the thing is, you should act asap. She's testing you.

Show her that you've got enough guts to marry her son.

Don't let her take over any conversation or be in focus.

Make her the minnow.
Reply:sounds like your going to have some trouble.
Reply:look i don't think you should do anything because it might piss your fiance off,its sound to me that they have a really good relationship.shes going to side with her mom ,just like you would.she probably just want everything to go right. weddings are very stressfull.