Honorary Bridesmaid?

Is this just for people who cannot attend a wedding? My fiance has 2 sisters. One of them leaves near us, and she is my Matron of Honor. The other sister lives a ways away, but her oldest of 3 is our flower girl. I'm trying not to ask too much of those traveling (esp with kids); however, she is flying in a week early to host the bridal shower with her other sister. It's a late bridal shower, because my mom also won't be in town until then. Should I ask her to be an honorary bridesmaid? And if so, is this listed in the program. I'm thinking it's not, but I don't really know. I know it's too much to ask for her to be in the wedding b/c he has 3 youngins under 4.

Honorary Bridesmaid?
I wouldn't. Honorary bridesmaids is sorta one of those odd terms. It used to mean people who just couldn't be there but has now been stretched out to incorporate every friend whose wedding the bride had been in. I was at one wedding last summer that had 13 honorary bridesmaids.



As she is one of your soon to be sisters, I would talk it over with your MIL. If you explain that you wanted her to be honored and not feel like you favor the other sister over her--but recognize that she is traveling and has kids and that the kids are going to be in the wedding....



Is this the kind of girl who will be offended at being overlooked? Or will she be busy with her own kids and the travel plans that it would not be an honor for her but just added stress? I know I'd ask my MIL. I'm sure she will be able to help.



But yes, if you give her the title of honorary bridesmaid, she should be in the program.
Reply:It may not be too much to ask for her to be in the wedding if you can make arrangements for her children to be cared for during the ceremony. Maybe her husband can watch them, or maybe you can get some other close friends not in the wedding party to keep an eye on them. Not only will you be able to include your future SIL, you will spare her the slight of not being in the wedding party when her sister is, and you will give her a break from Mommy duty during your (and her brother's) special day- which is the biggest blessing of all- for everyone.



And I've never heard of an honorary bridesmaid. That just seems odd. It almost says 'you just barely missed making the cut.'
Reply:If she's helping out with the wedding, and you wish to honor her, then making your soon-to-be sister in law Honorary Bridesmaid would be very nice. Yes, she would be listed in the program in the attendants section wityh the special heading "Honorary Bridesmaid."

What dress do you like / Everyone answer plz?

Wedding Dress:

#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...



#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...





#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...





BRIDEMAIDS:::



#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...





#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...







FLOWER GIRL DRESSES:::::





#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...





#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...

What dress do you like / Everyone answer plz?
3

1

2
Reply:For wedding dress I like #3 (I think colour is nice, but I feel like looking down the line you might have wished to just have worn white), for Bridesmaid I say offer both as some people don't like wearing strapless and if not then #1 cause you will be wearing a strapless dress, and for the flower girl #2. Hope this helps, and I know you and all your girls will look beautiful!
Reply:If i was made to go to david's brial i would pick either the first or the last one. but just a word of advise for you. if you do buy your dress from there be sure to either keep a copy or two of your receipt if you go when they are on sale. When I went to pay for the dress I got it $100 off and when i picked it up they said that it was not on sale and they couldn't find my name, my photo number anything about me in their system so i tried to call corporate and they gave me %26amp; 3 other people the wrong corporate number at the same time! They are not organized or polite. I wouldn't recommend them at all. But to you good luck.
Reply:my sister had #1 as a wedding dress. It is gorgeous in person. But, personally, I love #2 for the wedding dresses. For the bridesmaids, I like #2. Flower girls, #1. You should be the only one wearing white. It is your day.



Remember you need something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue!!



Good Luck!!
Reply:This was hard!! ALL your choices are so nice.



The three bridal gowns are all stunning. I give a slight edge to dress #3.



A slight preference to Bridesmaid dress #1. Everyone and their dog is doing strapless so it's nice to be a bit different.



for the flower girl dress, it depends on the age of the child. As shown in the pictures, the white one is better on a young girl but the pink one would be better on anyone about age 8 and above.
Reply:1, 2, 1



I like the colored wedding dress. I think those are so awesome. Which color are you going for?



Neither flower girl dresses really match well, but the second one is way too much, it doesn't come close to really matching the other dresses.
Reply:Wedding Gown, 1 or 3. I kinda like 1 better I think.

Bridesmaids 2 for sure

Flower Girl 1 - you want her to match the bridesmaids more than the bride.



This is beautiful, and a perfect ensemble for Valentine's Day (or any day, but perfect for that day).
Reply:3, 1, 1



That first bridesmaid dress is great. It seems that so many brides choose strapless for their bridesmaids without realizing that anyone who is small or large on top isn't going to look good in it or feel comfortable. The first one is so elegant though.
Reply:Sorry, but none of them appeal to me at all. I've seen the 1st one 3 times at weddings over the last year...and I'm just not a fan of strapless dresses at all. They smoosh down your boobs and make your arms look fat. The bridesmaid dresses look too plain, too matronly...sorry I'm not much help.
Reply:None of the bridal dresses.

Like the first bridesmaid dress.

For the flower girl you have a decision to make - whether you want her to match the bridesmaids or be the mini bride - or just wear a cute white dress.
Reply:Hi and congratulations:



I love #1 bridal gown; #1 bridesmaid dress and #1 flower girl dress (of course, in the apple color.)



Good luck with your decision!
Reply:Bride: I like 1 the best, and 2 second best

BM: I like the first better

FG: I think it depends on her age, the first dress looks good for a girl older than 6 or 7 and the second dress loos better for under 6.
Reply:if i had to choose a dress i guesws it would be number 3. i am not fond of dresses with the color. bridesmaids would be number 2. one is too boring. dont like any of the flower girls and the first one is for jr bridesmaids.
Reply:Wedding Dress: #3

Bridesmaids: #2

Flower Girl: #2



They're all beautiful, and I feel these choices will compliment each other quite well!

Best of luck!
Reply:#3 wedding dress, or #2. I am on the fence...but a little tired of the color in the dress unless its a sash or the jewelry.

#2 bridemaid dress

#1 flower girl. I can't stand when little girls are dressed like adults.
Reply:I kind of like the first one best, but I've seen it a lot lately. It has a matching flower girl dress, I saw someone on here looking for it.

Of the two flower girl dresses shown, I like the second. Same with the bridesmaid's dress
Reply:If you're want a little color in the wedding dress, then #2, if not, then #3.



Bridesmaid: #1



Flower girl: #2
Reply:Wedding Dress: #2



Bridesmaids: #2



FlowerGirl: #1
Reply:Wedding Dress

# 2 with out the red

Bridesmaid dress

those aren't very intresting designs Sorry

Flower Girl Dress

Sorry i don't like those either :(

I would keep looking but number two was very pretty
Reply:Wedding: number 1

Bridesmaids: Number 1

Flower girl: number 1.



good luck
Reply:Wedding Dress # 3

Bridesmaid Dress # 2

Flower Girl Dress #1
Reply:Wedding dress #3

Bridesmaids #2

Flower girl #2
Reply:3, 2, 1



(Flower girl dress# 2 looks kinda skanky for a little girl.)
Reply:..I'd have to agree with Bree

They're all so trendy, flavor-of-the-weekish...I'm guessing your color is "apple"? The flower girl should have a dash of color as well...
Reply:the last wedding dress

the last bridesmaid dress

the first flower girl dress
Reply:#3, #2 and #2
Reply:I would go with whatever looks good on the bride. Just because a dress looks good on a model doesn't mean anything.
Reply:3, 2, 2
Reply:My vote is for wedding dress #3, bridesmaid dress #2, and flower girl dress #1
Reply:3, 2, 1
Reply:I like 2, 2, and 2. number 2 in all of them. all of them are gorgeous choices!

Im Getting Married What dresses Should I chose PLZ TELL ME Y?

Everyone in the Wedding is size 0



BRIDE:::::



#1, http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...





#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...



#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...







BRIDE MAIDS::::



#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...





#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...







#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...





FLOWER GIRLS:::



#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...







#2. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...





#3. http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d...



Junior ::

#1. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...

#2. http://www.davidsb

Im Getting Married What dresses Should I chose PLZ TELL ME Y?
For bride definatly the second dress since the first thing i thouhgt when i saw it was romantic and beautiful. For bridesmaids the second as it has a nice design that seems to fit well with the wedding dress to, as the first is too plain and the second too much like an evening dress. For the flower girls the first one as it is pretty and again fits the others, whilst the 2nd i dont like and the 3rd looks like a quilt...The junior definatly the first as the other link doesnt work and its also a really nice simple but flattering dress. Good luck for the wedding :)
Reply:Definitely the second wedding gown - and WAY COOL that the second bridesmaid dress is beautiful and a match in style!

None of the flower girl dresses - go for a way simpler and cheaper dress - there are lovely ones at jcpenney.
Reply:Bride: 1 (I actually tried on wedding dress #3 and it wasn't pretty in person)



Bridesmaid: 3



Flowergirl: 3
Reply:I agree. The first option is the best! The other two look too plain to me. I'm not wild about Davids Bridal though it's so not original,every goes there!



As for Bridesmaids, I like the first and third ones best. The second looks too much like a wedding gown- except for the color of course. The maids gowns should be more simple as to not draw attention away from the bride!
Reply:Bride---1st one=very nice



Brides maid----#3 also very nice



Flower girl-------#3 so cute



2nd pick for junior did not work?????
Reply:what style do you like the best? Take it from there
Reply:your questions are starting to bug me.....I think you are just a high school student(possibly jr high)....you cant possibly have an entire bridal party that is a size 0, unless you are friends w/ Kate moss. Judging by your other questions....you're a kid.
Reply:wedding dress #2

bridesmaid dress #2

flower firl dress #1 goes best with the other dresses but #2 is adorable

junior dress #1



all of these dresses have the side sweep thing going on or the little sleeves so they all kind of blend nicely
Reply:Okay, I don't love any of the wedding dresses, but I like the first one the best because of the fab tie in the back. Plus, I like the first choice of cap sleeves.



I like the first bridesmaid dress because it matches the wedding dress, but is simpler and looks like an attendant's dress.



I like the first flowergirl dress, the other two look like Little Miss America dresses.



Congrats!! and good luck!
Reply:you are not getting married 1. no bride would ask all these question in so many different styles. a choice between two close styles yes all of this no 2. you are in high school did you get Governor Ted Strickland address yet? 3. everyone is the same size really?? But you are Young and having fun so have fun i like dress 3 for the bridesmaids
Reply:DRESS ONE FOR THE BRIDE HANDS DOWN!



IF YOU GO WITH DRESS #1 FOR THE BRIDE THIS IS A BETTER MATCH:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...

KEEP THE PICK UP SKIRT GOING. OTHERWISE I LIKE #2.



#3 FOR THE FLOWER GIRL, I LOVE THE PICK UP SKIRT.



AND THIS FOR THE JR. BRIDESMAID:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...



I WAS AT A WEDDING WHERE ALL THE SKIRTS WERE PICK-UP AND IT WAS REALLY WELL DONE, IT LOOKED SO ELEGANT.
Reply:Bride #1- I really like the lace detail

Brides maid #1-The shape of the dress

Flower girl #3-This one I think is the cutest and easiest to wear for the little darlin

and #1 for Jr. Brides Maid cause it was the only I could view hahaha
Reply:for the bride i like 1 %26amp; 3 both very nice and beautiful

for the bridesmaid i like 1 has a very nice strapless look and has a varitey of colors to choose from

for flower girl 3 very simple yet unique

junior bridesmaid very pretty
Reply:All the one's are good.
Reply:Bride: 1

Brides maids: 2

Flower Girls: 3
Reply:#2 is what I picked so naturally I'm picking that one for you-Bride

#1 Bridesmaids

#1 or 3 for FGirl (#1 is my daughters and she looks so adorable in it, she's the Mini Bride)

#1 JBridesmaids

link#2 doesnt work
Reply:Bridal.. dress ONE. It's more classic. The sleeves on dress 2 you'll be pulling at all night, and dress 3 is gaudy.



Bridesmaid: I think you could do all these dresses in the same color. Let your bridesmaids pick what they're most comfortable in, and feel they look best in. If you like them all... then why not let them have a say!



Flowergirl: Dress 3. It's the most appropriate for a little girl. The one with an open back is a little too sexy. it's something an adult would wear.



Junior: Dress one. the other one won't open
Reply:I love dress one (bride) for a couple reasons. First, it's the one I like myself.:) Good taste. I also like the color option.

I like the strapless BM dress. I like the cut to match what the bride wears.

For the flower girl, I like 1 or 3. Both are very cute:)



I really like the dress for the Jr. BM. very sweet. :)
Reply:I love your taste



Bride #1

Bridemais # 3

Flower girl # 2

Junior bride # 1
Reply:Bride~ choice 3 is gorgeous. Make sure you love it because you are going to remember that day for the rest of your life.



Bridesmaid~ choice 1 is my fav. Everyone is "built" differently so be sure your girls are comfortable showing skin.



Flower girls~ love choice 1. Very sweet looking. I don't like #2 it is too much and #3 is to plain and I don't like the bottom.



Junior Bridesmaid~ Only choice 1 opens so I pick that one.



Good luck and congrats.
Reply:Everyone in the wedding party is size zero? What are you doing, marrying Barbie and Ken?



By the way...wedding attire runs small...your whole wedding party will most likely be 2's or 4's. Sorry to spoil your anorexic wedding, but all your childish questions are damn annoying. I finally caved in and answered this one, even though the one asking for Ted Strickland's address really tickled me pink.



EDIT:::

Kudos to the person above me, who also has read all of this posters questions. Thumbs up from me.
Reply:I only have an opinion on the brides dress. I LOVE number one. I actually really liked it, it's one I tried on, but I just didn't see myself as a "lace" bride. haha! If it's your style and fits the style you want for your wedding, i would definately go with number one! LOVE IT!
Reply:Gown #1... I think it is stunning and classic

BM #2.... I think it will fit all body types and the bms won't be pulling at the top the whole time

FG #3.... it will look good compared to your gown

JBM #1...it goes will with the BM dress

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Annie's Doll Pattern Collections?

Hi! I have these patterns in the Annie's Attic Collection. My question is, were there any other collections or are these it?

Antebellum Collection

Cotillion Collection

Victorian Centennial Collection

Gibson Girl Collection

Bridal Trousseau Collection

Edwardian Collection

Bridal Belle Collection

Gems of the South Collection

Royal Ballgown Collection

Wedding Ballgown Collection

Bridal Dreams Collection

Royal Court Collection

Millenium Collection

Golden Age of Film Collection

Ribbons and Lace Collection

Belle of the Ball Collection

Fairytale Collection

First Ladies Collection

Flower Garden Collection

Gilded Age Collection

Jane Austen Collection

Old South Collection

Southern Belle Collection

Annie's Doll Pattern Collections?
It looks like you have them all ;))))

Bridesmaid upset because husband isn't in wedding party?

Has anyone heard of a bridesmaid or groomsman's spouse being asked to be in the bridal party just because they are married?

My two future sister in laws are 2 of my 5 bridesmaids. (I want a semi-small wedding party, also have a jr bridesmaid and flower girl and same amount of guys). My future sis in laws are upset because their husbands were asked to be Ushers instead of Groomsman. They think that because they are married, their husband should be walking them down the aisle. My fiance is having his bro as his best man, then my bro and his 3 best friends as his groomsman. It's important to us that the bro-in-laws be part of our day, and that is why we asked them to be Ushers, but I guess they are all upset about this. one sister even said she wasn't going to be in our wedding or attend at all if her husband isn't in the bridal party. I feel like this is extremetly rude, as it is me and my fiance's choice who we have in our bridal party. What are others thoughts?

Bridesmaid upset because husband isn't in wedding party?
It is your wedding. Your bridal party should consist of the women of your choosing, the groomsmen guys of your dh's choosing. You choose who you want, people close to you, not the spouses of your bridal party.



If she won't let it go, stick to your wishes, and let her do what she wants. If she is going to be so petty, you don't need her ruining your special day.



I would not cave in -- it's your wedding, and she is way of line in expecting your to make your choices based on what she wants.
Reply:No, spouses are not automatically in the bridal party. These women obviously hasnt been in many weddings, or probably even gone to many weddings. Thats a presumptuous assertion on their part.

Smile sweetly and tell them if they dont want to come to the wedding, that is their choice. Honestly I think they are full of empty threats. Just tell them calmly to decide whether they are going to be bridesmaids or not, so you can get on with the wedding planning.
Reply:They are being out of line. Thats ridiculous.



Honestly, they are lucky even THEY are in your wedding.. they arent your friends.. they are your sisters in laws....



Its absolutely ridiculous for them to think your going to take it one step further and have your fiances sisters husbands in the wedding- no one who was rational would demand this.



Dont let them do this to you or your gonna set yourself up to be bullied by them for the rest of your life
Reply:This is YOUR day. If your sis-in-laws don't want to come to YOUR wedding, tell them to stay home. DO NOT let someone else ruin your day with their childish, not to mention selfish behavior. It is extremely rude of them to do this to you. You could just uninvite them entirely and ask someone else to be in your bridal party. Some people just have to be asshats and ruin the happiness. DO NOT let them do this!!

(humm, whoda thunk asshats isn't a word) :)
Reply:I think if you asked the husband, you'd find he's relieved. He's free to party without responsibility or the need to rent and wear a tux. At least I would be.



Chicks get so bizarre about wedding rituals!!!
Reply:Tell them that they don't have to be in it if they really feel that way
Reply:Who you have as your attendants are your business. The groom should pick those he wants to stand with him. Most brides and grooms choose who they want regardless of whether it is family or not. Lots of bridesmaids are married and their husbands are not groomsmen and vice versa. Your SILs are being selfish, immature and stupid. If they are upset and don't want to be in the wedding then tell them they need to make a choice and let you know immediately so you can replace them. Do not let them bully you into doing what they want. It's not their wedding and not their choice.
Reply:Yes, I have heard of bridesmaids being upset about this, as well as wives of groomsmen....hmmm only the married ladies have this problem.



First, when a person is asked to be in a wedding party only that person is asked, it does not extend to husbands as groomsme or daughters as flower girls etc... asking them is asking THEM.

Second, no one can bully you into having people you don't want in your wedding party. You are not obligated to have your cousin that you barely see over your best friend of 20 years, just because they are blood. You choose whom you want.

Third, some may find me a little old-fashioned but, I believe you should choose your attendants, not your fiance. A little modern thinking though, I believe attendants can be a different sex than the person they are standing with. If the groom wants to have your brother, or you want to have his sis thats perfectly fine, but your maids are your maids, and his men are his men. With this belief you shouldn't need to bother with this question. This should be entirely the grooms call. I don't think he should or even would bump his friends for the inlaws.



Lastly, I am a little confused, you say these are your future sister-in-laws and thier husbands. I'm slightly confused as to the relationship are they the soon to be wives of your brothers or the or the sisters of your soon to be husband. I am assuming the second, so the men inquestion are your fiancees so to be brother inlaws and, I am sorry to be blunt absolutely nothing to you, there isnt even a word to describe your relationship to your husbands brother in-law, or your sister in-laws husband. If they pitch fits, don't use them refer to second point...
Reply:Our plan was for my future Sister-in-laws to be two of my bridesmaids and the one's husband wasn't going to be in the wedding party.

If you %26amp; your fiance are in agreement, stick to your guns. Everyone will get over it. And if someone doesn't attend - it is their loss, not yours. You wouldn't want a sour puss to ruin your day anyway.
Reply:Ack, I cannot believe these women!!



I have a younger brother, and if he ever gets married I would not be whining and trying to pressure him into having my husband as one of his groomsmen! That's ridiculous!!



Sisters can be bossy (especially older sisters!! I know I'm guilty of it once in a while!) but they have no right to boss a brother around in regards to these decisions!!
Reply:If you let them dictate to you on this one thing, on your wedding day, it will never stop.



If they don't want to take part, it is their loss, and frankly you'd be better off without such petulant children at your wedding.
Reply:I think you and your soon to be husband should stand your ground. I think what your doing is totally cool, and your family are being arses!
Reply:Bottom line...it's your day and your wedding. Congrats!
Reply:no it not important...if she still upset tell her she doest have to be part of the wedding she can be a guest life everyone else...so she can be with her husband...
Reply:That's ridiculous. They don't have to be escorted down the aisle by their husband. I have been in weddings that my husband has not been in and he has been in some that I haven't been in. This is stupid. They need to chill.



Have your fiance talk to them and try to smooth things over without giving in. Maybe just tell them that he didn't realize that it would be an issue. Whatever you do make sure that he take the heat for this and not you. They won't stay mad at their brother but they might stay upset with you.

Dividing up the wedding costs?

What is the typical way the costs for a wedding are divided up? I'm sure they could be divided up in any given way, but what is the general "rule of thumb?"



- Like, the bride %26amp; groom pay for what?

- The bride's family pay for what or contribute how much? The groom's family?

- Does the bridal party pay for their own dresses %26amp; tux rental?

- Who pays for the flower girl's dress?



Etc.



If there is a website (OTHER THAN THEKNOT*) that gives info on this, please let me know.



*I've been using theknot %26amp; having a hard time with it; plus, the layout for their pages makes it very difficult to find things. I'd rather just stay away from it.

Dividing up the wedding costs?
www.ezweddingplanner.com it will tell you who pays for what. But generally the brides family pays for most stuff. The grooms pay for the bridal shower, the brides flowers, his tux, Boutonnieres, Groom's Dinner, Officiant, and rings. The rest is the brides family. Except for the bride and groom together pay for the honeymoon, spending cash, and final wedding photos.
Reply:http://freebies.about.com/gi/dynamic/off...



http://twistedweddingplanner.blogspot.co...



http://www.fatwallet.com/forums/arcmessa...
Reply:Try this
Reply:The bride %26amp; groom should plan a wedding that THEY can afford. If their families choose to help, they should thank them graciously!



Members of the BP typically pay for their own dresses/tux, though it's a nice gesture for the B%26amp;G to pay for it, if possible.
Reply:www.weddingchannel.com



There is a list on this website that breaks down who typically pays for what. Good luck!
Reply:I like weddingchannel.com or there is brides.com. Also with the finances the rules have changed over the years. Now a days the bride and groom pay for the majority of themselves. Traditionally the grooms parents pay for the Honeymoon and the rehearsal dinner and the brides parents pay for the wedding itself. Unless you have hundreds of thousands of dollars to spend on a wedding the bridesmaids can pay for their dresses and shoes themselves but make sure they understand that they are paying for them when they agree to do it same for the groomsmen. My neighbors little girl is my flower girl and they are paying for her dress. I don't know the etiquette with that but that is how I am handling it. I hope this helps. :0)
Reply:In this day and age the general "rule of thumb" is that the bride and groom pay for everything. Any offering of assistance should be accepted gracefully and gratefully.
Reply:There is no rule of thumb. In general, brides and grooms are getting older every year. The average age is nearly 30 now. There are more and more 2nd marriages every year.



The financial situation of everyone is different and weddings are getting more and more expensive every year.



So there really is no rule of thumb. If the brides parents can only afford this much, but the grooms family is huge, the grooms family contributes. The percentage of weddings completely paid for by the couple getting married grows every year. And that doesn't even get into divorced families when the bride's mother and bride's father have completely separate lives and families.



So the rule is budgeting. Everyone sit down and discuss what they want to contribute to the wedding.



http://www.crystal-rose.com/information/...

http://wedding.weddingchannel.com/articl...
Reply:Traditionally, it's the brides side of the family that pays for just about everything... Except the liquer/beer at the reception and the rehearsal dinner...



However, in this day/age and couples getting married later after est. a career or various living arrangements. I find it better to seat both sets of parents down and see what they can and are willing to pay for as far as wedding expenses.. That way it's out in the open and there's no "hard feelings" or "ill feelings" if something doesn't go as planned... good luck
Reply:Great article



http://weddings.about.com/od/getorganize...

How to snub your MIL?

Hello ladies,





Etiquette is important and when you do not abserve some common courtesies, you may offend some people. One piece of advice ladies: you do not want to piss off your mother in-law.





At this wedding that I attended, the bride had a very large bridal party. She had 7 BM, 5 of the BM and the flower girl was were her sisters, the ring bearer was her brother. One of the groomsmen was his brother. She didn't pay one red cent of the wedding, the groom pay for everything... 42k worth of it and she doesn't work.





At the rehearsal dinner, there were gifts for the wedding party mind you, 85% of the wedding party were his brothers and sisters. She had a handbag, some jewelry set, a personalized tank top, flip flops, an engraved customized compact mirror, potions and lotions ...about $70 dollars a bag for her sisters gifts (groom paid)





The GM gifts were some very nice personalized beer mugs. The groom also pay for her brother's tuxedo rental.





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How to snub your MIL?
That is ridiculous! Our parents were the first ones we thought of when it came to buy gifts. This is one selfish bride but I'm surprised the groom didn't make sure his mother had a gift. She and her fiance have some serious apologizing to make.
Reply:That is funny. I'd be ticked at the bride too. I had flower arrangements sent to both sets of parents to thank them for all of their help. I also sent thank you gifts to my mom and mil after my shower. (none of my bridesmaids lived in the same state as we did and had to fly in for the shower and wedding)





I love these bridal horror stories! My SIL thought it was ok just to leave crappy little thank you cards on the table at the shower and not send out formal thank you's. Boy did that ruffle some family feathers. The formal thank you's were sent out, very late, but they were sent.
Reply:wow, that poor MIL! i could never not get something for my MIL, she's like a second mother to me
Reply:They're a couple. Why is this all on the Bride? Either THEY got something for their parents or they didn't. Parent gifts are traditionally a joint gift from the couple to each set of parents.





The MIL needs not to hold this against the bride. She can tell them as a couple that she was hurt but if she is openly hostile to her son's wife it will not be good for her relationship with her grandchildren some day.
Reply:Please tell us or show us where in the etiquette books it says to present the MIL with a gift at the Rehearsal Dinner if she isn't part of the wedding party? That is something that I have never heard of and neither has anyone I know as well. Nor have I ever seen it done at any of the numerous weddings I have been to over the years. The only people who are to be presented with gifts are the the MOH, BM, FG, RB, GM, and BM that is it.





Did she present her parents with a gift? It doesn't sound like it. The fact that her MIL gave her a gift was her own choice. Did she also give them a wedding present? Or was the scrapbook part of it?
Reply:You don't give your mother or MIL a gift at your rehearsal dinner, they aren't in the wedding party. The MIL needs to get over it.
Reply:Sorry, honey, but no bride has to buy her MIL a gift!! It is certainly traditional for the MIL to gift the bride but not the other way around. This is not a case of "trailer trash" and you sound like a b**chy troublemaker. Keep out of it. If THEIR family "tradition" is to have a gift for the MIL, then someone should have been POLITE AND CARING and informed the bride ahead of time. The groom obviously didn't think it was important so it couldn't be that crucial to anyone but you bunch of catty, gossiping shrews. I really hope you don't keep interfering with this young couple! And remember, they are a COUPLE and planned the wedding together. (And btw, it's none of YOUR business who paid for what! I think I see a green-eyed monster!!)
Reply:LOL- I didn't give my mother in law anything either!!





But at my shower- her and her two daughter went in on a gift for me and it was a box of random crap from target- 1 spoon, cleaning brush, 2 pillows (didn't match), bathroom rug and other random junk from the registry. People were like- OOOOKAYYY..... (Plus the fact early she had tried to make my cousins clean!!! and started to order people around in my friend's house! My one cousin told her to get bent in soo many words) And she was mad I didn't register at a walmart!





At my rehearsal dinner where everyone is nicely dress- she is wearing stretch pants with holes in them slouch socks and sneakers. She got really rude with me and said- I didn't know everyone was dressing up. YEAH- people dress up for funerals too... you want me to call you before that to?


Then during the rehearsal rudely ask WHERE ARE THE DAUGHTERS GOING TO SIT. Like we are going to reserve them a row- the church was only had 10 pews in it!!! LOL





I didn't give her a DAMN thing but she didn't notice! I would in-fact love to snub her in public but she normally making too big of an ars out of herself and I doubt she would ever pick up on it!!


LOL


Good Story!!
Reply:OMG hahahaha. That's so embarassing!





Well, IMO the bride DESERVED what she got. She was self-centered, ungrateful, and downright rude. A little humility now and then ain't so bad!





I think I *might* have snubbed my FMIL unintentionally this weekend.....I asked my FSIL if my future niece (yeah yeah, lots of futures in there lol) would like to hang out with me this weekend and bake cookies....well my FSIL loved the idea so she could go Christmas shopping, but I think I pissed off my FMIL by not inviting her....which I don't think I should have had to since it's not at her house and I am a grown woman and can hang out with my niece if I want to LOL.





In some cases, I think MILs are out "looking" for ways for the DILs to piss them off. But to not get your MIL a gift for footing the bill for everything, that's a little wrong.





But what's weird to me, why were they swapping gifts in front of the guests anyways? Couldn't that be taken as rude?
Reply:I never knew you were to purchase gifts for the MIL ... and usually the bride picks out most of the maids and groom picks out the groomsmen .... did he not want any of his siblings or cousins in the party .... Plus u don't give gifts to get one back u should only give a gift if it is in your heart to give one ... if u give a gift only because people expect it then you are giving the gift for the wrong reason .... and if you are giving a gift and expecting one in return and you don't get one they you got what you deserved .... i'm interested in knowing how you know all of these details... your pov sounds skewed ... you should not be concerned with this especially enough to put it on Yahoo
Reply:Wow that is a bit extreme but I have seen it done. I am amazed on how many people have issues with there future MIL.





I was beginning to think my case was a fluke........My MIL is the sweetest person ever!





How ever, My Soon to Be's (brothers wife) thinks his whole family is against her. Which isn't totally true, but that's a whole other story. She thinks that every one plots behind her back and tries to do things that makes her upset! She wont even let our MIL take the her own grand-kids to MC D's she doesn't think she can handle them mind you she watch the other grandchild all day while the parents work! It is so sad. It made it well known that (our MIL %26amp; FIL) are always doing soemthing wrong or offending to her!
Reply:I didn't know it was "expected" either.





I'm giving my witchy MIL a personalized hanky on her chair before ceremony. If she wants to put on the drama queen act and leave early.....hooray!!!
Reply:your comment 'you can take the girl out of the trailer' is very telling. you are a snooty little lady with an axe to grind.


you obviously don't care for the bride, and have laid everything on her. well sweetie, it is the groom's mother and he didn't think, when he was paying for all these gifts for everyone else, to do something about his mother? personally its the first time i have ever heard of a mil expecting the bride to present her with gifts. i'm thinking this poor little bride has got herself a manipulative m.i.l. to contend with. i wouldn't be surprised if this woman presented a gift to the bride just to look good in front of her friends, and to embarass this poor girl.


but lets get back to you, who are you to them? you sound like a real b-i-tch who is so jealous she can not even think straight.


it almost sounds like you were hoping to marry this fella yourself and you didn't make the grade with him so you are doing your best to trash his wife's reputation.


they love each other, he is happy to pay for the wedding and what the he!! business is it of yours?


i hope she doesn't think of you as a friend, in fact i hope no one considers you to be a friend, because i doubt you have it in you to understand what a good friend is.


you sound like a bitter, miserable little being who isn't happy unless she is making everyone else unhappy. so i would suggest you take your jealous butt out of here and go crawl back in the lair you came out of.


and for those of you who just jump on the bandwagon and blame the bride - you are just as meanspirited as this jealous hag.
Reply:I have never heard of the bride having to give the mother in law a present at the rehearsal dinner.. the rehearsal dinner is for practicing the ceremony and thanking the wedding party (whether these are friends or relatives). did the bride have a gift for her mother and not her fiance's? if not then I do not see what was rude on her part... however, it was rude of her MIL to put her on the spot by giving her such an expensive gift in public.. sounds like the mother in law was trying to show off..
Reply:I had no idea a gift was expected for the MIL at a rehersal dinner. I have never heard that. The MIL is assuming that the bride knew it. The groom should have told her what his mother expected. If he knew??? the MiL is taking this unknown demand to control and snub and humiliate the bride. She does not like her and is clever enough to get an expensive gift to confuse people.
Reply:That is horrible! The worst I've ever seen is someone out in public on their cell phone, yelling and screaming about "your son who you think is so perfect...." She was walking around the store and picked up her items to check out still yelling at her MIL.





I was out in public shopping and I felt awkward about listening in to her. I HATE when people have public arguments. Why do you think that I want to be involved in your personal problems?





After she got off the phone, she noticed the number of people that were in line with her. So she started to explain to us WHY. She stood there explaining that her MIL always thinks her husband is perfect and takes his side. Sometimes she wishes she could just tell her to shove it. As if she could explain to us that it wasn't rude to yell on your cell phone in public and that she had a right to share all her problems with us.





I was thinking I'm sure Christmas in your house is a blast.





But thats the worst I've ever seen.





In your story, did the bride get her parents a gift? B/c that would have been a huge snub. But maybe she didn't KNOW she was expected to give a gift to the parents. Perhaps she thought her fiance had bought them something as they are HIS parents. I'm not sure that bride wasn't highly embarrassed as well.





Many families cutting cost like that decide not to spend extra stuff like that, like the couple getting each other a gift. In a way, if your parents pay for everything--it's kinda weird to spend a bunch of money on a gift for them. It's like they bought a gift for themselves.





It seems like there might be more to the story. I mean as I said she might have been as embarrassed as her MIL was. I hope she makes it up to her. No one wants a war with a new MIL.
Reply:Um I don't think she snubbed her MIL. How was she to know she would receive a tiffany bracelet from her. I think the MIL acted very rudely and childishly. You didn't say the girl did not say thank you, or that she expected those kinds of gifts. We did give our parents something (my husband presented the gifts to his parents and I gave them to mine) but our parents gave us a joint gift - nothing individual. I think that is a bit rare. I don't see why the groom paying for things is of any concern either. Their money is now going to be one big melting pot of finances so who cares.





Now, the main thing that got me is; the point of giving gifts is to give them unconditionally. You give a gift because you want to, not because you expect something in return. That MIL is a piece of work. How dare she act like a spoiled little brat and try to upstage the bride and ruin her son's wedding day. Luckily for the bride she married what sounds like an upstanding and generous man, who thankfully did not take cues from his mother who frankly should at the very least be slapped upside the head a few times to have some sense knocked into her. And you, taking the mother in laws side, what's up with that?
Reply:Why in the world did he pick this gal? Oh, well. Guess he'll be paying PLENTY of alimony in a couple years.
Reply:I'm wondering if the bride is marrying for money... sure sounds that way.
Reply:Actually I think MIL is worse. With all those extravagent gifts to the brother and sister, the bride should have gotten something for MIL too but MIL had no right to make a scene! Wedding planning is very complicated and people just don't think of everything. Ok well in this case maybe the bride doesn't come off so well when she's already freeloading off the groom's rich family. Well it sounds like they deserve each other and it's going to be a real fun time for the new husband.

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